Some Friends you Like Them but you Just Can't Spend Time With them

@winterose (39922)
Canada
April 3, 2008 4:51pm CST
I have a few friends that I like I do, but after a while they get on my nerves and I just want them to go home, Joanne is a whiner and she gets on my nerves, she is a good person though. I screen my calls and when it is her night out of 10 times I don't answer, cause I just don't feel like dealing with her. My son has a friend that can't be serious for two whole minutes, after awhile though he is a great guy he gets on my nerves. (this guy is 33 years old) I like to laugh like the next person but I like to be quiet too, not always have somebody joking around all the time. are there any friends or family in your life that you can only take in small doses?
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@chertsy (3805)
• United States
4 Apr 08
I can only take my brother's wife in small doses. She's bipolar or at least that's what my mom tells me. She goes from this sweet person this crazy out of control freak. Last time, she had the nerve to argue with my mom over how old my brother, my mom's son, her husband was. I simply said, I think my mom know's how old her son is. It got so irritating, my family finally got up and said time for us to leave so we would get home before dark, lol.
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@winterose (39922)
• Canada
5 Apr 08
yep that would annoy me too.
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@CanadaGal (4304)
• Canada
3 Apr 08
I most certainly have people in my life that grate on my nerves. Some I'm related to, some I am not. Some I can tell to shush up, some I can not. Some are in person friends, some are online friends. One friend inparticular, I have found myself hiding from on msn. The moment I would hop on... BOOM! There she was messaging me. Not such a big deal usually, except for the fact that she is always talking about the SAME stuff over and over again. She doesn't do anything new or interesting in her life, and I'm rather bored with her. Oh.. the WORST is when she starts giving me a play by play on the new man she's interested in. "He's on his way to work right now... (10 minutes later)... he's gone to get his coffee right now... .(30 minutes later)... he just emailed me from a meeting at work, etc. I am happy for her, that she's so smitten with this guy.... but holy guacamole!!! I think hearing those play by plays would drive ANYONE nutty! ROFLMAO!!! Thankfully, she's started back to work full time now, so I won't be bombarded with msn messages like I was before.
@winterose (39922)
• Canada
5 Apr 08
I would have to tell her the quit with the play by play you don't care if he is drinking coffee, you only care if you are not drinking yours lol
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@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
4 Apr 08
I hate to say it but I have a neice that can get on my nerves after awile on the pho9ne we have to talk on the phone for she is 1800 miles away but there are just some times I get tired of her gouing over and oever on a subject . and I have to get off the phone soon as I can
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@jeanniemay (1803)
• Philippines
4 Apr 08
Haha! Yes, I have. I mean it's not being rude but sometimes we just need to be serious and talk about things that really matter. What makes me lose my liking or what annoys me really is the attitude. Being a great person, yes they are but at times, we needed some time off and we don't need bullies or too much complaints heard from these friends. Well, I just keep in mind that we have different characters and attitude and so I just have to tell them if enough is enough. It's just the way of saying it so nobody gets annoyed or hurt.
@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
3 Apr 08
I know exactly what you mean. I have met a few nice people but they drove me crazy. they do not have the same goals in life as I do and they just want to hang on the phone and talk about things that does not interest me. I hate talking on the phone as it is and I work alot online and cannot do it when my phone line is tied up. I know what you mean about your son and his friend. I have liked some of my daughters friends too but they talk alot and that gets on my nerves. They need to talk with each other but they always come in here and talk my head off while I am trying to work and think. That gets on my nerves too. I like to have my peace and quiet. I am not really a person who likes company. If I have company, I like to give them my full attention at the time but then it is time to get back to reality. time is money here in my life and after a while, there is not much more to say to one another. It kind of wears out the welcome.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18120)
• United States
3 May 08
I think that they are alot of people out there that gets on everyone nerves. Just as much as I am sure that I may get on other peoples nerves my mom's for sure.. Thank god for caller I.D. I have done that a few times myself but it is usually because my brother who has a 2 year old and she keeps calling all day since I am on speed dial and so sometimes I don't answer it. Bad of me yeah. I know. But I don't do it all the time.
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@winterose (39922)
• Canada
8 May 08
hey we all have to do what we have to do right. I rarely answer the phone myself.
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@phoenix25 (1543)
• United States
8 May 08
There's nothing wrong with not being able to handle a lot of time with our friends or family members. I think we probably do them a favor by limiting time spent with those types of people because we're probably preventing ourselves from saying something mean when we just can't take it anymore. People I can only take in small doses...my mom, my mother-in-law, my step-mother-in-law. I'm noticing a pattern here. lol
@raydene (9875)
• United States
6 Apr 08
Hi Hun I can not think of anyone I consider a friend that I would want to avoid...I do have people I know that I feel that way about! xoxoxoxoxoxo
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@aretha (2539)
• United States
5 Apr 08
oh yes! i was just talking about this today with my husband cuz its his older sister. she is very nice and i do feel sorry for her. she just got married about two months ago and her husband and mine are a lot alike so they get along really well but now they want to spend time together doing things alot. and thats fine but then i have to be with his sister. she is the black sheep of the family and no one but use really treat her like an equal i can understand shes upset but when ever shes around all she does is talk about her parents,sister and how they treat her and that they treat me better then they do her. i know its true and i feel bad but i don't want to get in the middle of it. she goes on for hours and hours i hate it!
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• Italy
4 Apr 08
i know exactley what you mean i have the same problem here .i have friends that i'm very fond of but can only take in small doses because they are always moanig,i never hear them say "i feel great today"there is always something wrong with tem or they have something to moan about
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@sid556 (31006)
• United States
4 Apr 08
I think we all have friends like that. I have some friends that could knock on my door any time at all and no matter what I was doing....I'd be thrilled to see them. Others, as much as I love them, well, I have to kind of syke myself into being around them. The whiner is the worst, I think. that type of person never fails to kill any good mood that I may have found in my day. The joker can get annoying but at least they are light spirited.
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@suehan1 (4356)
• Australia
4 Apr 08
yes rose i have a few people like that around me at the moment.they would do well on a series like days of our lives,drama queens and whiners the lot of them,my sister gets on my nerves within 10 minutes as she has to know all about your finances and every little detail of any money i spend.none of her business ,but she will persist.cheers sue
@butsikik (21)
• Philippines
4 Apr 08
I do have friends tha I like to spend time with and not get irritated at all. I have a friend who is very nice but gets on my nerves when he gets too bossy and demanding. This irritates me so much but he is a good and nice guy. I also have a friend that will call late at night which is okay but later on in the conversation, I get irritated for our topic is repetitive. Even when I already stated my opinion, he stills continually ask for it again. Then I have a friend that he only knows me when he needs me. This I tremendously hate for I am not a first choice of friends. These kinds of friends I just can't spend too much time with or for sure we might not be friends at all.
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@jewel76 (2305)
• Canada
4 Apr 08
Yes i know what you mean!! i have some friends that i feel this way about. I adore them, don't get me wrong, but too much with them and they annoy me!! Who knows? maybe i annoy them too? LOL
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@Hatley (164727)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Apr 08
I know the feeling. I once had a friend who could bring me down from a happy mood to being really down as she would regale me with all the most awful newsevents and horrid things she had heard happen until I would want to scream go home. I got so when shecametomy door and I saw who it was I pretended not to be home.When I was pregnant with my first child she told me so many pregancy and childbirth horror stories I was literally afraid to have this baby until I realized that a lot of her stuff was mostly made up for shock appeal. that was a long time ago.
@Hatley (164727)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Apr 08
thanksfor best response
@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
6 Apr 08
There is a guy in my building who never seems to care when you tell him it is time to stop playing. He even likes to touch and hug and it really makes me sick. The other day he said, Rosie, you know you love me. I said, and I can just as easily love you from a distance. I have a niece that is also like that, but she is mentally a little slow. She is always ready to play and it can get on your nerves. If she does not want to play, you know that there is something seriously wrong with her. And if it is physical, call the doctor right away.
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• Canada
4 Apr 08
I don't have "friends" like that, but I do have a people whom I am involved with because of relationships, that are like that. I'm getting along OK with my husband's ex-wives, but sometimes they can get on my nerves. Luckily my husband and I are able to talk about this, and handle it when it happens. When it doesn't happen, we all get along just fine. I'm sitting here watching an episode of Reba right now, and her relationship with Barbara Jean (her ex-husband's second wife) makes total sense to my husband and I.
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