I lost a friend to Cancer....

@chiyosan (30206)
Philippines
April 6, 2008 9:35pm CST
I just lost a friend to a cancer... she has been battling with this for almost 4-5 years now. It started with Breast Cancer and has had many other complications... I was with her all these time, and i saw her move right back in... start work and live normally and will then have another bad news every year that the cancer cells have yet again moved to another part of her body... I dont even know how to tell her to keep fighting this disease, i have lost all positive words and i just did not know how to pray anymore and ask God to save her and let her live happily as this is what she truly deserved. I came from her funeral yesterday... I could not contain myself anymore and cried and cried with all her relatives there and her husband, and her 6 year old boy... I feel at loss having to deal with the thought that she is no longer with us, that she has given up and has gone to see what is in store for her outside our world. I just couldnt believe it! i am so hurt and soo confused... I will have to bear the thought of not receiving any more messages from her. she is so thoughtful of her friends and never forgets them.. I will have to bear the thought that her desk at work will be empty and will be replaced by another.. i don't know if i should accept that idea... i am most affected... with this.. and i feel she is a great loss... no one did expect her to leave so soon and i dont know if i can concentrate on anything that i will do having her in my mind all the time...
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@diansinta (7551)
• Indonesia
13 Apr 08
Oh, chiyosan, i am very sorry for that poor girl. I remember she is the one that yo make a discussion and pray for her to get well? I am very sorry. Be brave for let her go.
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@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
17 Apr 08
i know i should.. still i can't understand why she has to go this early... its been over a week... i can't manage to delete her number in my phone and looks at her messages to me... :(
@vanities (11387)
• Davao, Philippines
28 Apr 08
i understand what you feel..but as the saying goes life must go on...we will reach to that point but the thing is we dont know yet the time..just pray for peace of her soul..thats the best thing you could do i guess...cheer up!!
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
2 May 08
i know we will all meet in the end.. :( its just why does she have to go too soon?
@bubblyapple (2655)
• Philippines
9 Apr 08
i'm so sorry to hear that, i know its really hard for you.. . i know she is close to you and i'm shocked also when i heard the news, i heard her story from you and i know how much you care for her. even me, I do not expect she will go this soon. now i realized that life is really short..and i've learned that we should not waste every minute of our lives. hope you will be alright soon. :-)
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
10 Apr 08
yes.. she is really a great person. thinking about her just makes me sad. i have not totally accepted the fact that she was indeed gone... our friends at work made a video in memory of her... i haven't opened it yet... i know i will remember again.. and would be crying so much if i did see that. i need to have more courage to see that... :(
@spoiled311 (5502)
• Philippines
7 Apr 08
oh that is so sad... we lost my grand father to cancer too. but it was so fast that since he was diagnosed, he was gone in a month. but i think it is so sad, when there is hope of recovery, then one finds out that the cancer is back etc. sigh...have faith dear. mourn for your friend, but don;t get too sad and depressed. things will let up. God bless you!
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
8 Apr 08
thank yuo... yes, things will be better.. we just need time.
@subha12 (18453)
• India
7 Apr 08
its very very sad to hear this. Its actually such a dreaded disease taht nobody is going to cope with it. how can it be prevented or stopped? I hope someone will come up with an answer to it. i pray for hr soul to rst in peace,.
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
13 Jan 13
thank you for the prayers, its going to be few months before the anniversary and i miss her, and these discussion makes me just want to remember her all over again.
@mbs730 (2152)
• Canada
7 Apr 08
Wow I am so sorry, I wish I could say something helpful and I can't imagine what you and her family are going through. Why is it that the good are always the ones who suffer the most? My friend lost a friend to cancer as well and it was one of the worst things my friend had to cope with. Take all the time to grieve, I wish I could say something comforting :( I am sorry, once again for the loss of your friend.
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
7 Apr 08
She's kind hearted. She did not deserve what she went through in the last months and weeks that she has suffered. thank you very much. I wish not to feel such pain with her loss but i just can't.
@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
7 Apr 08
That is such very sad news.. It is sad for your friend's family also.. It is so very hard to lose someone that you love to this horrible disease.. Cancer is devastating and is so hard on the family, not to mention the person who is fighting it.. I know that it is hard on you also, you can tell it in your discussion, I can tell that you are in pain.. I am at a loss for words except to tell you that you and your friend's family will be in my prayers.. God does have a plan for us and it isn't always easy to accept what happens in life iwthout questioning it, but we will all find out some day.. I pray that God will help you find the answers that you seem to be looking for.. Stay a frien to her family and check on them as often as you can, they can't feel like they have lost everyone, be there for them as much as you can.. God Bless
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
7 Apr 08
yes, that is what i am trying to do. :( i am really hurt by this and i feel i can not move on.. not yet. i am always in tears every time i remember her. life is not the same without her... thank you for your kind words.
• United States
7 Apr 08
I'm sorry to hear that chiyosan. Life is indeed short and we have to make the best of it while living. I guess, your friend is blessed enough to have people by her side, like you, who put up with her the unbearableess of the situation. It is really difficult to find words to console her, but as I look at it, your mere presence is a powerful expression itself of your compassion, concern and care. Pray for her soul. Pray for her bereaving loved ones too. We can always hope that at the end of our lives, we can always look back at the many people who gave meaning in our lives in this otherwise plain existence.
@andrejuly84 (1047)
• Romania
7 Apr 08
So sad when someone die, most of all of this cruel disease which is cancer. I have a case in my family my mother in law.I am sorry for the great loss you suffered.you need the power to pass over this but don't know how fast this can happen probably will have to pass a time.it's difficult and very sad.keep praying, maybe she will be happy in heaven