Does being rude get you further in life?

@ersmommy1 (12600)
United States
March 28, 2008 9:33am CST
Do you think being rude, demanding what you want gets you what you want? Or does the old you catch more flies with honey stand the test?
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• United States
30 Mar 08
Rudeness works in some circumstances. When you want something from someone you won't have to deal with again. Squeaky wheel gets the oil. However, in most of life's circumstances, politeness is better. Giving back positive energy for negative energy. You can still be a 'squeaky wheel' and be pleasant about it. The powers that be will still help you to get you to stop bothering them, but they won't have a negative of an image of you afterwards as if you were being rude. Rudeness can get a solution quicker, but leaves others with a negative feeling. Consider, a woman wants something done around the house and nags her husband to have it done. It will be done. But the husband will have resentment towards the wife for treating him that way. The woman can, later, do something nice to try to recover the lost ground. However, if she'd been patient and non-harpyish, she might not need to make such repairs to the relationship. Then consider the workplace. You might get what you want from your coworkers and your boss, but someone's going to have to fill out a performance evaluation and if they have a negative feeling about you from your witchyness, then those feelings will play a part in the review process. Then, again, if you know you are going to be leaving your job for a new one in 6 months (before your next review) then there is no real negative to being a bit witchy unless you need these people to give recommendations so you can get your new job.
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@dfinster (3535)
• United States
30 Mar 08
I think there are a lot of people who get what they want by being rude and stepping on other people, but I think it's only short term. I think that if you are rude and mean to others that it will eventually come back to bite you in the butt and someone will step on you and do the same thing. I will do a lot more for a person who "asks" me to do something for them than if someone "demands" something. If someone does that I generally won't do anything for them. I like to treat people the way i would want to be treated.
• United States
28 Mar 08
I think it depends on the situation. If I'm trying to get money back (lol) I try to be nice. If I'm trying to get a bill or something straightened out, I start out nice. If I'm dealing with my kids, I start out nice (not too nice, though, don't want em to think they can railroad me). However, I have been known to throw a total and complete screaming fit in Walmart. I wasn't even a kid. I was 22, and the buggy-guard man pissed me off big-time! So, each one has it's place. My advice: Start out nice, then throw a screaming fit if you have to. ^_^
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
28 Mar 08
I always try to be niuce to people. I never want to be rude. I think being nice gets you further in life but I have tried to be nice alot of times and it just didn't work. I have had some problems with business people and I tried to be nice and they were very rude to me and I got tired of it and got rude right back to them. It was rediculous.
@BlackBay (584)
• Canada
28 Mar 08
Well being Rude or demanding I think get you know where. It is a form of Bullying I think. You really only guilt or embarass someone into giving you what you want instead of giving a proper argument/plea for what you want. I've always found patience, honesty and a smile have worked for me. Recently I had to buy a new tire, the tires I was using were cheapies...the girl made me wait for 1 1/2 to go find my tire size. When she could she up graded me to a high end tire for the same price and gave me a free second tire for the incovience of waiting.I was frustrated with waiting but was nevder rude or demanding or insulting and it paid off for me...2 High end tires for $60.00.
@jojinhere (187)
• India
28 Mar 08
yes obviously the more rude you are in life the better.although rudeness upsets you but prompts you to go forward in life.being rude is a way of moving ahead in life.if you have control over your rudeness that should surely serve the purpose.
• India
28 Mar 08
I like neither honey nor poison. Honey means hypocrisy, and poison means a vicious personality. I think we should keep our cool no matter what happens and try to work sensibly according to the person's nature. I would never flatter a person to get what I want. I wouldn't be rude either. But I would try to manipulate the person's nature and get what I want, or I would try to find the person's weak point and take legal action if he/she is really in the wrong. In most simple cases, I just do without getting what I want from the person if I don't get it the simple, straightforward way. I neither use honey nor poison. Cheers and happy mylotting.