Do you keep in touch with high school friends?

United States
March 28, 2008 4:16pm CST
I just talked to a friend from high school today and we were discussing how once you get married and have kids and have been out of school several years,you seem to lose touch with others. How is it that someone can be a good friend to us and yet we don't spend time with them after we get involved with our life? Do you talk to your friends from high school on a regular basis?
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@ersmommy1 (12600)
• United States
29 Mar 08
My best friend I met in high school. We are like family. And I have 4 or 5 others I've kept in touch with. Nearly on a weekly basis. I think it depends how close you were to begin with. Then you become a part of each others lives. Like a second family.
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@jiangsl (377)
• China
29 Mar 08
What a pity! I lost contact with all my high school students.I hope I will contact with them someday,and now I have few friends.Indeed,I miss them very much.Maybe I should take the initiative in getting touch with them.
• United States
29 Mar 08
It seems as though a lot of people are referring to facebook to find people like that.Maybe you should try it. I think that I will later today.
@MisterPlus (1917)
• Philippines
29 Mar 08
my highschool friends are very supportive to me. They have been with me for over 20 years and they are still here for me. We usually go out when time permits. We gather all together every 5 years. We are all excited on our batch reunion next year and my friends from high school are preaparing for a trip here in our country to a more exciting moments together. We'd probably go and have fun at the beach.
• United States
9 Aug 08
That sounds like a lot of fun! I am glad that you are still in touch with them. My friends and I try to get together too.
@leeapollo (611)
• China
29 Mar 08
yes ,but only some of them and I lost touch with them for several years.because I went to another place to further my study.I really miss them but I don't know whether they miss me ?Thank you for your question.
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• United States
29 Mar 08
Thanks!
• China
29 Mar 08
your words make me upset, i miss the time in high school. i have losen touch with my best friends for several years. i don't know where they being? maybe most of them got married. the time we spent together is wonderful. i'm really sad for lost touch with them.
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@anirc750310 (3424)
• Romania
29 Mar 08
HI Of course I don't talk with all of them, but I keep in touch with 2,3 good friends.I also have good relation with my college' mate . This days I got an invitation from a girl from my high school and I was surprised to hear from her.I went to that site that she invited me from and I saw a much more highschool's mate there. I was glad, a lot of people I did not hear from them anymore, cause I move to 300 km from my town and I don't have the chance to meet them when I go home to my parents, so the relation is almost none.
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@chxjian (43)
• China
29 Mar 08
i keep touch with some high school friends. we may send short messages to each other. sometimes we may have a call.
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@vipulchawla (2220)
• India
29 Mar 08
Friends, they have always been the best companion for me. And especially high school was the best time for me. I used to top in my class, and everybody knew me well. We were around 54 in strength in school. And we were all friends. I am still in talking terms to many of the classmates but we hardly get to see each other as all have dispersed to different places. Some of my high school friends still live in their home towns(the place we did our high school from) and some of us are studying or working at a different place. But whenever its a certain occasion like Holi or Diwali, weall go homes and have a reunion at our place. We do talk on phones regularly and whenever we are at our home place, we have a fixed time in the evening to meet and spend time together. It really feels great and i keep waiting for that timw to come. And some of my friend i regulary have a chat with them on the internet
• United States
29 Mar 08
That is good! I would advise you to keep setting aside that time for meeting your friends.
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• India
30 Mar 08
Ya i would wish to keep on going like that. But now being in job, it has become difficult for me to go even home. It has been 7 months since the last time we friends were together and the same time i have been away from home. Earlier, we would catch up in every two months or so. But hoping for that time to come over again
@mbs730 (2152)
• Canada
29 Mar 08
I keep in touch with a few and I am a member of facebook, thanks to that I have reconnected with so many from back in the day. But my maid of honour I knew from high school... she never got married and still is not, but I remained close to her until I started having kids, now she hardly talks to me. I have told her I would have liked to have seen her again but she makes excuses about it like she is so busy.. I try not to take her personally, she has always been a bit of a flake. But the fact of the matter is, her and I are in a different place.. different stages, we just in many ways just move on.
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• United States
29 Mar 08
Maybe it bothers her that she doesn't have the family that you do.I have a friend who isn't married and doesn't have kids and I know that she does that alot too.
@mbs730 (2152)
• Canada
30 Mar 08
Oh yeah I am sure it does bother her. And if I put myself into her shoes, I know it would bother me greatly too!
@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
28 Mar 08
Ever since I joined a social networking site two years ago I have managed to find quite a few old school friends on there. It's been great catching up with them especially two friends that I went to elementary/primary school with. We keep in touch all the time now on that site. I moved away from home and lost contact with a lot of those friends. I'm just glad that I am now able to keep in contact with them online!
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• United States
28 Mar 08
That is great! Can you tell us the name of the site.
@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
28 Mar 08
It's bebo.com. This is a link from wikipaedia :) http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bebo
@Ren1227 (104)
• United States
29 Mar 08
There are a couple of people from high school who I speak to now and then but mostly I try to keep up with other friends online. Social networking sites such as MySpace and Facebook have been great ways to find friends which I have lot contact with. It's amazing the way these types of sites have managed to re-connect people with those they lost contact with. Some of the friends I have re-connected with, I haven't talked to in over 10 years. Now, I "see" them regularly online and message, chat, or play games with them. A recent site which has been quite interesting is Yuwie.com (see my profile for a link). This site is a newer social networking site like MySpace but they pay you for every page view you (or anyone else is your network) views. The business model is quite fascinating and likely to succeed for many. In fact, I've seen some people who already have over 1 million page views for prior months such as February 2008 (March stats are not out yet). I have been more active on Yuwie the past several weeks not just because of the oppourtinity to earn a little money, but also because there are a number of people there who I am in almost daily contact with.
• United States
9 Aug 08
Thanks for all the information. I am going to check out some of those sites soon.
• Philippines
29 Mar 08
I don't have much friends in high school and I had bad memories back in high school.Sorry!
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• United States
29 Mar 08
I am sorry to hear that. I have some fond memories of high school.
@wickedangel (1636)
• Dominican Republic
29 Mar 08
I've got a couple of friends that I have known since we were all 6 months old. Yep, we went to nursery school together and grew up together. Over the years we have all gone our separate ways but I still keep in contact with them. And because we have stayed in touch it has meant that our parents have also stayed in touch. I have 3 friends that I have known since my secondary school (we were 11) and we keep in touch. So, in answer to your question, yes I like to keep in touch with my friends, even if it is only once in a blue moon. I think if they are your real friends then it doesn't matter how long the silence is between 'conversations'.
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• United States
29 Mar 08
I agree with you about that. I think real friends know us as well as we know ourselves at times.
@ElicBxn (60894)
• United States
29 Mar 08
I'm still in touch with one friend from school. We've actually known each other since elementry. She's kept me informed about others in the crowd that I knew, but wasn't as friendly with. I also have another friend I met as a senior in high school. I ran into her again after I was out of college and now - 30 yrs later I'm still in touch with her. Most of my friends are in "fandom" and this friend is a fan, tho not in "fandom" as such. For a while 15-20 yrs ago, I had friends all over, but for various reasons I don't see/talk to them as much any more.
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• United States
9 Aug 08
Friends from elementary school that we still have in our lives as adults are the people who know us the best.
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• United States
29 Mar 08
I stay in contact with several of my friends from high school. My dentist was the valedictorian of our class. My sons counselor was in my graduating class. My best friend was my best friend in high school. I run into a lot of them on a daily basis and we are as close now as we were in high school.
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• United States
9 Aug 08
That is nice. I do occasionally run into someone from high school as I still live near where I went to school.
@Daffodil20 (1754)
• India
29 Mar 08
I do try to keep in touch with my high school friends.Its a both sided effort and depends on the depth of friendship and that whether you want to continue or not.But even otherwise after a long time getting in touch with your classmates is a sure fun and exciting thing.
• United States
9 Aug 08
You are right. It is a two way effort and the friendship has to be strong enough to withstand the time that goes by.
• Philippines
29 Mar 08
just last week i talked with my high school friend and we discussed so many things one topic that we discussed was having a class reunion to be held sometime next year (summer time)of 2009.
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• United States
9 Aug 08
That sounds like fun! I hope you have a great time.
@Sillychick (3279)
• United States
29 Mar 08
I have a few friends from school who I still keep in touch with. They are my closest friends. Most of us are married with children, so we don't see each other as often, but at least a few times a year we get together and catch up. It's been 15 years since we graduated, but we are still very close.
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• United States
9 Aug 08
That is nice. I know it is harder to keep in touch when you are a busy mom and wife,but I still feel that it is important to remsain in touch with our friends.
@sukumar794 (5047)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
29 Mar 08
Except as casual and unexpected meeting one seldom get the chance to encounter old friends from schooldays.
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• United States
9 Aug 08
Sometimes those unexpected meetings can be really a nice visit and a lot of fun! I always enjoy those kind of meetings.
@secretbear (19464)
• Philippines
29 Mar 08
friends - good friends
hi carolscash! i get in touch with my high school friends but only with a few. those were the ones that stayed as my friends. one of them is my bestfriend. another friend of mine, we just went swimming together last week. together with her kids. some of them i usually see during Christmas because their children are my godchildren. and then, we also have a little chat during their birthday or mine. ^__^ i think someone we don't see often can be a good friend to us because of the old times that have been spent together. its always fun to reminisce things and share plans and that gives a good feeling to each other.
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• United States
9 Aug 08
Yes, I do think that it is important to keep those memories alive. It seems as though high school is such a big part of our lives and yet we will let go of those who meant the most to us and never look back. It is sad!
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