i want to know which is the best?

Nellore, India
April 4, 2008 6:03am CST
love marriage or arranged marriage.
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@apsara60 (6612)
• Israel
8 Apr 08
Love marriages have broken.......and arrange marriage have been unsatisfactory.....some love marriage and arrange marriages have been successful too........this can be just luck Today things are better in western countries, boys and girls are allowed to have relationship and stay like married couple before marriage....this way both can really know each other well and make the decision if they can live with each other whole life.......but in our eastern or Asian culture, this is not allowed, so we cannot say what will be fate of marriage....love or arrange....everything depends on your luck.
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• Nellore, India
8 Apr 08
"this can be just luck Today things are better in western countries, boys and girls are allowed to have relationship and stay like married couple before marriage ....this way both can really know each other well and make the decision if they can live with each other whole life......"but this sentence is wrong because in my words dating is a very very stupid thing because dating before is
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@apsara60 (6612)
• Israel
8 Apr 08
yeah yeah I know.......even we Indians think the same and full life we keep searching for true love....
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• Nellore, India
9 Apr 08
i think it is very difficult to find true love in these days.
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@jason_co (408)
• Philippines
4 Apr 08
I will choose love marriage because you will never be happy for the rest of your life if your dont marry a girl for love. It is useless marriage. We settle for someone because we are happy with them. Because we love them.
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@ayessa (1586)
• Philippines
5 Apr 08
What more can I say? This is soooo true.
• Nellore, India
6 Apr 08
thanks for responding.
@Galena (9123)
6 Apr 08
because cultures that have arranged marriages are very unnacepting of divorce, so unhappy couples stay together, no matter how miserable. in true marriages, some fail when they no longer love each other, but those that last are happier, as the couple love each other, and chose each other as the person they want to spend the rest of their life with. if people who do not love each other get married, it's not a true marriage, no matter how long they stick it out together.
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• Singapore
4 Apr 08
if you know how to respect another person,and if you know how to put others before yourselves, and if you are able to communicate your feelings effectively to a certan extent that what you say is what you feel, and if you are able to understand and empathise, it doesn't really matter which one you choose to believe in; love or arranged. Both have one thing in common. The relationship is for a lifetime. Keep exploring and you will lose sight of what it is that you want and if you don't explore, you don't know what you want. My suggestion : go for an arranged one where there is sufficient time for you to know an fall in love with one another.
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• Nellore, India
5 Apr 08
i have loved one girl. iam thinking that if my parents agree i will marry her. i have said her even.
@madlees (1381)
• India
7 Apr 08
I have already finished 31 years in a arranged marriage. I do not have any problem. As you said Wahishaji, if one has all the points one can go through anything. I had just seen my husband the day he came to see me. After that I saw him on the marriage day when the ceremoney was being held. I hadn't even spoke to him over phone till then. If you have enough patience and the time to understand and accept the person with his / her faults you can have any marriage you like.
• Nellore, India
7 Apr 08
without talking to him how did u understand him
• Philippines
4 Apr 08
I think arrange marriage is best because you don't have to suffer any problem. The difference between in love and arrange marriage, is that in love marriage you love the person before marriage nad in arrange you start to love after marriage. So it is better to do arrange because you will be happy and your parents also. I am right?
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• Nellore, India
6 Apr 08
ya ur right,thanks for responding.
@madlees (1381)
• India
7 Apr 08
I also believe the same thing. As far as I know after a ove marriage the love decreases but in the arranged arriages it slowly increases as you understand eachother. You get the mutual respect which is needed for a happy relationship.
@egdcltd (6696)
4 Apr 08
In my opinion, neither. Love can wear off, so I think the most important things in any relationship are to like and respect your partner.
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@aowaow (1517)
• Indonesia
5 Apr 08
I agree with you.
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• Nellore, India
5 Apr 08
i will agree with u.trhanks for responding.
@jarred (177)
• Philippines
9 Apr 08
silly question, arranged marriage is never an option. ofcourse love marriage. its like asking , *what would you rather drink* a coke or a unkown liquid.
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• Nellore, India
9 Apr 08
hahahahahahha..............u mean arrange marriages are waste.
@Lyndon54 (29)
• United States
6 Apr 08
Some arranged marriages do work out. It all depends on the personalities of the individuals involved. They may compliment each other very well or their needs and wants may be completely different in which case one or both may be found wanting of a life that they may never have. On the other hand, two people may find love to later lose it by one or the other falling out of love. The equation is not simple. Sometimes we have to base it on trial an error. Most importantly though is the need to become friends before becoming lovers.
• Nellore, India
7 Apr 08
thanks fro responding.
• China
6 Apr 08
love marriage if you can.one has the real love ,they might live long with each other .they know what you like,what you hate ...if you marry a arranged person,you have to spend much time to know about each other .if you don't like ,it is very unluky to you marriage.
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• Nellore, India
6 Apr 08
u haev fall in love or r umarried by arranged marriage. thanks for responding
@Galena (9123)
6 Apr 08
I would not consider for one second marrying someone I do not love. my partner and I have been together, and very in love for nearly 10 years now. we know our relationship works, and has done for a long time, so we know our marriage will work too. It's only a fool who would marry someone without loving them. statistics show that arranged marriages are more likely to last, but that doesn't mean the relationship lasts. just staying together. the societies that accept people marrying without being in love are not accepting of divorce, even if both are miserable, so this statistic does not mean that arranged marriages are better or happier than those between two people who love each other. and how could they be happier. you can't guarantee that marrying someone will make you love them. love has to be there already for marriages to be successful. and by successful I don't mean just not ending in divorce. I mean successful, where both stay in love, and both are happy.
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• Nellore, India
6 Apr 08
thanks for responding
@xenna1986 (228)
• Philippines
6 Apr 08
aRRanged marriage is good so long as both of you learn to love each other coz if not, its a big problem
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• Nellore, India
6 Apr 08
hahahah......thanks for responding
@adnanezzi (243)
• India
6 Apr 08
hi salim i would opt for arrainged one with lots of love in it
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• Nellore, India
6 Apr 08
arranged marriages are waste.
• Philippines
5 Apr 08
Surely, getting married to the person you love. Although they say that you can learn to love a person, I still think marrying the person of your choice is the best. No need to feel rebellious about the feelings, no need to convince yourself to love the person you were arranged to marry. If you marry the person you love, all will be fine, and if there will be arguments, you know for sure you can get past it because you already love each other from the get go and would not allow an argument to break you.
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• Nellore, India
6 Apr 08
thanks fro responding.have a nice day
5 Apr 08
Arrange marriage is wht i would prefer...You can always fall in love after you are married however in 80% of love marriages that i have seen sour away after a couple of years and If you go back in history 70% arrangemarriages have been successful since the evolution of mankind...No offences to any one its an individuals belief..THANKS FOR LETTING ME SHARE MY THOUGHTS...THANKS
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• Nellore, India
6 Apr 08
thanks for responding.
@wy2008 (185)
• China
4 Apr 08
of course it is love marriage better than arranged marriage , maybe love can fade as the time goes by , but i will change to a responsibility to each other and the family .
• Nellore, India
5 Apr 08
thanks for responding.
@hljnalx (27)
• China
4 Apr 08
love marriage or arranged marriage
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• Nellore, India
5 Apr 08
elow i have asked what is ur opinion in that.
@angemac23 (2005)
• Canada
4 Apr 08
I can't see how arranged marriages are good....you are being forced to love someone you don't love.....I would rather find the person I want to be with and marry them instead of someone else telling me who to marry!
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• Nellore, India
5 Apr 08
i too like love marriages. But our parents make force.If i say no, they will blackmail me.iam very sad.