Breaking UP...What to Do?

Broken Heart - Broken Heart from a long term relationship
United States
April 3, 2008 12:59pm CST
I have been in a long term relationship for the past couple of years we at one point where engaged, our relationship has now come to an end. I am leaving the state in the next 3 days to really remove myself from this relationship. There are so many reasons why we cant be together mainly due to him and his ways, temper, and so on. He does realize he has a problem but if I stay I will only be allowing him to hurt me, if you can understand what I mean. It is very hard to get over someone even if they have done you wrong so many times, I do need time to heal and learn from my experiences from this relationship. What I dont understand is why is it so hard for him to let go when I was the one who did everything and suffered from all of his mistakes. He has been crying and asking me to stay everyday and with each day it gets worst. How come he relizes now what he once had, I dont know wheather to believe him or not. My mind and heart tells me leaving is the best thing to do, I cant live a lie. But why is he fighting for me now when he should have been all along. Well MyLot Family, I am torn and hurt this man I once loved and gave my all to thinks I should stay. Like I said before leaving is what I must do... What do you do or how do you get over a long term realtionship?
4 responses
@jason_co (408)
• Philippines
4 Apr 08
As much as posibble try to move on. Try to think that there is someone more better that he/she. Make your self busy. Hang-out with your friends. Your friends really help a lot at this time of your life.
• United States
4 Apr 08
jason_co Friends surly are helpful threw all times of your life. Thanks OneLove Sisterlove
@subha12 (18463)
• India
4 Apr 08
It is actually very very hard to get over from along term relationship. still any breakup hurts very much.But as this is causing you harm, just move on. i think its the only thing you can do now. Try to engage in things that you like to do. time will heal the pain.
• United States
4 Apr 08
Subha12 Time sure will heal the pain, I will keep those thoughts with me. One Love SisterLove
• India
3 Apr 08
I realize the kind of situation you might be going through.Being in a long term relationship you really try hard to do all that you can to make it work and walking out is the last resort you adhere to but when you decide to take such an extreme step you know for sure that this was the straw that you could have taken.What I would suggest that you do now is to have a long talk with him about everything,I think giving one last chance to him only to talk won't hurt and try not to make it a messy break up.I am sure you'll do well.Wishing you the best of life!!
• United States
4 Apr 08
Wittyakanksha, Your words of wisdom are greatly appreciated. Good Luck to you!
• Norway
3 Apr 08
I also dont know how to get over a years of relationship. I understand what you are saying because ive been done with that before. But "we" are still together until now. That was before where where I was madly head over heels in love with him. For many years being with him, though everyday with him in my side gave me thousand of happiness, but at the end of the day, it gave me millions of pains and tears. I dont want to elaborate the reasons but even I was hurting, I was still holding on because I dont know how to give up, I dont know how to move on with my life without him or i dont know if i can still move on. Eventhough it hurts, I was still insisting myself to him up to the point where I lost my confidence and respect for myself. I can still remember those days, where i would be crying the whole day because my heart aches. But I was so crazy! crazy in love with him. Then, I was given a chance to work abroad and be far from him, and it changes me and my feelings for him. I still love him but I know for now, that even things will be as worst as before, I will shed a tears maybe for good memories, but I will never be like I was before. because I know for sure that I can move on with my life without him. And you know what, he had changed now that im far from him. I dont know if its for real. but he is different now from what he is to me before.. So maybe, sisterlove, it would be a good idea to leave. So you can think, realize, and weigh things over and maybe so he can realize too.
• United States
4 Apr 08
Poisonivex, thanks for sharing your story I know I'm not the only one at there because it feels like I am at times, Good luck with everything OneLove Sisterlove