will you borrow monery from your friend???

China
April 7, 2008 9:07pm CST
It says that you can check if you have a real friend only when you meet difficult things. And now because of work or internet, we have more chance to know new friends. But i wonder if you will borrow money from your friend?? And if you try to ask money from him, he can believe you or not. Whether he wants to help you when you need, it's a question. In my opinion, mostly, i never ask money from any friend of me. Because i am afraid of seeing their doubt eyes. And if someone of my friend ask me for help, i will consider and then make decision according to his quality. Dear friend, could you pls kindly tell me if you borrow money from your friend? tks!
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31 responses
• United States
8 Apr 08
I personally would never ask my friends for money if its a big ammount, only my family. I'm a very independant person and I would feel awful taking or borrowing money from anyone, thats just how I grew up. My friends have never really asked me for any money, they feel kind of how I do. In high school they would ask me for a couple dollars if they didn't bring money to school and that was fine but they always paid me back. If they were in trouble and needed money I would definitly help them but only my close friends that I really trust. Money is a precious thing and you have to be cautious about it!
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• China
8 Apr 08
yes, i agree with you for money is precious thing. hehe, but if most of your friends borrow monery from other friends instead of you, will you feel a little sad? do you think they trust others than you?
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@lisan23 (444)
• United States
8 Apr 08
Absolutely not. I used to work for a payday loan company and there was this woman who had never paid back a loan but kept re-applying for a new loan. We kept rejecting her and one day she came into the store asking why we kept rejecting her applications. I showed her how she had taken out a loan a little over a year earlier and had never paid it back. I told her we wouldn't loan her more money if she hasn't even paid back the money we loaned her the first time. She was throwing a fit about it so I asked her if she would loan money to a friend that hadn't paid her back for money she had already loaned to them before that. She said "Of course not, that is how you end up on Judge Judy". I then told her that we wouldn't loan her more money, because we didn't want to end up taking her to court over unpaid loans. That shut her up and she never applied again. But it's true, if your friend never pays you back then it ruins the friendship. I don't loan money to anyone and I don't ask to borrow from anyone.
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@mbs730 (2152)
• Canada
8 Apr 08
No I would NEVER ask a friend for money. That could create more problems in a friendship. What if you are unable to pay your friend back when he or she wants you to? Or what if you ask to borrow money and he or she declines to lend you any? Those issues alone could create issues within a friendship. If I really need money, I would take out a loan! I wouldn't risk any of my friendships by asking for money.
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@yogeshdhusa (2237)
• India
8 Apr 08
yes we normally do it, but the thing is if i borrow money from my friend, he does not keep track and will never ask 'give me my money back". same when he borrows, its vica versa. its like i help him and he help me, and want nothing in return just true friendship.
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• China
8 Apr 08
during my life, this can be only happen in male friendship and very few to see. i have a male classmates, who always asking money from his friend without trakcing back, and at first they think no problem of this. sometimes this guy pay, sometimes the other guy pay. but 1 year later, they broke up just becasue of money matter. in fact, money will be big problem once you fail to deal with your friends well.
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• Costa Rica
8 Apr 08
How would you describe a person as a "friend" ? And why would you need to borrow money ? And how would your "friend" see you as a person ? Would he/she see you as a friend, in the same manner as you of him/her ? Would you lend money to me right now ? Think about it.
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• China
8 Apr 08
but you must agree with me that it's true that someone at first was your friend, but then become stranger. you can not say that they are never been your friends. so pls think about this too.
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@pooh08 (672)
• Vietnam
8 Apr 08
I have sometimes borrow my friend money. But I always think I borrow money when I haven't have money right now. When I have money, I'll pay money to the friend who I borrow immediately. I don't want the friend I borrow call me pay back.
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@jesiear (53)
8 Apr 08
I never borrow money from my good friends,I don't like to get the fondation of money relationship. i don't think this is a way to make the dicision to his quality.Now I have three good friends,I just share my good and bad feelings with them,and go shoping together.if she needs money,of course I will borrow her.
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@seejay (3)
• Canada
8 Apr 08
No. I wouldnt cause i know how it feels if it was ever to be never returned. Okay maybe if its really necessary and u need it desperately and immediately then why not? Just dont use it for bad reasons causes.
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• India
8 Apr 08
i will never borrow any money from my friends. i will gwt if and only if it was a crucial situation. when i reach home i will immediately take measures to clear his money. money will break any relations
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• United States
8 Apr 08
I agree with Rintintin, I would not want to be a borrower or a lender be. If my friends wants to give me money, then that's his/her choice, but I won't ask for it. It causes nothing but trouble between friends and often can end friendships. I would also not give any money to my friends unless I can give it as a gift, that way I don't have to worry about needing the money in the future and having to ask for it back and causing a problem.
• United States
9 Apr 08
When it comes to my closest friends, we don't borrow from one another, we give and never ask them to return. I am into a special kind of brotherhood which professes to a faith and discipline as a vow. So we are kind of bonded by a special bond which makes me consider them like my brothers and sisters. No, as far as they are concerned, I don't borrow from them, nor they from me. We simply give it away. And that goes true for my siblings as well. I don't ask them to pay, nor they ask me to pay something I owe them. It's like an unwritten code. Friendship, sharing, brotherhood and bond come to us more than the amount. Well, I am sure you are reffering to another kind of friendship. You were reffering to friends which we meet in the internet, or, for instance, the friends which we have in mylot? No of course, I will not borrow money from them pal. Because they are not that known to me. But I stick with my definition of friend. And as far as my experience is concerned, NO, I don't borrow, and they don't borrow to me. We simply give and receive.
@tessah (6622)
• United States
9 Apr 08
i think the attitude you have is very endearing, and i wish more people existed in this world with the same. beannachtai`
• China
9 Apr 08
interesting way!
@twoods90 (185)
• United States
8 Apr 08
ya i only ask money from my family..dont have friends like that i would want to ask for them money..if i dont pay it back on time they might get mad but for my family they will jus giv me more time
• China
9 Apr 08
i agree with you
@yuanhuann (197)
• Malaysia
13 Apr 08
yes, i did borrow money from friend too. But i'm trying not to do that anymore. It is because everyone have their own financial problem, i shall not drag them into my mess. Nice discussion.
@tessah (6622)
• United States
9 Apr 08
ive taken money from friends. ive given money to friends. i dont see there being a problem with it unless the parties involved MAKE it a problem between them. when someone i care about is in trouble, they dont need to ask.. i do what i can without being asked. and they do the same for me and my family. idve lost my house if a friend hadnt tossed a giant check at me, and she did so without expectations of ever recieving it back. and we have done the same for others, with the same non-expectations. alot of the times, the only thing asked is that the person do the same for another when theyre able. i have some very wonderful friends in my life, and im grateful for them.
• United States
8 Apr 08
It really depends how bad your situation is. Seriously when you have nowhere to go and your friend is the only person that can help you momentarily, I believe then yes, if it is friend that you can trust, it is okay to ask. However, best thing is to not ask if you are not in a dire situation. It might ruin potentiually your friendship.
@ajithlal (14568)
• India
8 Apr 08
Most times I never borrow money from my friends unless it is necessary for me. I always return as soon as possible if I borrow money from anyone. I also lend money to my friends if they ask me. I think borrowing and lending money can harm friendship if not return at proper time. It think should avoid lending or borrowing money as far as possible.
@Gesusdid (1683)
• United States
8 Apr 08
no i wouldnt ask my friends for money , its kinda tacky and anyoing to ask them casue then they'll ask you when you really cant even affoard to give away money period , i dont even ask my friends for money ..cayse they want it back in doubles or if the tables are turned i would want them to pay me back asap
@movieman (77)
• United States
8 Apr 08
Only if I knew I could pay it back 100% fairly quickly.
• India
8 Apr 08
sometimes money need it comes to ask someone its ask someoneclose to u it may be friends if they help we help later ita routrine process
@bobet17 (158)
• Philippines
8 Apr 08
It depend on the situation,maybe I will ask money for her,but not too big amount,but before anything else I will ask first to my parents for sure they will help me,I dont want to borrow from friend espiacially money,because money is different than other thing,.