Dear mylotters i need ur views.....
March 30, 2008 8:12am CST
I always post on my lot how much i love my husband and so does he, but just 2day we had a huge fight over some issue and who doesnt have fights? But after things cooled down and we came to good terms, i actually said that this issue almost made me think twice and in my anger i thought we r better seperate. And he inturn answered, i could never leave you because i cant imagine you being with some other guy, if i ever left you! Is that all he can think of if he leaves me? I can say i cant leave him b'cause i love him, cant live without seeing his face, cant live without talking to him, cant imagine my life without him.But what is said was nothing like that...Is that love?? I am confused here, he can just live without me, but can imagine me with some1 else? Now i just donno what to say, what do you guys say?
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31 Mar 08
I can imagine what you are feeling after hearing only that from your husband. Think that men and women think differently and at times show and say their emotions differently. I found that most of us women tend to be emotional most of the times and want to hear specifics and want those reassuring and loving words always. But guys tend to be quiet and have their own ways of expressing their feelings. Is your guy the quiet type or the expressive type? Maybe he is not communicating with you the way you want him to be. The best thing is talk to him very well. Sit down with him and tell him how you really feel like what you have just posted. Then you ask him what are your doubts and feelings about what he said. You maybe wrong to think that he only want you physically but deep inside he loves you so much that he dont want you to be with another guy. Think of it as: when he says he dont want you to be with another guy, its because he maybe so hurt with that and when he is hurt, it may not be his ego but becaus of his love for you. Talk to him and communicate. Suggest openness of feelings and you will get to know each other more and resolve all your doubts. Good luck!
2 Apr 08
Fighting between husband and wife is very normal. As long as both are not cheating on each other, then anything is still manageable. Sometimes guys are more independent in relationship. Not that he don't love you, it's man are still 'ok' without sticking to his partner or spouse. Most women fail to understand this, and expect their partner/husband are sticky to them as well. They are annoyed by when seeing their spouse does not show that their stickiness. In your case, your husband is ok to be independent without you for a short while, but it doesn't mean he doesn't love you anymore. But he definitely couldn't tolerate you together with other guy during the 'separation' period. Hope this clear your doubt.
2 Apr 08
I am sorry because I had misunderstood your question, do you mind to elaborate a little bit. I hope I got better idea on what you mean. But it still gets back to the same type of explanation. Men and women thinks differently, and view things differently. I will get mad as well if my spouse request for separation. But if we think positively, it’s possible that he/she need some room and we should grant them the personal freedom that they want, temporarily. But just be cautious if they are cheating. The truth will be revealed eventually if they are not faithful. Just as in my case with my ex last time.
• United States
3 Apr 08
you and i think alike becuz that was the first thing that popped in my head in reading your post and even before reading your concerns. It just struck me as very wrong. i am guessing that he did not mean it as it sounded/ guys are horrible with words and expressing themselves. it does sound typical guy.
• United States
31 Mar 08
All relationships have fights, I dont think I would let this get to me as much as you are. From my experience men in general dont think before they talk especially when it comes to relationships, now women are quilty of this also, but that is probably his way of saying I love you and cant live with seeing your face everyday.