Is it your happiness or their happiness?Choose one.

@alexigne (903)
Philippines
March 29, 2008 7:13pm CST
I read a lot of discussion here tackle about what they will do, like choosing the best friend that courting you, my mom love my boyfriend, your chosen career over what your parents want you to be, etc. I know that they were just looking for answer and some advice that somehow they may apply to their situation. How about you, what will you choose? Your own happiness or their happiness? If your happiness, what will you do if you know that choosing your happiness may cause a so much pain? How will you handle the situation?
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3 responses
• Canada
30 Mar 08
I would think it depends on what type of career you have chosen. If it's not immoral and it dosen't harm anyone . You should be choosing your career. Because you will have to live that job so you should at least try to find something you enjoy. No one should decide for you. If you're not happy how could you vever make anyone else happy?
@alexigne (903)
• Philippines
30 Mar 08
Absolutely, we have opinion regarding this situation. I just don't know why some parents insist their like to their child. Beside the fact that they think this is the good decision and think it is the best.
• Canada
30 Mar 08
You're parents may try to control coices you make because they want you to be financially secure. I believe thats what all parents want for their children. Thats why some cultures have pre arranged marriages from their childhoods. It's not right but that way they feel their child will be taken care of. Altimately the parents have to let go, Life is full of lessons and having that great career dosen't always answer them. Some young people may not mind because they not know what they want to do. But if you can get yourself into a career that you really enjoy eventually your parents will see you have done what is best for you and they will be happy for you.
@vera5d (4006)
• United States
30 Mar 08
it would depend on the situation...i've learned not to become a "people pleaser" because most people are selfish, don't appreciate what you do, and if they give you a gulit complex about things it is not worth it trying to make them happy. especially if they are like the insatiable mouse in the book "if you give a mouse a cookie"... but if they are truly a good person then i would choose their happiness...like for my hubby i always put his first & he always puts mine first
@alexigne (903)
• Philippines
30 Mar 08
Yeah that is not worth of loving and giving up your happiness for that kind of people.Who is hubby for you. I mean your son or husband or bf?
@jhl930 (3605)
• United States
30 Mar 08
I think that it depends on who it is that we are dealing with I mean if it is someone that I really love and want to be happy I would say that it is more important to make them happy and not myself because in the end thats all i really want is for other people to be happy...that is just me and if it's a person that I don't really like that much I am defiently going to choose for me to be happy before them...but that is just me I really guess that everyone has their own decisions on what they would do for one another... JHL930
@alexigne (903)
• Philippines
30 Mar 08
Yeah, i understand. Especially when it comes to family matter. What if best friend involve? Will you go through the relationship even you know that you will destroy their friendship? Just a situation.