Is it necessary for me to make a compromise to my child?

China
April 6, 2008 7:32am CST
My son is 11 years old. Sometimes, he does something but I think it is not good. So, I ask him to stop. But he doesn't follow me and argues with me. I am angry. I can't persude him. I am disappoint with him. I don't know how to do. Is it necessary for me to make a compromise to my child?
3 responses
@suganrekh (264)
• India
6 Apr 08
What he does that you didn't like tell me at least 2 situations so that I can let you know
• China
7 Apr 08
I make a wrong operation. So, I upload two discussions. Sorry.
@Lyndon54 (29)
• United States
6 Apr 08
Compromise is not an option. You are the parent. We do not want the tail wagging the dog. There are punitive measures that could be taken without force like denying him something that he likes. Children must learn that their parents are there to set them on a straight course so that they may be able to do the same with their kids when the time comes. Most importantly we must lead by example. Do not tell the to do one thing and you are doing something entirely different. They must not hear you lie or ill speak someone or any of the negative attributes. There must be a positive environment at all times.
• China
7 Apr 08
It is ture. Example is important and affect the mind of child . It is more effective than words.
@Phlamingho (7831)
• Denmark
6 Apr 08
You are the parent and the one in charge, of course you shouldn't bend for you child. You have to be firm otherwise it'll just get worse from now on.
• China
7 Apr 08
Good advice. I realize that I should insist my correct points and don't bent to children's wrong action. But, in order to correct their behavior, I have to use punishment. This way hurt my heart and I am worried if it damages our relationship.