what if?

@stacyv81 (5904)
United States
April 4, 2008 12:34am CST
What if the one you truly loved never knew you loved them? Yet you still had some kind of contact with them? Although you have changed significantly. Would you try? Would you let them know?Is it worth the rejection? What if you had kids now and they didnt? What would you do?
6 responses
@madlees (1381)
• India
4 Apr 08
If you were available and the one you truly loved is also available , there is no harm in coming out with it to the person. If it would make your life to be withnthat person please do let the person know. It would be better even if it is rejected. It is worth it. If he / she accepts you and then it'll be heaven Don't you think. Even if you have kids and the person didn't , if the person truly loves you too then he might accept. Don't you think so? If I were you I would do it. All the best dear Stacy
@stacyv81 (5904)
• United States
4 Apr 08
what if you arent "available" but your relationship is crappy and "the one" had just got out of a relationship, and it seems right but it is too risky,
@madlees (1381)
• India
4 Apr 08
If you relationship is crappy then you can get out of that. Why stay in a crappy relationship dear Stacy? If your love is available you can take a chance. That's my view and may be if your mother were there she'll tell you the same thing..
@stacyv81 (5904)
• United States
23 Apr 08
I agree. This isnt about me though, One of my friends, but I was just curious how others felt about it.
• United States
4 Apr 08
It's ALWAYS better to try than not to. Regrets and what if's are hell.
@stacyv81 (5904)
• United States
4 Apr 08
I know! Thanks so much for your input!
• Philippines
22 Apr 08
I experience that already...for me....why will u still tell that ....you have moved on...and maybe if you tell him that and the kids knew.....maybe it will add conflicts to ur relationship with ur husband and kids
@smints8985 (1595)
• United States
22 Apr 08
If we happen to both be single then I do not see anything wrong with it, though it has been quite some time ago, you never know what could possibly happen. People change through time, and what was kind of impossible before may not be as impossible in the present time. Preferences and priorities change, therefore the possibilities of being attracted or in love to someone is so possible. But then if he is already married with kids I don't see any reason as to why bring up the issue.
@subha12 (18453)
• India
4 Apr 08
i think there are so many questions in this discussion. I think its never advisable that you do not let the other partner know what is there in your heart. only you will be hur. rejection may come but you should let taht person know atleast. may be taht person has got similar feelings?
@nanayangel (7839)
• Philippines
4 Apr 08
Hi there stacyv! I think that if are both free of commitment, then I guess you should tell the person, by all means. So you won't be regretting your whole life because of something that you failed to do and fill your mind with lots of what ifs. If any of you is in a relationship, then that's another story. You should not tell the person or even try to get between the two of them, or even if you're the one who's in a relationship. If you are in a relationship and you feel that your love is too strong that it will be unfair to you and your partner, then you must end the relationship first.