March 31, 2008 7:56am CST
Hey My lotter friends I have a problem, and want to see if you can help me. My husband and I live in this complex for over 2 years now and all of a sudden we are having problems with the manager, We got new phones (you know to upgrade)to better ones and they would not work in there phone system down stairs so I went to her and asked her very nicely if she would put our old number back in and she said no because they have done it 6 or 7 times and it was only 3 times, and she said she wasn't going to piss with it. I said what did you say and she said she wasn't going to piss with it I said ok and left. and of couse I was mad, my husband called Omaha where the main office is to talk to her superviser's boss and we got the supervisor instead, it seams wee can't get past her, but anyways my husband talk to her and told her what our manager said and she lied about it and the supervisor said she wouldn't say things like that but she did, and of course she didn't get into trouble either. my husband is in a 600 lb powerchair, he has spinal stenosis and a diabetic, has had a stroke and has mini tia's so anyways he was ccoming out of the elavator backwards and he watches to make sure there is no one is behind him and there was this guy who was up agaist the elavator doors and would not move so my husband bumbed him with the head rest on his powerchair and he didn't get hurt. the next day we get this letter in the mail saying that my husband has to back in the elavator and come out forward, well he has theses leg rest on his powerchair and can't see as well coming out forward, they said if the guy got hurt my husband would have to pay the bill. well he didn't get hurt. (Thank Goodness) we have been trying to find another place to move to but there is nothing for a powerchair his size. I am so upset and my depression kicked in and don't know what to do about any of this, we don't bother anybody here, I volunteer everyday outside the building so don't get home until after 5 pm and my husband comes down to sees me just to get out of the complex. now he is affraid to go out of the apartment when he goes in the elavator no one is to ride with him except me and they don't care, but he is affraid if he bumbs one of them they will go to the manager and another mark agaist us and three marks we are out. her supervisor did say she has to put our number back into the phone system that is very old. we have been trying to get on first floor and they keep putting us off and we even have a letter from our doctor stateing we need to get away from the elavators and that hasn't worked either, any ideas what you would do?? sorry this so long but if you didn't hear the whole story you might of not understtod.
• United States
4 Apr 08
I can only suggest that you move. There has to be some place in your area that has a duplex or home that has wheelchair access. Maybe you can call the housing authority and see if they have any suggestions or recommendations on what your next step might be in order to make changes. I also would be so livid if I were in your shoes. There has to be something you can do about the whole situation. Do you have family in the area that can help you make calls or just help? Good luck and bless you, carolbee
• United States
4 Apr 08
hun my husband is in a powerchair not a wheelchair. and asking our famlies is a joke they won't help. my one sister which is the oldest she wants us to move clear up to Marshalltown and live with them and I and my husband said no way, they want us up there to pay their bills they have my goodness their house payment is almost $1.ooo.oo and lights are $3oo.oo and the gas is $2 to 3oo.oo a month and we can't afford that thats more then what we make a month. we are looking here in town and nothing yet but someday there will be. my husband's sisters which are (4)of them they won't help because they don't like me and I haven't done nothing to them, and I think thats sad.
1 Apr 08
call your governor's office, see if the solicitor general of the state will get involved, people with disabilities are supposed to have priority over well bodied people, and see if there is a disability lobby group in your city or state that can help you advocate for your rights. your husband is very ill they should be catering to him and you have to have a phone that works, this is just not acceptable.
• Dominican Republic
1 Apr 08
It seems that they are almost bullying your husband for being in a wheelchair, which doesn't seem fair. He should be allowed to go in and out when he pleases. And your neighbours should be a little more understanding, either stand out of the way when he is coming out of the elevator or try and be helpful. It is hard to give you some advice because I feel that the supervisor et al aren't being very considerate to you both. If he needs to be on the ground / first floor and your doctor has written to confirm this, surely they should put you as priority to move? Can you talk to the supervisor's boss about this? He must be allowed to enter and leave the premises as and when he likes, he shouldn't feel like a prisoner in his own home! Just make that point but nicely otherwise they will get their backs up and not want to help at all. I wasn't quite sure what you meant about the telephone system but I gather it is an entry phone? Glad to hear that that is working now. Good luck