We are a "Get Away With It" society!

@raydene (9875)
United States
April 6, 2008 8:18am CST
Hello and happy Sunday While answering another discussion I decided I needed to rant abit! I am very concerned for the future of this country and what will be for my darling grandchildren and their children. We keep finding new ways to get away with it! When I was a child born 1950 we were taught to be responsible for our actions. The actual deed was never as important as our actions after. If you admitted your mistake/deed be sorry for it and NEVER lie to get out of it.. your punishment was slight...but hot-damn if you lied or tried to blame some innocent person your punishment was swift and severe! We were never spanked or struck but had extra chores and bed early for nights without tv and my Da had a way of being sad for a while when you did something really bad so you just didn't want to make him sad again. Da used to say "You wanna dance you gonna have ta pay the fiddler" and "You make your bed .. you're gonna sleep in it" These basicly meant that you would be held responsible for your action...you and noone else! So what has happened in the last 40-50 years to our society? People get away with murder if they can afford a good lawyer! We quit using things up and just throw away and buy new! If it feels good do it came along and no matter who it hurts got added very shortly! And abortion...Don't get excited prochoicers... I'm just saying this is just another way that we are not paying the fiddler or sleeping in the messy bed! We are saying go do what you want and if you get caught we will make it go away. Cheating on exams...stealing from the workplace welfare/insurance fraud... Ok That's enough but I could go on and on... What are your thoughts? xoxoxoxoxoxoo
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13 responses
6 Apr 08
I understand where you're coming from. The balance of morality seems to have shifted. My partner and I are always saying how the youth here have no respect for their elders like we were taught to when we were their age. It's really depressing. Not so long ago if a person caught a kid doing wrong they'd march them to their parents' house shamefaced and tell them off themselves along the way. Now they just get the kids laughing and swearing in their face. Are you ok? You sound like you're kind of down about it all? I admit it's hard. I keep trying to focus on all the beauty in the world instead, but it's not always easy. There are still a few flowers amongst the weeds though.
@raydene (9875)
• United States
6 Apr 08
Awww Doll Thanks for your concern I am fine... I just found I had things to throw out there and was wondering if anyone else is thinking of our falling apart society.. Remember out of awareness... a new path is found! xoxoxoxoxoxo
@mummymo (23707)
7 Apr 08
Well Mom does it help to know that I focus on the kids having self responsibility? They have known since they could talk that if they lie they will get into BIG trouble but if they tell the truth they won't get into nearly so much trouble! I think more of us should take responsibility for our own actions and teach our children to do the same - I am sure there would be a lot less pain in the world if we did! xxx
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@raydene (9875)
• United States
8 Apr 08
Hi Darling You are sooooooo right! I do think that the role models that kids have make a big difference.. Many are giving lip service but not doing it themselves! xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
• India
7 Apr 08
Ah atlast .. someone has realised that we have changed.. I know I'm young enough to make a comment .. You may say " you havent seen the world" .. but yes.. I have wisdom in some aspects of life.. Its high time that people realise they are getting away from their mistakes and spoiling their future and the futures of their younger gen.. For Example... Politicians.. They are the ones who wage wars, but who's at the receiving end, we, the general public.. There are a very few % of people out there who really want a war..
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@raydene (9875)
• United States
7 Apr 08
Well said Honey This is nothing new.. I marched in anti-Nam protests in hte 60's We just seemed to have standards then! xoxoxoxoxoxo
• Philippines
7 Apr 08
That's so true and it's very sad.In fairness,innocent people are the ones blamed sometimes.
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@raydene (9875)
• United States
7 Apr 08
Ofcourse Doll Many times the wrong person gets blamed for the mis-deeds of others. So sad,no? xoxoxoxoxoxo
@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
7 Apr 08
I totally agree with you and we both know it is not getting any better Things are made to easy for People to get away with a lot of things today That is why the world the way it is now because they know they will get away with it xxx
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@raydene (9875)
• United States
7 Apr 08
Yes Angel We are sad but it doesn't really help! I guess like all things we must insist on decent behavior in our homes and be a good example. xoxoxoxoxoxxo
@winterose (39918)
• Canada
7 Apr 08
I agree on most issues, but some issues, are not that easy to discern when we are not in the person's shoes, it was socrates who said to not judge a man unless you have walked in his shoes, and that is so true even today.
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@raydene (9875)
• United States
7 Apr 08
Yes Sweets You are right the discussion was in general mostly! I agree with you. xoxoxoxoxoxo
@cripfemme (7718)
• United States
7 Apr 08
I know it may seem like that, but some in younger generation are honest like me. I just had my boss mail me a check for $300 when she only owed me $200. I reported it right away because I didn't want to lie. My boss said it was fine and I could cash it anyway, because I needed to pay for something. Don't give up hope!
@raydene (9875)
• United States
7 Apr 08
Hey Doll There is lots of good in the younger people but also lots of horrible choises being made. I am concerned for what will come next. xoxoxoxoxoxox
@bradhart (659)
• United States
7 Apr 08
I actually think the lack of responsibility people take in their lives is the fault of religion becoming more political and domineering in society. In the various christian denominations, everything is either divine province or is really okay so long as you accept Jesus and ask for gods forgiveness after you get caught. I can't name you a single big name minister outside of the pope who hasn't been caught doing something wrong. I am not putting pope benny on a pedestal, just saying I am unaware of any of his legal or personal failures.
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@raydene (9875)
• United States
7 Apr 08
Sorry Honey but I disagree. There are lots of wonderful caring people in other then christain relegions. I am Bahai...I love God..I pray.. I worship and so do many others here that have not accepted Jesus. I hope you will not be offended.. I do not mean to offend or hurt anyone's feelings....I ma just saying that you can drive different kinds of vehicles and still get to the same place! oxxoxoxoxoxxoxoxo
• United States
6 Apr 08
Yeah I agree with you on somethings our world is out of control. But to me when it comes to kids we as parents need to step up and fix that problem. So that when there older they know right from wrong. But in another since my parents or should I say parent tought me what was right and what was moral. As for when I was a kid I was pretty good. But when I turned into an adult I was totaly out of control.I had a few problems and made some bad choices. Lucky for me someone else seen what i didn't see in myself. That person is a judge and state prosecutor.They seen the patincual I had yes I payed for my actions but the consequences weren't as savere as they should have been.Thank god I relized what a gift they had gave me my freedom in a sense.I took that chance and ran with it. I can say proudly today im trying to make better choices with my life.So the reason for my babaling is to say people can change and we aren't all bad. Theres still good that comes from bad.
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@raydene (9875)
• United States
7 Apr 08
Aww Sweetheart... I know there is alot of good out there I also know that good people sometimes make bad choises and many do not come back from them Thankfully you did. Good for you Doll... You are one in a million! Huge Hugs xoxoxoxoxoxoxo
@callarse1 (4793)
• United States
6 Apr 08
Hey ma'am raydene, how are you doing? Did you see my disscussion about the 3rd graders trying to harm their teacher? While I tend to agree with some of your points, I disagree on others. For example, you claim that everyone back then admited their mistakes and didn-t try to blame anyone. While that may have been true for you, I am sure we can examine the past 100 years and find many criminals that tried to "get away with it", right? Basically there has always been bad and evil. I just believe we have ignored a lot of it over the years, and since now a days we have so much media exposure and technology we hear about most of this "bad" stuff. Back in the day since there wasn't so much we didn't hear about it so much. And I agree there are people that need to take responsibility for their actions. How about those kids trying to hurt their teacher? At least they took responsibility and I hope their parents will actually do something. It depends on a lot of things: where you live, your parents, your school, your community leaders, yourself, friends, etc. It sounds like you were raised very well, and perhaps you could become a Big Sister to help a kid not so fortunte? How does that sound? :). God Bless You! Pablo
@raydene (9875)
• United States
7 Apr 08
Well Sweets I was referring to my self and my family. And we didn't all turn out ok! But our sats are better then most! Thanks for jumping in and thanks for being my friend. xoxoxoxoxoxxo
@Polly1 (12649)
• United States
6 Apr 08
I so agree with you. We are also a "throw away society", goods are made so cheaply that when it breaks, don't bother fixing it. Just throw it away and get a new one. Thats with most things, even children. If the mothers don't abort the babies, they have them and just get rid of them. Or they ship them off to school, daycare or the babysiters. We as people need to start taking responsibility for our own actions. My mom was a good one for the old saying. "you made your bed now lie in it". I do believe that when we are taking responsibility and are having it tough, then we should be able to get help. None of us are perfect, we all do make mistakes. When we own up to our mistakes, its nice if we are not abanded and we are offered help.
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@raydene (9875)
• United States
7 Apr 08
Well said Polly Dear I do think that sometimes people don't know the difference between 'helping' and 'doing it for' xoxoxoxoxoxoo
@BarBaraPrz (20126)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
6 Apr 08
You're right. You're absolutely right. But I don't have any answers for you.
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@raydene (9875)
• United States
7 Apr 08
I don't know what is happening but I answered this response before and I just saw that this is no reply.. Thanks Doll xoxoxoxoxo
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@MsTickle (24980)
• Australia
12 Apr 08
It's been a sadness of mine for some time that people don't seem to have values and standards like they did "in the old days". We can only try to live our lives appropriately and set a good example. I think the breakdown of family life is a consequence of people thinking they are entitled to a better life than those who went before them. I think it's a generational thing.