what will you do if you found out that your brother/sister was a gay/lesbian?

@rhane7315 (5673)
Philippines
April 7, 2008 7:36am CST
i have a 18 year old younger brother who's gay but he doesn't cross-dress. he told me that he's a homosexual, not a gay. i didn't believe in that lol because most of his dates are men older than him (i think their age ranges from 20-28). he also has a boyfriend right now and their endearment was daddy and mommy kinda funny right? well his boyfriend was the "daddy" and of course my younger brother was the "mommy." my mother and father also know this. in fact they accepted him whole heartedly even though he's like that and they always reminding my little brother to know his limitations. i'm not mad at my younger brother, in fact, as long as he is happy with what he is doing, i'm happy for him also. but my older brother was mad at me because he said that i'm always tolerating our younger brother that's why he became gay lol is it really my fault?
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6 responses
• United States
7 Apr 08
That is a ridiculous notion and don't you believe that for a second. Your brother is homosexual because of an internal choice he made, not anything that anyone has done. Do not feel responsible for his choice, because he would have done this no matter how you would have treated him. If I was to find out that my brother or one of my sisters were gay, I would treat them no different than I do now. I have nothing against homosexuals, and have had a few as friends, both male and female. The only reason we are no longer friends is that we lost touch from me moving. These are still people, and there is no reason to treat a person differently because of their preference of whom accompanies them to the bedroom.
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@rhane7315 (5673)
• Philippines
8 Apr 08
thanks i'm glad that i'm not the reason why our younger brother was that. i also ask my younger brother why he became like that and what is his main reason. he told me that our older brother made him that way. i don't know what he means about that but one thing that i know is that they always fight on something lol
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• China
8 Apr 08
Hello dear rhane. So maybe there is something happening between your younger and older brother that makes your younger brother this way, I guess, now that he says so?
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• United States
8 Apr 08
Please don't take offense to what I am about to say. The only way your brother could have made him that way is if he sexually abused him when they were younger. Otherwise it isn't his fault either. When someone decides they are gay, usually no one is at fault. Sometimes it does come from abuse as a child, but even then it is the choice of the individual what he/she likes as they get older.
@david2005 (800)
• Canada
14 May 08
If I found out that a brother or sister of mine was gay or lesbian I wouldn't care as long as they found someone that they love and that makes them happy.
@rhane7315 (5673)
• Philippines
14 May 08
wow you're a good brother after all i salute you for that
@ozzeth (942)
• Philippines
28 Apr 08
Our youngest is also a gay rhane! WE found out when he confessed to us when he was only 14 years old. At first my brother and especially my father hardly to accept it. But, Me with my sister and my mother explained it to them. So, later on... they accepted the fact that my brother is Gay. Well, my brother is a gay but he is a good and well mannered gay. Actually he will be graduated next year in a course of Nursing. He is so handsome. HE got his face to my father. Very handsome but unlucky to the girls whom a crushed with him coz HE is a SHE now and not a HANDSOME anymore but PRETTY . LOl
@rhane7315 (5673)
• Philippines
28 Apr 08
lol i wonder why do most of the handsome guys were gay?
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
26 Apr 08
People are what they are, it is not something that is influenced by any other person or thing, circumstance or environment. I think that it's wonderful that it doesn't matter to you and tolerance is and should be the norm, not the alternative which is a judgemental and rude attitude toward an obvious difference. It doesn't reflect on you or anybody else, so people should stop making it about them. I mean your younger brother's preferences and attractions have nothing to do with your older brother, so it's my general opinion that the older brother needs to mind his own business and butt out of any comments on your younger brother's life, including how you feel about it. So few people are truly happy, it's a nice change to see somebody who is, regardless of how they arrived there.
@rhane7315 (5673)
• Philippines
26 Apr 08
thanks for that mommyboo
@Kierstal (143)
• United States
21 May 08
Wow, your brother thinks that tolerance of gays made him gay? That's so sad.. Genuinely gay people are who they are from birth, it's not a choice that you can blame people for making. Granted, homosexuality is sort of a fad these days in some circles, people who choose to go through the motions to be popular. But no, your tolerance of your brother didn't MAKE him gay - but perhaps it did contribute to how comfortable he is with it. It's great that he doesn't have to live 'in the closet' about his sexuality - he'd have been gay no matter how you treated him, but showing your tolerance has made him more secure and confident in himself, which is fantastic! It's very awesome of you to accept your little brother for who he is! I know how hard it is to be a non-straight person and have people you care about not accept you. I myself have a transgender partner, who will someday be female, and she's having a very hard time telling her family about it. Continue to be supportive of your little bro and let him know you care about him no matter who he loves, and he will always remember that and thank you for it!
@teka44 (3425)
• Brazil
14 May 08
Hi rhane. Don't feel offended but your older brother is a stupid. Be homosexual is a choice and nothing wrong with this. I had many homosexuals friends and they were the best friends I have had in life. Don't care about what your older brother say. You only need to care about what kind of person your younger brother is no matter the choices he does. I'm sure that he is a nice person,sensible, with sense. Give him all your love because, if I'm not wrong, he is your true family. cheers my friend rhane.