What would you do?.....................................

United States
March 31, 2008 10:02am CST
You and your man or woman broke up. During the relationship, you bought them some nice things. Are you the type of person to take back what you bought them simply because yall broke up, or do you let them keep it, or better yet, does it depend on what it is that you gave? I'm interested to know!
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@Breath (1298)
• United States
5 Apr 08
I do not really give gifts of any importance unless I think the person is going to be in my life a long time.When I do give any gift it is theirs to keep even if we brake up or ect...I never take back what I give but I do watch what I give just in case.You can be in love and love the person without all the expensive gifts and ect.Love is suppose to be free anyway and not have any price or gift tags attached.
• United States
7 Apr 08
That is so true. Too many times, people put too much emphasis on what is being bought and not on: is their respect in a relationship.
@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
4 Apr 08
I've never asked for things back but...I have GIVEN things back. If i break up with someone i dont feel right keeping things like jewelry so i give it back Or atleast try to. My opinion is anything other than an engagement ring...if it was given as a gift dont ask for it back. But as someone whos been given a gift of jewelry i dont feel right keeping it..and i return it or try. I had a boyfriend refuse to take back a watch he gave me...ive never worn it since i didnt feel right about it.
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@twils2 (1821)
• United States
2 Apr 08
Hello Linda, If I bought them something for a gift, its there's to do with as they see fit. I bought it for them so its theirs. I'm not the type of person that would take something like back. Take Care, Terry
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• Malaysia
2 Apr 08
i never ask nor would i want to take back the things that i've bought for the person i was seeing. because at that time, i bought those stuff for him so technically it belongs to him and there's no reason for me to take it back even though we've broken up. it's up to him if he wants to keep the item or get rid of it, i wouldnt care since we're not together anymore.
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@ellie333 (21029)
1 Apr 08
I would let them keep everything I had ever bought for them. These were all gifts so I wouldn't even think to ask back. In fact even though I knew my last relationship was on the way out I still got them a flying lesson for Christmas as it was a dream of theirs to do and wouldn't even contemplate asking for it back, it was bought out of love and they did deserve it. In fact we are still friends and it was me that ended the relationship as I felt it was the right thing to do. I have never been asked for anything back either. When I got divorced we had purchased things together but I let him choose what he wanted as it was only material things anyways. Ellie :D
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@subha12 (18453)
• India
1 Apr 08
i think i would never want them back. its ok the gifts to be with taht person. rather what will i do with those? should i gift them to others?
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@Amber4106 (541)
• United States
31 Mar 08
I wouldn't be able to take anything back from my husband, nor would he from me. Whatever I have given him, I gave it to him for a reason. Whether it were for a special occasion or an anyday surprise. A gift is a gift, as simple as that.
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• Bahamas
31 Mar 08
I'm not saying i wont be temted to take it back because i would. But i'd let them keep it because a gift is after all a gift. But i dont give expensive gifts anyway they are nice but not expensive so they could keep it no problem.
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@jhl930 (3605)
• United States
31 Mar 08
I am the kind of person that will just let them keep it or whatever or if i have bought a gift for them and was going to give it to them I will go ahead because I have already bought it and then I don't want to just take it back I would much rather just give it to them and make them happy...even though we just broke up because Imean we did break up and that was a bad time but we still had a lot of good times in that relationship and I would rather end things on a good note so that maybe we can still be friends...but on the other hand if they were to cheat on me or something liek that I think that I would be mad and at the time I would want to just leave it there and give them the stuff they bought for me back so I wouldn't have them around for constant reminders... JHL930
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@quatelmon (955)
• United States
31 Mar 08
I would not take back gifts that I had given in a relationship even if we broke up. I think that giving a gift is just that. You gave it to them, and it's theirs now. The only exception to this I can think of is an engagement ring, or if you gave them something thinking you'd be together forever like a family heirloom or something of that nature. Interesting question!
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