Would you ever give up on Hope?

United States
April 2, 2008 2:51pm CST
Would you? I ask this because a friend of mine it seems to me is giving on the hopes his son might not make it threw a coma... I do understand alot of people don't, But as I told him Hope is a very good thing no matter what the situation is.. Am I right or wrong? I remember the day my father passed away almost two years ago, That day I had nothing but Hope that was the only thing that kept me going that day and that picked me up from the ground when I heard the news.. I didn't give up I believed in god that he would be ok, I didn't realize what had really happened though until after waiting 2 hrs to hear he passed away.. So if you had someone that was in a coma stage or even sick would you stay and hope for the best and pray that he or she would be ok or just simply give up knowing there is much left you can do?
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7 responses
@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
2 Apr 08
I would never give up on hope. There are miracles that do happen for us. All that we can do is wait it out and "hope" for the best. Don't ever give up on anything. Carry hope with you until the end.
• United States
2 Apr 08
Steph I can't agree with you more.. Yesterday when I was telling my mom this I started to cry because I believe in hope and the power of god to see us threw times like this, rather it's your child, your cousin or even your neighbor.. Hope is a very strong thing that should never be let go no matter what the situation is.. Thank you for your reply!
@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
2 Apr 08
You are very welcome. I hope you are feeling a little bit better after your cry. I cry sometimes too and it does help to talk with others about your situation. No one really has to give me an answer for things, but just be there to listen to how I feel. I hope I helped you also.
• United States
2 Apr 08
Yes I did, It some times just builds up the missing my father so much that a cry always helps when I need it.. It's not that I do it all the time or anything like that, But it's a natural thing for people to do.. I don't feel bad in anyway it just the way I deal with missing my loved ones!
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@minnie_98214 (10574)
• United States
2 Apr 08
I would ask god for the strentgh to do what was right. I cant imagine being in that situation so thats all I can say. It could be completly different if I was actually put into that situation. You cant guess at something like that.
• United States
2 Apr 08
I am not guessing on anything it's just the way he talks.. It almost seems like it.. However I don't think he would but than again if his son is laying there sick in a coma and he's wanting to do something else what does that tell you? Makes no sense to me is all.. Thank you for your reply!
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• United States
2 Apr 08
No no i meant guessing on how youd react if put in that spot sorry im confusing myself today.
• United States
2 Apr 08
Thats ok! Your not the only one.. I do understand what your saying... however if a person has been threw something like this before they know that hope is there and god will help them no matter what..
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@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
2 Apr 08
I would never give up on a loved one...It is the Hope that pulls us through the difficult time that we are going through...Our Hope is passed on to them and with that we feel better and in some way we feel we are helping...Without Medical knowledge, Hope is all we have...Sometimes the outcome isn't favorable but that is not for us to decide...Hope, Faith, and Love are very important...Never say never...and never give up....I surely do Hope that your friends son does get better..I am sure that your friend is feeling lost and hopeless right now...Your friend can't fix it so he feels defeated...and despair sets in....When a parent feels he/she can't help their child..the pain is so great that it can cause so many emotions..okay..I'm starting to cry...I will pray for your friends son...
• United States
4 Apr 08
Feona I am sorry I didn't mean to make you cry, I know exactly what you are saying though.. I would never get up on hope no matter how bad things got, I didn't when my father passed away, When I was told he was being life flighted to MN that day... All there was, was hope and prayers he'd be ok.. I didn't know exactly what was happening though as i've stated before.. But that was one thing I never gave up on and that was HOPE!!! Your right it does pull us threw that hardest times.. Thank you Feona and hugs to you!
@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
4 Apr 08
It's okay, and thank you..
• United States
4 Apr 08
Your Very welcome Feona
@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
2 Apr 08
Hope is everything. There have been a few people recently in the news who were in a coma for a long time and then came out of it. Hope is very important.
• United States
4 Apr 08
I did see that and your right.. I think if you hope is very strong and prayers and there... You will get them answered by our lord.. People have came out of comas.. So as I've told my friend NEVER EVER give up on HOPE! Stay with your son and let him know your there with him and just don't give up! Thank you so much for your reply!!
@itsmepinky (1301)
• India
2 Apr 08
never give up on hope even if u r in the worse situation. if u give u will be completely shattered & go into a trance from which u will not be able to come out for a long long time. So my dear friend have faith in god and think positive. ~god bless~
• United States
2 Apr 08
And that's true, And not to mention you will think what has happened was all your fault.. I know people that have actually blamed things on themselves because of things like this.. As I've said Hope is a very very powerful thing.. Thank you so much for your reply!
@kezabelle (2985)
2 Apr 08
While id like to think I would keep praying and hoping my child would come through I can imagine how hard it must be and maybe in some small way without realising it he is trying to prepare himself for the worst.
• United States
2 Apr 08
You know I think you might be right.. people do tend the prepare for the worst which is a good thing but yet it's not either.. I am not good at that, that's for sure.. I am always thinking he'll be fine, nothing is going to happen.. when it comes to things that like this I've been taught to think positive no matter what.. If what ever happens happens but at least there wasn't a dought in your mind that it wasn't possible... Thank you for your reply!
@wolfie34 (26820)
• United Kingdom
2 Apr 08
If you give up on hope, what do you have? Just a complete horrible emptiness and you start to slide into hopelessness and depression, you give up and you give in, you don't make the effort and you just become so negative and defeatist, hope gives you that little inspiration that last grim reality that things will get better, they have to, you need hope to survive to continue to be strong for the person who is in a bad way, if you give up hope you give up on them!
• United States
2 Apr 08
I have explained this to him and try to have him understand the most important thing right now in his life is his son, Thats all he has left his wife passed away a few years ago.. Sad to say.. I feel awful for him I really do.. I just want him to realize of there is no hope there is nothing and to NEVER give up on that.. NEVER...