Have you ever caught a friend in a lie?

@fec139 (803)
United States
March 27, 2008 6:35pm CST
I have a chronic terminal disease. Many of my friends from before feel uncomfortable coming to see me. They often make plans and then cancel. And they come up with the flimsiest excuses. Often I catch them in their lies. For example, one friend told me she was sick in bed all day, but then a mutual friend of ours told me "x and I saw a movie yesterday". I said...."hmmm.....how did you get her bed into the movies?" did a friend ever lie and then you caught him/her in the lie? Did you call your lying friend on the lie? I had fun with the above situation. I emailed the lying friend and said "how was the movie? You know, I never knew you could lie sick in bed all day and go to the movies. How did you get in with your bed?" I haven't heard back from her. She is probably understandably embarrassed.
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@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
27 Mar 08
I am so sorry to hear about your illness. I am glad you are able to share that with us though. I really don't have any friends because the ones I thought were, did me very wrong and they were not my friend at all. They lied to me also. I bet your friend is embarrassed also for lying and they are probably mad that someone ratted them out but oh well. I'm glad someone was honest to you.
@fec139 (803)
• United States
28 Mar 08
it was actually very liberating to find out the real truth!
@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
28 Mar 08
Yeah. I know it hurt you and I am very sorry for that. I do not have friends because they all lie to me and treat me badly. I just stay away from all of them now and stay to my husband and my daughter. I will be your new Mylot friend.
@gemini_rose (16193)
28 Mar 08
Thats a really bad thing to do, I could never do that to someone who was my friend no matter how hard it was for me to see them ill. I would want to be there all the more. I remember once going back a few years now, I had a friend that I was very close to, she had recently got back with her ex boyfriend who did not like me at all, do not know why but I seem to have this effect on my friends partners ha ha. Anyway I had not seen her for a while and then she phoned me and we caught up on things and then she said that we would go out at the weekend. I was really looking forward to it and I had a babysitter and everything, she was supposed to call for me at about 7.30pm anyway, 7.00 came and she phoned and said I cannot make tonight my little boy is ill and I do not want to leave him while he is so bad. Of course I was disappointed, but was more concerned for her son and I said no worries we can go another time its no problem. It was too late to cancel my babysitter, so when she turned up I decided to go out anyway and just went down to my local where I knew I would bump into people I knew that I could stand and talk to. I had been in there about 45 minutes or so when a group of people walked in the pub, and would you believe it was my mate, her fella and another couple!! I could not believe it, so I walked over and said little boy better now is he? that was a quick recovery ah? she just looked at me and went red in the face. I said all you had to do was say that you had other plans, why do that to me. You have just showed me what kind of a friend you are. Then I just held my head high and stalked off. I was so hurt and angry, but I had a good night anyway!!
@fec139 (803)
• United States
28 Mar 08
i always think it's bad to put a sickness lie on another person!
@tjades (3592)
• Jamaica
27 Mar 08
My friend in question here is actually considered as an adopted brother. He is married and was cheating on his wife. For some unknown reason common among males he would lie about even though it something you did not have to put your no0se very far to smell. How did he get caught? He now has a very young baby with the woman which did not exist.
@tjades (3592)
• Jamaica
27 Mar 08
Sorry I sumitted instead of editing. I meant to add that I sympathise with you and how your friends choose to treat you when you need them the most. Be sure that your lie will find you out. I hope I somehow managed to put a smile on your face. (lol)
@ciades (1624)
• Philippines
28 Mar 08
Many times and i actually confronted and asked why they should lied. A person hardly to reason out if they really did something wrong. It's unfair coz your being true to them and try to reach for them. But i realized no perfect friendship. Just don't expect too much from them. And it's depend also of the reasons why they need to lie.
• United States
28 Mar 08
Haha, I would have had fun with that situation too. I'm not a very good liar and have actually been caught in one where I just totally admitted I lied. But I don't like it when people lie to me either. I'm not too quick to say things on the spot, but after thinking about stuff, I have realized some conflicting stories with friends. I don't appreciate it, but I don't like to dwell on it, but it definitely lessens their credibility with me.
@nangel78 (1458)
• United States
28 Mar 08
I am sorry to hear about your situation. I am not sure why they do not come see you. I know when my mom was ill, I went to see her whenever I could. I have been battling cancer myself this year and my friends have been pretty good about seeing me.
@Polly1 (12649)
• United States
28 Mar 08
I am so very sorry about your illness. Your friends probably don't know what to say or how to act around you. People have a tendancy to avoid situations that make them uncomfortable because they just don't know what to say. They don't realise that don't have to say anything or act any special way. just being there for that person is enough. Have you tried talking to your friends about stuff like that. I have caught a friend in a lie and did call that person on it. We almost got in a big drag out fight in line at McDonalds, I was furious. I did decide to just let it go, I never forgot it though, Good luck, I do hope things start going better for you.
@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
28 Mar 08
Yes I have. One friend in particular lies a lot. Usually its nothing serious but it does make you lose trust in them. I have a couple of other people in my life (not friends) who lie all the time about just about anything. They forget the lies they've told and contradict themselves. One lived in my Mom's house across the road (moved out now) and the other rents a house from me. Both have a reputation for lying. Even the grandmother of one told me that you can't believe a word she says and I've heard several other people say this. you would think they would be embarrassed about that but doesn't seem to bother them. I am so sorry about your illness. At a time like this you need true friends surrounding you.
@subha12 (18453)
• India
28 Mar 08
I have caught a friend many times. actually i used think a good friend of mine. later he came out to be a real cheat.he was taking advantage of me. i caught him lying many times. like he was in bangkok and told me he could not connect to certain mail to answer me for a period of time. But later found within this time he mailed numerous time to his GF . sometimes he told he was busy in work but i found its not that .
• United States
27 Mar 08
I am called a water baby here at home. I feel so bad for you and really lost my train of thought. I hope your friends know how much it would mean to you. While I am sure you know it must hurt like hell to see you this way. Being that my dear close family member has HIv/aids. I was in Miami and told he was dying. I could not stomach the strength to get a plane ticket. Only because I could not risk seeing that image in my mind for ever after he passed. Well I was the lier than so I caught myself. he looks great and I moved back to NY and see him daily. Yes I have caught my slu* of a friend in lie. And no I don't call her on it. I just let it go and tell her I'll talk to her later. No I don't call her later either she calls me. I have ignored her all day.