who do you miss more?

hi mylesnarvae... im currently at sydney now and had been away from my family and my boyfriend since october 2006... im also from the philippines.. i miss my family a lot but as time goes by i am missing more my boyfriend..thinking my plans on how to get along with him when i visit philippines. my mind speaks differently from my heart. i love learning about pyschological behaviour of humans and so i found out that most of our actions and choice in actual dilemma situation is different from the choices we make when we are just being told to choose. as i expected most of the responses are favorable to family. you are in actual situation so it might be you who can answer on my doubt correctly. if you are going back to the philippines but cannot be with your family at the same time with your boyfriend... who are you going to spend your days with? take into the situation that as if you can only choose one. it isnt a matter of choosing who is going to live.. but who would you think you will be having fun more. thank you mylesnarvaez.. :D

this is tough for me. i'm in a situation wherein it's a safer answer to just tell you it would be my family. coz i know i would have fun no matter what... when i'm with my family. but i also don't want to kid myself by not saying that i really long to be with my boyfriend now (as it's often the case). it's just that it's so lonely and sad to think about him right now... when all is not going well in our relationship. the distance (physical and emotional) is killing me. i think about my boyfriend more than i do with my family. but then again, the situation is, thinking of my family would make me smile happily, whereas thinking of my boyfriend will just produce a sad smile along with tears. on the day that i responded to your discussion, it so happens, there was a birthday celebration in my family. naturally, i am missing my family more that day. on regular days... i miss my boyfriend terribly. there were times when we see each other only once a month or once every two months. not much going on, i'd say. and not much of a relationship being built too. i guess you miss your boyfriend more, considering it's almost a year and a half ago since you've been to the philippines. when family members live apart, they are still family no matter what, love has not diminished whatsoever, no awkwardness whatsoever. but for a couple in a relationship, it's different. living apart kinda brings back the "stranger" feeling (including the physical frustration caused by lack of intimacy for a period of time...hahaha). i can only say what i'm experiencing right now. bottomline is, you feel the way you do. if you miss your bf more... it's quite acceptable. :)

as for the last question, given a choice, i'd spend it with my boyfriend. we spend so little time together, i want to make up for it. with family, i can always see them as often as i want... so no prob with that. :)

great answer!! i am astonished.. you responded differently from others which indicates you know the real environment of the situation..but it dont actually say that other people's opinion isnt acceptable.. thank you.. i achieved my objectives making this post