i need help!!

Philippines
March 29, 2008 10:25pm CST
just recently, my boyfriend and i got into a big fight because of his friends. you see, we don't see each other often but whenever his friends call, he would go out and spend hours with them. our fight ended up with him telling me that i was ruining his vacation. that hurt a lot especially since i wasn't doing anything wrong. he apologized afterwards but the pain would not fade away. after a few days, a guy i like started showing signs that he liked me a lot. i don't know what to do because my bf began to annoy me by making tantrums out of so many little things and he(the guy i like) makes my annoyance go away by just talking to me. what can i do? i'm so confused.
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
1 Apr 08
is it just the reason taht he spent time with friends that you want to leave him? although i think every individual have their priorities. think first what you want to do before committing to others.
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@angie828 (232)
• United States
1 Apr 08
You need to be happy. And you deserve happiness too. Who would you rather be with? What would you tell your friend in this situation if this was happening to her? Who makes you happier? Who treats you better? Would you rather spend time with your boyfriend or the other guy? These are all important questions to ask. Is your new guy going to throw tantrums? To me anyone who throws tantrums over little things may have some growing up to do. To be in a relationship you need to meet eachother halfway. Does your boyfriend do this? If not maybe you need to reevaluate your relationship with him.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Apr 08
If you are not really committed to this boyfriend who has all the friends, and the other guy reallymaked you feel better byjust talking to you go with it. maybe he is the better man.
@yona06 (585)
• Indonesia
11 Apr 08
My guy spends hours with his friends even after we've married :) I try not to bother him when he's doing that just to show that I trust him and I know he needs sometime with his friends, I don't want myself to be the only thing he's got in this world. I think of it as a guy thing... they just need guy time. Once in a while he'd ditch a date with his friends just to be with me without me asking. So I guess you just have to trust and understand when they do that and everything will turn out fine. As for the other guy.. I think you have to take some alone time and make sure that he's not just a rebound guy before you do anything further.
@dw2005 (22)
• United States
30 Mar 08
Ok Im gonna try my best to help you out. First you need to sit back with nothing else going on and think about what type of a relationship you have with your boyfriend right now. If you think of your relationship could be long lasting you need to sit your boyfriend down and have a heart to heart talk with him. No phones, tvs or radio in the background. I dont know about your guy friend but most guys I know love getting girls who are sad or even lonely. So dont go and do something that you will regret later in life.Thats the best I can think of maybe someone else will come along and give you some better advice Good Luck
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