pre-nuptial agreements

United States
April 5, 2008 7:40am CST
what does everyone think about prenups? do you think a person really doesn't love you if they want you to sign a prenup??
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7 responses
• United States
5 Apr 08
Well I think there shouldnt be one signed. and this is why, I think marriage should be something that lasts forever. so if their are problems in the marriage they need to be worked out regardless to whether its counseling or so on. If it was a marriage of convience then that would be a diffrent story and thats what probally most hollywood marriages are and I think that they should sign one then.
@Elixiress (3893)
25 May 08
I am not sure about them and it kind of shows my hypocritical side. If I was very wealthy when I got married and the person I was marrying was not too well off then I would probably want to sign one, but if my partner wanted me to sign one then I would feel as though he was calling me a gold digger.
@roanne05 (1292)
• Oman
25 May 08
i don't agree with this...it would make me feel untrust..also it would make me feel i don't trust my partner enough..well it true that not only love makes a relationship works,,,but atleast give credit to your partner and also to yourself that you've chosen the right person...
@StarBright (2799)
• United States
25 May 08
The pre-nup does not go far enough. There should be a divorce agreement. It should work sort of like "Scared Straight". Before you get married, you should be forced to spend a day at the Self-help center for divorces (to see what people go through when they can't afford a lawyer, talk to them, hear their stories) and a day in divorce court (to see what happens when people go before the judge, including their child custody battles). After the court orientation, then fthe happy couple should each get a lawyer and an advocate to sit down and hammer out a divorce agreement. The divorce agreement would clearly state the terms of any separation. Sort of like a living will. If we get a dog, you will have visitation 20% of the time. Over and above any child support and visitation rights agreed on, any and all money from any sources derived by any means will be split 50-50 regardless of the circumstances. If you are caught cheating, you forfeit your 50% and I get everything plus 25% of all future earnings. The divorce agreement should be so solid that all they have to do, should they decide to split, is take the document to court and have it recorded. If they are still in love after preparing this non-revocable divorce agreement, then they can get married.
@iZoran (111)
• Serbia And Montenegro
25 May 08
It's a sad reflection on society which has caused this evil neccessity. We no longer live with the mindset of marriage being marriage. Those vows you take were never meant to leave room for a get out clause, unfortunately one exists...divorce. In older days you stuck with the marriage no matter how bad it was, you would always work through those bad times. Nowadays divorce is becoming the first option. How would you like to give the best years of your life to the person you loved to find he or she wanted out? Where would that leave you? Would it be fair to leave with nothing? On the other hand, would it be fair to take everything? I think a pre-nuptial agreement is designed to ensure both partners know where they stand if the worse happens.
@SomeCowgirl (32265)
• United States
25 May 08
I think that people who sign a prenup are just not trusting that their marriage will last so they want to be prepared and know how to divide their belongings. I think it's sad that some people will go into a marriage with something like this... A piece of paper divides your property? Not an idea I like.
@rocky777 (353)
• India
5 Apr 08
A pre-nuptial is not about love but about money. And I think it is a very good idea, especially if the two partners in marriage are not financially well matched. Because the number one problem in marriages is not surprise, surprise anything else but money. If one partner comes to a marriage with a lot of money, I do believe the other partner has not earned the right to enjoy that money just yet. If the poor partner contributes to the marriage to make it work the way a marriage should, and that allows the rich partner to continue to earn the way he/she does, then the poor partner is definitely entitled to half the earnings he or she has helped earn. Spelling out who gets what and when, right at the very start puts everything in black and white, and I think that would help make for a strong marriage.