Do you think marriages with wide age gap can last long?

China
March 29, 2008 8:58pm CST
My elder sister who is just over 24 year old told me that she planed to marry a 42 year old man this summer.I thought she was just joking at the first beginning,and now, it turns out that she really decided to do it. I just wonder:how could this marrige last long with such a wide age gap? You know, this man is just heading into his mid life crisis while my sister was just starting her own creer. I just cannot see any future of this marriage,so what do you think? Can you marry someone maybe 20 years oldder than you?
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@Breath (1298)
• United States
30 Mar 08
In any relationship differences will happen.In this case it is a age difference.If your sister loves him and understands him and he does her it just might work out.Any differences can be worked through if the people have real love and understanding for each other.The age gap doesn't seem to matter to them try not to let it matter to you to much.Just give them both your love and support.
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• China
30 Mar 08
Support your viewpoint, it also happened around my life. And the men is my colleague. They have a boy last year and have a happy life...
@a_ce_e (1427)
• Philippines
30 Mar 08
Hi! we have a saying "age doesn't matter". I think age gap does not a factor in able for us to see weather marriage will last long or not. It will depends on the two person inside their marriage how they will work it out despite of age differences. My dad is 21 year ahead of my mom, and i can say their marriage is a successful one. It really depends on the couple and being into marriage we should also be responsible one in able to make it successful.
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@ringdove (53)
• China
30 Mar 08
I can not image there is a marriage with the 18 years age gap. I think I can only accept 5 years age gap. But maybe they have some point in common, and love each other. Anyway, wish your sister will have a beautiful marriage.
@palonghorn (5490)
• United States
30 Mar 08
Personally speaking, it didn't work for me, I married when I was 20 to a man that was 14 yrs older. It lasted a total of 5 years, before we were headed to divorce court. He had a son that was only 7 years younger than me! Step-mom, yeah right, at 20? I didn't think the age difference would make a difference but in the end it did. We were at such different points in our lives. It worked for a while, maybe I made him feel younger, not really sure, and of course, I was in love. It also envolved the fact that he had money and I lived a fairy tale life for 5 years.
• Philippines
30 Mar 08
In any relationship, it is up to the couple to make it work.
@Samanthavv (1395)
• United States
30 Mar 08
I don't think I could marry someone that much older than me. Maybe if they were like super old, and rich, I might be able to. Because they'd be dying soon (I know that sounds bad). A lot of marriages are like that, but it happens, and it's life. Who knows how it will go with your sister.
30 Mar 08
If two people are happy together then the age difference means nothing. I am 57 and my partner is almost 30, to many people this would be a recipe for disaster but we are blissfully happy together and the age difference means nothing to us at all. Your sister is an adult and is more than capable of making her own decisions, be happy for her
@xlinzixx (511)
30 Mar 08
i definately think marriages with age gaps can last as im engaged to be married next year and the man im marrying is 38 and im only 20. and it was a shock to my family too but theyve met him and see what a lovely guy he is and how inlove we are. i cant wait to marry my partner and spend the rest of my life with him because he treats me well and realy looks after me.
• China
30 Mar 08
NO ,I can't marry someone who is 20 years older than me ,'cause I'm a young man .I can't do that.
• India
30 Mar 08
hey any marriage can workout if both parties agree to each other and make compromises for each other.they have to learn to forgive each others negatie's and try to look at the positive side of everything in their relationships .if that happens then i guess age or anything is not a problem for their relation.
@naniglavs (210)
• India
30 Mar 08
no the gap difference may be even 50.......no prob...all that matters is how u understand each other........and how much love u have towads each other
@ana3173 (420)
• Philippines
30 Mar 08
marriage - old and young marriage
I think other woman are attracted to old man, finding a nice guy that treat her with dignity and respect and accept them as they are.Marriages with large age differences can and do work, but the chances for a successful long-term relationship are diminished somewhat. Personally i would prefer to marry a guy who is older than me that can understand me and i am not interested with the guy who is younger than me. usually Asian woman seem to be much more comfortable with the idea of a husband that is much older than them. These marriages with large age differences are much common in Asian societies from what i observed.
• China
30 Mar 08
I don't think so ,because wo are mature
@irene_27 (545)
• Philippines
30 Mar 08
If i really love the person I don't think age gap is a hindrance to our relationship. I know being in this kind of relationship would be hard because there will be a lot of issues involved that has to be discussed and understood by your sister and her boyfriend before they really decide to get serious into it. As one love song says "love moves in mysterious ways..." so it is not possible that things will work out fine with your sister. Our feelings of attraction and appreciation in a partner aren't only exclusive to people in our own age group, they can be found in just about any age group. There are reasons why we love someone and those reasons are not conditional on age alone. but i do know that relationship with wide age gap is not for everyone so i wish your sister goodluck.
@rock27 (31)
• India
30 Mar 08
yes their r some posibilities under some circumstances,if understanding btween d 2 mate is good and they trust each other.the relation btween them is royal then their is no problem.
@teison2 (5924)
• Norway
30 Mar 08
Yes you can marry someone much older and have a good marriage. there are thousands of examples of that. marriage is founded on love and respect - age has nothing to do with that. I wish your sister and her man the best of luck. I hope you will support them and increase the chance of their marriage working out. Influence of family can help imensly.
@nanayangel (7691)
• Philippines
30 Mar 08
Hi there! I think that it all depends upon how both parties are willing to compromise. There will be a lot of differences between them but what matters is that how much are they willing to give and take while in the relationship. I think that they feel in love, they deserve a chance and I believe that if both are willing to make it work, it will work out.