how do you deal with telling your child that his or her beloved pet died?

@winterose (39918)
Canada
March 28, 2008 4:22pm CST
how do you deal with telling your child that his or her beloved pet died? do you just tell them point blank and scoff it off? do you make a burial for the animal? do you sit with them and ask them how they were feeling and answer any questions or comfort them if they are crying if they are crying do you tell them to get over it everything dies? do you lie and make up a story like the dog ran away or a nice family cam to take him to the farm If your child is grown up and away at college, would you tell him or wait until the child came home do you buy another dog just like that one and pretend it is the original dog or cat or rabbit or whatever it was. I was just watching the king of queens and dog was never told his childhood dog had died, they just keep replacing the dog with a another one that looked the same.
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• China
29 Mar 08
A falsehood can't exsit forever.The best way is to tell the truth to your child.It is sustained by psychology and benefits your child.
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@winterose (39918)
• Canada
29 Mar 08
so this is what you would do the question asked what you would do and how you would do it.
@winterose (39918)
• Canada
29 Mar 08
yes of course they deserve to grieve but unless they saw the animal die in front of them they have to be told, and how the parent handles the situation makes all the difference in the world, thanks for your very moving story.
• India
29 Mar 08
i have never been in this situation before but i will try to convince them by saying it would reach him one day in another form so that the kid might not feel his pet left him permanantly
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@winterose (39918)
• Canada
29 Mar 08
nice answer. thank you for responding.
• United States
29 Mar 08
i dont even wanna think about that . thank goodness iwont have to deal with that for a while.
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@winterose (39918)
• Canada
29 Mar 08
just one of the many things you will come across as a parent,
• United States
29 Mar 08
An upfront honest and loving admission is never the wrong thing to do.
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