Dating older men.

@Kipani (25)
United States
April 2, 2008 5:43am CST
I'm 18 years old, and my boy frend is 26. He's been married for 3 years, but he's going through his divorce right now. We both have daughters. We've been living together for about 2 months now. Everything's going great, and I've never been so happy in my life. I'm going to college, and he supports me in everyway. He even makes me breakfast in bed.. Why does everyone make me feel like crap about this. Do you think it's because they're jealous, or another reason?
7 responses
2 Apr 08
Some people have issues with age gaps, I am not one of those people as long as both parties are consenting adults I see no problems with it. You may be right they could be jelouse or very over protective, either way let them know you are both adults and its your life, you can choose whomever you wish to go out with, end of story. Good luck to you both Lucy
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@Kipani (25)
• United States
3 Apr 08
Well most of them have NO room to talk... Thanks Lucy.
@gemini_rose (16194)
2 Apr 08
Jealousy, worry, many things can make people react the way they do when one partner is older than the other. Jealousy because people see how happy you are and they feel envious and think that it cannot last, but worry because they are scared that you are going to get hurt, after all he has been married before and so that tends to make people wonder why it did not work and if he did not last long in his first marriage then it might be the same for you. Plus you are young, 18 with your whole life ahead of you and sometimes people do not like to see younger ones settling down so quick. But regardless of what anyone else thinks, if you are happy then carry on, if things go wrong then it will be for you to deal with and your loved ones should respect that and be there for you if you need them to be, but do not let the comments spoil your happiness. I hope that your happiness lasts forever!
@Kipani (25)
• United States
2 Apr 08
Yeah, you hit the hammer on the nail. =]
@kezabelle (2985)
2 Apr 08
Ignore them im 24 and my partner is 12 years older than me and is about to turn 36, he is great to me and our children I find other people have more issues with the age gap than myself or my partner do, i think thats thei problem to deal with not mine, we are very happy. Been together 6.5 years now with two wonderful daughters couldnt ask for more!
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@Nora1982 (11)
• China
2 Apr 08
Hi kipani,everyone have the right to love and to be loved ,and you also have the right to choose which life to live ,if you feel happy,don't mind what the others' attitude.different people have different attitude because they are sitting on different place and different environment.So,happy every day,follow your own feeling just let the others talking!
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@egdcltd (7343)
2 Apr 08
Age differences can cause problems for other people, although yours isn't that huge. It could be because of your age, rather than his.
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• Philippines
6 Apr 08
It's how you feel that is important..As long as you never step on anyone go for what you think's best. Everyone has the right to choose for whoever we wanted. If other people think or feel crap on you, don't mind them, they're not the one living your life...
@paulsy (1264)
• Philippines
3 Apr 08
It's probably all about your age difference. That's something that some people can't accept. But don't let that get you down. As long as you're happy and everything is well between the two of you, there should be nothing to worry about. It would be good to show to all those who are against you that no matter what everyone else thinks, you stand by each other. Show them that you've got something they would surely wish to have in their own lives!