I have to get rid of my cat..I am so sad!

@nelly5 (1425)
United States
April 1, 2008 12:38pm CST
Okay, I am very saddened by the fact that I have to get rid of my cat, but yet, I am so ready to get rid of him because I am not going to tolerate what he did to me this morning. I was laying on the couch after the kids left for school and I fell back asleep. I woke up to a feeling like my leg was really hot in one spot. After a breif moment of heat, I felt the wetness and was instantly ticked!! My cat urinated on me while I was sleeping!!!! Why does he do that? He had started to pee on my husbands blanket once when my husband was laying on the love seat but luckily I caught him before he soaked my husband. He has also peed on a pile of newly washed and folded clothes...ugh, I can not tolerate cat pee...NASTY!! He is fixed, so I don't understand what is going on. Have any of you had a problem with your cat behaving this way??? I love my little man so much, and he is such a silly cat and my baby, but I can't tolerate this!!!
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13 responses
• United States
1 Apr 08
Why do you have to get rid of your cat? If he is so spoiled, maybe its time to start correcting him. Keep a squirt bottle out and spray him every time he tries to pee on something other than in his litter box. Or find some noise he is really bothered by. A can of coins works for some cats. But you have to catch him in the act, or when it is apparent you think he is lifting his leg. You can't do it "after the fact". It may help him get the message. Because he is so spoiled, he may also think he is "the boss" and that isn't entirely his fault.
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@nelly5 (1425)
• United States
1 Apr 08
Well I was thinking I have to get rid of him because, 1. my husband is WILL NOT tolerate him urinating in the house and 2. the smell of cat pee is disguisting and I won't have my house smelling like cat pee. But you are correct, he may be so spoiled that he does think he is the boss and you are also correct that isn't entirely his fault. I tried rubbing his nose in the pee this morning and swatted him on the rear with a folded up newspaper, which did startle him, but I don't know if he really knows why he got spanked. That is the first time I have spanked him like that, so I am not sure he understands..who knows. I just really hate to get rid of him, but I have to figure out a way to make him stop this peeing in the house. Thanks for the great ideas. Have a good day!
• United States
1 Apr 08
Rubbing a dog or cat's nose in pee doesn't have the same affect that we think it does. The cat interprets this as an attack from you, versus that they are being corrected for something they did several minutes ago or hours ago. It only causes stress for everybody. As far as cleaning, you need to combat an acid with an acid. White vinegar sometimes works a lot better than an alkaline based pet urine cleaner.
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@nelly5 (1425)
• United States
1 Apr 08
I kind of wondered if the rubbing his nose in it punishment would be effective at all. I wasn't sure it would, but I thought I might as well try. Thanks for the advice, have a great day.
@koalatbs (2230)
• United States
7 Apr 08
Sorry you are having this problem with your cat nelly5. You may have already answered this question in a previous post, but how long have you had your cat? Has he always done this or did it start recently? My cat has only done this a couple times in my son's bedroom. My son liked to have the cat in his room at night when sleeping but then our cat couldn't get to her litterbox and would pee in his room. How old is your cat? Is he an indoor only or indoor/outdoor cat? Hope you can figure out why he is doing this so you don't have to get rid of him. Please keep us updated. Take care.
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@nelly5 (1425)
• United States
7 Apr 08
We got him in August of 2007. He did urinate a few times before we got him fixed and has done it a few times since he has been fixed. It is never in the same place. He is not even a year old yet, so he isn't old. His litter box is alway available to him and he only stays in the house. Thanks for the post, have a great day!
@koalatbs (2230)
• United States
7 Apr 08
Hmmm... so strange. It would really be a shame if you had to get rid of him. Have you always used the same kind of kitty litter? Maybe he doesn't like the one you are using. I don't know really... I'm just trying to brainstorm. I'd definitely take him back to a vet though. I know how costly that can be unfortunately. Do you have any other pets at home? Just wondering.
@Loverbear (4928)
• United States
4 Apr 08
I haven't read the other postings yet, but did you think that it could be a urinary tract infection? Some cats will eat normally etc and still have the infection. You might want to consult a vet. There also is the possibility that he might not like the laundry soap you're using. It might have something in it that is attractive to your cat making him want to either mark his territory or something. If he has normally been a clean cat, you have to look at the obscure possibilities. I would opt for the urinary tract infection. Do you feed him just dry food? If so, he also could have developed a kidney stone-He isn't peeing on you to be nasty or vindictive, he is trying to tell you that there is something wrong. Also, there may be a faint residual of the urine odor on the love seat. I bought a spray that bonds with animal urine and eliminates the odor. It's Nature's Miracle and it might help too to get some and use it on the love seat. Don't give the cat the boot before you check the possibilities- start with the possibility of urinary tract infection and kidney stones. Giving a cat just dry food will cause the build up of calcium in the kidneys and that forms stones. Kidney stones are awfully painful and hard for the males to pass...ask any man that has had them. My BF had stones and was in agony for weeks!!! If this is a new behavior, then check with your vet and have the cat checked. They will take a urine sample and be able to tell you if there is a problem there. (I wondered how they took urine samples from cats-you just can't send them into the bathroom with a jar and tell them to pee in it!! LOL... I finally found out how they did it on Animal Planet. ) But the big thing is don't give him up until you've exausted the possibilities. If he isn't spraying the whole house, there has to be a definite reason for his behavior. Too bad you can't ask, but you will have to play detective and sort out the reason.
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@nelly5 (1425)
• United States
7 Apr 08
Thank you so very much for the great advice! I hope that we can figure out what is going on with my "little man" and why in the heck he is doing this. I love him so very much and would be so very sad if my husband says he has to go. Thanks again, have a great day!
@Loverbear (4928)
• United States
7 Apr 08
If it helps any, if you do have to give him up, post it and i will be more than willing to add him to my home!!! One more cat won't make any difference...lol
@mcat19 (1358)
• United States
1 Apr 08
First of all, your cat can't talk. He has no other way to communicate with you. A vet trip would be the first response to unusual behavior. You have to rule out a physical problem. Cats often get urinary tract problems. Secondly, do not hit a cat, even swatting with a newspaper. Cats don't understand that kind of correction at all. Rubbing noses in urine is also ineffective with cats. It doesn't teach them anything except that you are a bully. Third, clean any place the cat has peed with an enzyme cleaner like Nature's Miracle or Oxyclean or Biz. That's the only way to get the odor out, the odor that the cat can smell, but you can't. You might want to try Feliway. It is a spray that contains cat hormones; the cat can smell them, but you can't. Sometimes spraying Feliway around the house can discourage inappropriate peeing. Many cat have to take pills to eliminate this problem. I hope your vet can help you. If you "get rid of your cat," chances are he will be put to sleep. No one else will adopt a cat with this behavior.
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• United States
2 Apr 08
Excellent advice, I would only add that anything that causes a cat pain in the box is going to cause the cat to avoid the box. So if you smack him or rub his nose in the box, he will associate that with avoiding the box which is the opposit of what you hope to achieve. The best you can do is if you catch him urinating outside the box, say NO. NO swatting, no moving him to the box, just NO. I would hate to think that you would get rid of your loving companion because he has a medical problem or even a behavioral problem. I have a cat whose sometimes medical urination problems started merging into behavior problems. He now lives in my bedroom with his own litter box. He NEVER pees outside his box in my bedroom. If he excapes he often squats as soon as he gets out of my room. If only he would listen and understand he could have the run of the house. Luckily the room I am referring to is one that I spend a lot of my time in and he is getting older and happy to be with me there.
@nelly5 (1425)
• United States
4 Apr 08
Yes, very good advice mcat, I did take him to the vet when he got fixed and I told the vet about him urinating in the house before the vet fixed him. The vet checked him out before doing the surgery and said that he was in great condition...therefore, i am sure it is a behavior problem. I have never heard of Feliway but will be sure to check it out.
1 Apr 08
My Tabby does that quite a bit now. She still lives with my parents, i've had her since I was 5 and i'm 26 now. I'd look after her when my parents were away in my flat but I was gone most of the day and she was peeing outside of the box, at first all over the place but then just missing the box. I wasn't able to cope as i'm away at work 9 and a half hours a day Monday to Friday, she's a bit better now but there were a couple of things, first she's pretty old but she also has a history of urinary infections, it might be worth checking out incase he is sick.
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@nelly5 (1425)
• United States
1 Apr 08
As for his age, he isn't old at all. As for the urinary infection, I just don't understand, if it were that, I would think that he would be doing this on a daily basis or at least more than once every 3 weeks, wouldn't you? I don't know though, I just know I am very upset about it...ugh. Thanks for the response. Have a great day!
1 Apr 08
There might be just a lump that presses on his bladder in certain positions, unless something has scared him. Tabby was once terrified by the postman and started doing strange things!
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@GreenMoo (11842)
2 Apr 08
I'd agree with the other posters who've suggested you take this cat to the vet. Please, take him to the vet & make sure that there isn't an underlying health issue before you consider anything else. Male cats urinate to mark their territory, but normally by spraying. The urination that you mention doesn't sound like territory marking. I'd be wanting to check that your cat doesn't have a urinary tract infection or a bladder infection. A urinary tract infection (as in humans) can cause allot of pain. Crystals form in the tract but medicine can disolve them quite easily. A bladder infection may make him want to go right NOW! I hope you can get this problem resolved. Good luck!
@nelly5 (1425)
• United States
4 Apr 08
I am certainly going to be getting him into the vet, ugh, my husband is not going to be too excited about spending more money on him...oh well, he will have to tolerate it b/c I need to make sure that my baby is okay. Thanks for the post.
@5mayday (1054)
• Norway
1 Apr 08
that's so sad to hear.. my cat is 3 years old and she pee on my bed 2-3 times before and a 2-3 times in the living room. But she do not have that problem anymore and she was just confused so she keep pee on the wrong place... the only problem with my cat is that she broked alot of mine things and things that I really liked, so I have got really mad at her but have not thought about get tide of her ^^ maybe you can give him a chance and see how it goes first ^^
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@nelly5 (1425)
• United States
4 Apr 08
Yes, I am giving him a chance, and have been for a while. But if he keeps this behavior up, my husband will want him gone!! I love him and he is my baby and DO NOT want to get rid of him, that is why I am putting it off and hoping that this behavior will go away. thanks for the response.
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
1 Apr 08
He could be unhappy about something or it could be a medical problem. I've had cats with both problems. If it's a medical problem he needs immediate treatment. If it's attitude, I had that problem recently and the pet store gave us this pheromone thing (you plug it into the wall like a Glade plug in) that calmed him down and it didn't happen again. Worth a try if you love your cat!
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@nelly5 (1425)
• United States
4 Apr 08
Wow, I have never heard of the phermone thing that you plug into the wall. I am certainly going to check into it. Thanks for the response, have a great day!
@wjolene (265)
• Malaysia
1 Apr 08
he wants your attention?
@nelly5 (1425)
• United States
1 Apr 08
I highly doubt it is that, he get attention all the time! Thanks for the post.
@98765m (1019)
• India
1 Apr 08
Hmm.....yea it would be really irritating if the cat does that often. btw is the cat young one or old? May be you should try to change his habits gradually.Rome cannot be buit in a day. But,if you are in the mood of getting rid of your cat then try giving him atleast one more chance for him to repent. Hope your cat will behave properly soon. Cheers !
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@nelly5 (1425)
• United States
1 Apr 08
It is very irritating! He is young, well we found him at a cemetary last august, and I believe he was maybe 3 to 4 months old at the most. So therefore, he is probably around 1 year old now...or getting there. As for the chances, that is what I have told my husband the last two times...we just have to give him one more chance. I don't think my husband will let it go on much longer...ugh. I love my little man..that is what I call my cat..even though his name is Pablo..picked by my youngest son. Thanks for the response, have a great day!
@sunkissed (4332)
• United States
1 Apr 08
Nelly, I am so sorry, I do not know why your cat would do such a thing, I do know that a cats urine is very strong, it is hard to get that smell out of things.I know you love your cat, and hate to get rid of him,I too have a cat, that I love, but he only goes to the bathroom in his litter box.Maybe he is having a bladder problem, try calling your vet. Good luck.
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@nelly5 (1425)
• United States
1 Apr 08
Yes, I am going to call the vet and see what he thinks...but I don't think it is an illness issue. He got fixed back in december or january and he started spraying in the house like a week before he was fixed. Well when I took him to the vet for his surgery I told the vet about him spraying and he said that since he had already started spraying he wasn't positive it would stop him. Well he went 3 weeks after the surgery without spraying and then sprayed and will go like 3 or 4 weeks without doing it and then do it again! I don't know what his problem is. He seriously is a very very spoiled cat, he certainly is not lacking attention. Every night when I sit down to read or watch tv, he is right there and sitting on my lap. ggrrrrr... Well thanks for the response, have a great day!
@sedel1027 (17854)
• United States
1 Apr 08
Sounds like he is unhappy about something. He could be sick, his litter box may not be clean enough (or new type of litter he doesn't like), you may have changed his food (or not feed him enough) or maybe you don't give him enough attention. He wants your attention for a reason, you need to figure out what it is.
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• Philippines
8 Apr 08
That is really irritating! One of our cats is actually not allowed to go inside the house because whenever she's inside, she'd poop! what's irritating is that she was outside the house for so long, and the minute she goes inside, she'd unload! ugh! i am also planning of putting her up for adoption, i am just waiting for someone who would adopt her.