Do you treat others in the same way, as you liked to be treated yourself?

@dpk262006 (53689)
Delhi, India
April 5, 2008 1:27am CST
Dear friends, do you feel that you treat others in the same manner, as you liked to be treated by others. I think, if we wish that we should receive nice treatment from others, we are supposed to be nice and polite to them. If due to some reasons, we do not behave with them in a kind manner, we should expect same treatment from our them. I try to be polite and humble while treating others, except some exceptions, and see to it that they are not offended in any manner. Similarly, I expect that with whom I am nice, polite and humble they should be nice to me, while interacting with me. What are your thoughts on this. Please share. Thanks in advance!!!!!
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@Rozie37 (15505)
• Turkmenistan
5 Apr 08
I do my best to treat others the way I would want to be treated. But, I will admit that sometimes I am a little hard on people as I am sometimes with myself.
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• United States
6 Apr 08
Hi Rozie37, I try to treat others the way I'd like to be treated, but sometimes it's no so easy. There are times when it seems like people take advantage of nice people. That is why I have learned to watch their behavior. If it is something I don't care for, then I slowly withdraw myself. In times like these, it seems the nicer you are the more you get hurt. So I try to learn from people themselves, to save myself a lot of heartache, and pain. Hope I said something to help. popciclecold.
@Rozie37 (15505)
• Turkmenistan
7 Apr 08
I try to remember that the Bible says to be wise as serpents and harmless as doves.
@dpk262006 (53689)
• Delhi, India
8 Apr 08
Thanks for sharing, I conclude that overall you are a 'nice' person.
@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
15 Jan 09
Hello deepak! In this discussion, I remember the Golden Rule " Do unto others what you want others do unto you" or "Do not do unto others what you don't want others do unto you" I guess in order for this world to be peaceful, we should follow this rule but I don't know why it's hard to follow it when in fact it's easy to understand. I can do mistakes too because I know I am only human.
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@dpk262006 (53689)
• Delhi, India
16 Jan 09
HI! Aisa! Many thanks for enlightening me with some very meaningful quotations. I liked it. I agree with you that we should follow it and it will pay in the long run. Everyone can do mistakes, because we all are human, but the point is how many dare to admit their mistakes, some people are in the habit of not accepting their mistakes.
• United States
16 Jan 09
you're right deepak..some people are really denial..that's why there are wars because of denying their mistakes..
• Philippines
17 Apr 08
Well, i treated other people nicely as often i should. I am kind and shy, when people wants to talk to me i entertained them but still there are people whom you cannot understand like they are not giving you a fair treatment. Of course everyone of us like to be treated the way we treated other people and if our behaivor is like these i think everyone of us are will be friends.
@dpk262006 (53689)
• Delhi, India
17 Apr 08
Thanks for sharing,I know you are very nice.
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@stephcjh (32385)
• United States
5 Apr 08
I always treat others like I wanted to be treated but it never seems to come back around to me alot of times. I have always gone out of my way to be nice and kind to others but they take advantage of me and treat me with disrespect in return. I will never figure that out. It has been this way all of my life.
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@dpk262006 (53689)
• Delhi, India
8 Apr 08
Thanks for sharing. You play your part nicely....let others do whatever they feel. We should be clear in our minds that we behave with someone nicely.
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@plumwish07 (4060)
• Indonesia
5 Apr 08
if possible, we should treat other better than our own self if we not able to do that so please thread another as like your self, but if you also not able to do such kind thing then you should not do anything which might hurt them but sometimes, whn we treat another in good way, we not always accept the same thing from another, so in this case, don't be disappointed. you should be sure that everything happens cause of reason
@dpk262006 (53689)
• Delhi, India
9 Apr 08
We should be positive and kind from our side, it is for others to understand the things and behave in a befitting manner.Thanks for sharing.
@nengs10 (3189)
• Philippines
16 Apr 08
Yes, I do. I love myself. And with such self-esteem, I manage to treat others fairly well. It's a matter of respecting other around you. As many would say, respect begets respect. That's the golden rule of life here on earth.
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@ozzeth (942)
• Philippines
16 Apr 08
There are some expectations and we can't avoid that fact. But we can't please anybody and we can't asked a returned for what we did to someone. Important is we treat people in a good way and can able to help in the same manner.
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@crazylady (471)
• United States
14 Apr 08
Yes, I live my life by the golden rule. I am trying to enforce it with my kids, which is challenging.
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@rhane7315 (5674)
• Philippines
12 Apr 08
i also treat them in the same manner that i wanted to be treated. i like to play jokes on them, tell some stories to them most of the time and they also treat me that way
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@jason_co (408)
• Philippines
12 Apr 08
I treat myself by buying some stuff that I really like. Ilke shoes and cloths. I like to go to malls to finds some mark down price shoes. If I found something I brought it on the spot.
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@MH4444 (2161)
• United States
6 Apr 08
I had this discussion with a guy this past year. He said that he thought it was funny to "mess" with people that "deserved"it; and how he admired those that are clever in that. I was really upset at him. I explained to him that things can come back on you and potentially with a vengence! I told him that he was messing with real trouble. I also told him that I was not interested in being friends with anyone that behaved like that. He asked why as if it were surprising. I explained that I treat everyone as I would expect to be treated even if they don't deserve it. I don't help those that are jerks; but I am polite as possible and then simply avoid them He got really upset and hung up on me! Creep!
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@winterose (39931)
• Canada
6 Apr 08
you are right and there is the expression what goes around comes around, I try, sometimes I have to check myself and say no that is not right to talk to that person like that so I do apologize then.
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@mbs730 (2155)
• Canada
6 Apr 08
I also try to be nice but I also can be nasty if I am pushed, but then again others have been the same with me if I rub them the wrong way. So I guess you do give what you get.. however most of the time if I am not judged in anyway, I have no reason to be nasty to anyone. I try to mind my own business.
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@tops76 (289)
• India
6 Apr 08
Upto some extent yes I treat others in the same way, as I liked to be treated myself. But not always. Some time we need to treat them really bad for their own benefit. Its sounds bad, but what will you do.. its a part of our duty and we get paid for this. Theoretically its unfair but its not feasible practically. Whether we like it or not we have to follow this practical way.
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@Pose123 (21671)
• Canada
5 Apr 08
Hi dpk, This is what I try to do, but it isn't easy for anyone. Like others I often fail. Blessings.
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@prasanta (1947)
• India
5 Apr 08
I always like to do so, But people often misuse my good manner. Once I am hit by someone, I change my attitude to that person.
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@prasanta (1947)
• India
5 Apr 08
I sincerely try to do so. However, honestly speaking, often I fail to do so. Because, many people exploit my gentleness. So, once I get hit by a person, I change my attitude.
@SViswan (12095)
• India
6 Apr 08
Though I do practice this, I've been thinking about this. What if the other person doesn't like to be treated the way I like to be treated? Then, it would backfire, na? Generally, it is fine....and being polite just as you would expect someone else to be polite to you is a great thing. But in the last few years, I have tried to understand how people would like to be treated and do it that way.
@dpk262006 (53689)
• Delhi, India
8 Apr 08
Thanks for sharing, I agree with your 'backfire' theory. I think we should play our part nicely....rest depends upon the other fellow.
@SViswan (12095)
• India
10 Apr 08
Yes, I agree. As long as we are polite and not offending anyone,we have to be ourselves...and everything else would fall into place.
@ciades (1624)
• Philippines
5 Apr 08
yeah i am! i am a kind of nice person i think? Lol. I do my best to be good to person and im considerate. So im thinkin and asking myself that.. how there are people can't and hard to be considerate.? On that manner expectations is arise but sometimes you failed to accept vice versa from them. Meaning once you give or share to someone you should not to expect any return that behind your expectations.
@dpk262006 (53689)
• Delhi, India
8 Apr 08
Thanks for sharing, I conclude that overall you are a 'nice' person.
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@ciades (1624)
• Philippines
10 Apr 08
@nzalheart (2352)
• India
23 Jan 09
I find most of the people in this world the same. i.e. They behave me like I behave them. If I start joking with them, they too start to joke with me, if I be serious with them, they become serious with me, if i start irritating them, they too start offending me. So to get what you expect giving others the same you want is the necessary thing to do.
@dpk262006 (53689)
• Delhi, India
24 Jan 09
It means you get good company of sane and wise people, who immediately gel with you. Great! Thanks for sharing.