Breasts. helping men avoid eye contact since Eve met Adam

@p1kef1sh (45640)
April 8, 2008 6:03am CST
I received a card for my birthday that said the above. Now I am getting on a bit and have worked for many years in a largely female dominated business and I know only too well how popular a man is that spends his whole conversation with a lady looking at her chest. But are we getting better now? I asked my daughter and she just sighed, rolled her eyes and went back to her TV watching. Do you find it is still commonplace that men hold discussions with you 8 inches below your mouth. If they do, do you say anything. Do you have any revenge strategies.
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• India
8 Apr 08
oh certainly.it has happened with me so many times when i'm talking to someone about something very important and if i happen to wear something which has a v neck or otherwise all i can notice is the man looking there and talking to me.it makes me feel that he thinks i have more brain there than in my head.what i do is to ask that guy what is he looking at and i would appreciate his attempts if he doesn't do that ot better still i make use of my revenge technique that is waiting for him to start the discussion and then answer him looking down there.it works!!
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
8 Apr 08
Another sassy lady. Good for you. Thank you.
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@ellie333 (21029)
8 Apr 08
Great minds think alike wittyakanksha, if you want a good laugh check out my 'never argue with a woman' story. It does work when you make them feel uncomfortable too. Ellie :D
• India
8 Apr 08
yeah they do!i hate men who do it!!i'll check your story right away!!
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@mummymo (23707)
8 Apr 08
Well maybe I am the wrong person to ask as having worked in a bar for years I probably get more people keeping avid eye contact with my chest than some do! lol I really don't mind - I was flat chested when I was younger so it is nice that men appreciate the curves now! xxx
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
8 Apr 08
If you are content with it then I guess that's OK. But I don't see why men should feel that it is OK to talk yo anything but your face. Unless invited to look lower of course. But that's different.
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@Sissygrl (10915)
• Canada
9 Apr 08
I guess my retaliation for this discussion would ahve to be that if you have your boobs hanging out for everyone to see then you deserve to have them stared at.. after all, if they are hanging out there aren't you asking people to look at them ? I dont dress like this, I'm a pretty slim gal (usually, i have baby blubber right now) and always have been, but NEVER had the need to dress like that. My step sons mom dresses like that though.. with her boobs and lovehandles flopping out everywhere for the world to see. lol. I'd rather not see it!!
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
9 Apr 08
If they are hanging out maybe. But not in the normal course of the day. At work or at church or something surely.
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@Hatley (164448)
• Garden Grove, California
8 Apr 08
Don't I wish lol I am a senior citizen widow but I remember when I first met my husband that he did the same thing a lot of times and I was well endowed but slim at that time,sigh, and I once said am I so ugly you can't look at my face instead of my boobs, and he blushed then laughed and all our marriage he teased me about that. I told him I was going to geteven by staring at his butt because that was the first attribute I loved about him.so maybe gals oughtg to do a little butt staring at the guy who stares at your boobs.
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
8 Apr 08
Trouble is to see a man's butt clearly you have to be behind him. Then he can't see you staring. But he will probably feel it. LOL.
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@CanadaGal (4304)
• Canada
9 Apr 08
To be honest, I don't even notice if men are talking to my chest or not. If they do, I'm obviously so used to it that I've become immune to noticing. I wear a 38DD bra, so it's not like they're invisible by any means. Lol! The sausage man is coming over for a short while tomorrow night... I should try to remember to watch him like a hawk, and report back here with my findings.
@p1kef1sh (45640)
9 Apr 08
ooh please do. But he may be used to them by now. So he might give you eye contact instead. But whatever, those of us with the prurient curiosity would love to know,
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@CanadaGal (4304)
• Canada
9 Apr 08
How about if I wear a really low cut top? Maybe that'll help? But you're right, he could be very used to them. Goodness knows he's seen them often enough, with and without coverings. As long as he's not "perving" my posts like he used to, the experiment should be a safe one. But I may not be able to share the results until later Thursday night, my time (he won't be here overnight this week).
@CanadaGal (4304)
• Canada
11 Apr 08
I saw the sausage man for maybe 20 minutes this afternoon when he stopped by to pick up some living room tables I have no room for. I did not notice that he talked to my chest at all when he was here. Either he was looking at my face when we were talking, or he was trying to sleep (lol.. yes... he came in, went straight for the couch, and tried for a catnap lol). When he was leaving, I informed him, "You passed the test!". Then I explained this thread, and that I needed to report back to you P1kef1sh. I told him I think you were right in your thoughts that he may not talk to my chest because he's already seen it so many times. That made him laugh.
@smacksman (6074)
8 Apr 08
And then when you do tear your eyes away from her lovely, soft, squidgy, warm, nestling, mmmmmmm, mounds ... you look up into her face and see that she has been staring at your lunch box all the time. haha Well if I'm not going to make eye contact then why should she!
@p1kef1sh (45640)
8 Apr 08
Indeed. very true. LOL
• United States
8 Apr 08
what is squidgy?
• United States
8 Apr 08
Ummmm your lunch box?
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
11 Sep 09
revenge strategies? turtlenecks?
@p1kef1sh (45640)
11 Sep 09
Spoilsport!
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
11 Sep 09
(o)(o)
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
14 Sep 09
Gosh I think he must have fainted...
@dorypanda (1584)
9 Apr 08
I've noticed it depends on what I'm wearing, if I'm wearing a loose top that goes all the way up to my neck and all the way past my bum, then men do tend to speak to my face. If I'm wearing a push and thrust bra (you know, the ones that lift and make you appear to have bigger boobs, well YOU might not know, but your daughter will) anyway, if I'm wearing one of them, the conversations are usually with my chest, if this happens, I tend to bend my knees slightly so as I'm in direct eye-line with the bloke, they realise what I've done and get really embarrassed so they tend not to do it more than once.
@dorypanda (1584)
9 Apr 08
Oh, I just remembered, I saw a really good t-shirt on someone a while ago, it said, 'stop staring at my chest', but that was written right across her boobs! I thought that was really funny. :)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
8 Apr 08
LOL. For short ladies like me, it's not always easy to tell where a fellows eyes actually are as to look at him, his eyes are lowered and could be roaming anywhere. But having a rather nice 'rack'(shudder) as they say, I assume the worse. It didn't really bother me until I turned 30 and got serious about life. I remember one fellow in particular who made it obvious from the licking of his lips and the flexing of his fingers where his eyes really were. I let him salivate for a bit and then I suddenly jumped as high in the air as I could yelling, "I'm up here you fool"! I came down hard, but on my feet and he just stood there looking stunned - but straight into my eyes! For the rest of the time I knew him, he always looked a bit over my head and off to the right whenever we talked. LOL
@p1kef1sh (45640)
8 Apr 08
LOL. Why can I imagine you doing that Sparky? I suppose that it can be a problem when you are looking down anyway. But your eyes are usually higher than your chest and there is really know excuse to ogle.
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
8 Apr 08
no not know!!!
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
8 Apr 08
I look at it this way - eyes straight ahead - if men didn't ogle us we wouldn't feel nearly as feminine, desireable and sexy. A discreet ogle therefore (and believe me, women feel EVERY little 'look') is de rigour for the stroking of not only the female ego, but the male one - after all, men are ogling and thinking how good THEY would be with THAT in their possession.
@gemini_rose (16194)
8 Apr 08
I do not have this problem anymore, I lost a lot of weight a couple of years ago, unfortunately I also lost a huge portion of my bust!! So that is the last thing anyone bothers with on me now! But when I did have a bust and men did this I just used to tell them that my face was not down there and embarrass them in front of their friends!
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
8 Apr 08
Man, I wish that had been my case. When I first developed I was rail thin and had a huge chest. I always looked like I would tip over. Even now when I lose weight it comes off everywhere EXCEPT THERE LOL **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
@p1kef1sh (45640)
8 Apr 08
Good for you Gemini. LOL. I can imagine you doing it too.
@gemini_rose (16194)
8 Apr 08
Yes, I have put one or two in their place over the years!!
@Aingealicia (1906)
• United States
8 Apr 08
Yes I do find that. Funny you should ask. I usually just lean lower and say something that makes them wake up depending upon the situation. Ainge
@p1kef1sh (45640)
8 Apr 08
I seriously admire all these sassy women like yourself that will point out that their interlocutor's eyes have slipped downwards. I have never had such a thing said to me so I hope that maybe I am not an offender. I don't think that I am. Thanks Ainge
• United States
8 Apr 08
Even on the internet you are always a Gentleman. I admire that. I am sure you would have eye contact with me anyway. I have been told I have amazing eyes, with the right make up. However it is always nice to know a person, man or woman is listening. Ainge
@myklj999 (20981)
13 Apr 08
It's all because we think the nipples are staring at us.
@p1kef1sh (45640)
14 Apr 08
Now there's a scary concept. My mother used to say that she had eyes everywhere. I never thought about there though!
@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
9 Apr 08
Funny you should ask, p1kef1sh! I have always envied women who are average in that department. My family genetics tend toward women who are more generously endowed, and that has been a problem for me for most of my life. It is something you never get used to, the staring. The other negative effects are the back problems and crude remarks you sometimes get. I've never been able to comfortably handle the situation except to ignore the fools who stare.
@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
9 Apr 08
I never had that problem and I have a D cup. It is just that I must be such a brilliant conversationalist or good listener that they are fixed on my face when they talk to me. Also it helps to be a little on the short side. They would have to squat down or pretend to drop something on the floor, but then I would try to help them pick it up. Anyway I would not mind, since I do not like wearing turtle necks or button my blouse up to my neck. I have a thick one -neck that is, and I prefer V-necks, and I do show the top V of my neck so it does not matter. Besides better that then seeing my slightly bulging tummy.
@p1kef1sh (45640)
9 Apr 08
Someone earlier said that she beds down to their level to get eye contact. LOL. Must be your personality I think. Great conversation etc. keeps them sharp.
@IddiKlu (176)
• United States
9 Apr 08
To me the face of a woman is the most important thing (other than personality). I have never been into mammary glands, otherwise I would probably associate with cows, as they are much more endowed that way. And if her face has nothing for me, she won't have to worry about me, I won't be around... ;-)
@p1kef1sh (45640)
9 Apr 08
Yes. I understand that. Thank you.
@ciades (1624)
• Philippines
9 Apr 08
Well, i guess its never happened to me..coz you know? And i didn't wear any blouse that show's any cleavage thing. But, i saw several man did that..The woman definitely feel concious and hardly look into the man eyes until the man feel shyness...and scratching his head.
@p1kef1sh (45640)
9 Apr 08
Good thing that he did feel shy too. Thank you Ciades.
@crazed_moma (1054)
• United States
8 Apr 08
lol well we could stare some where else... perhaps giggle every now and then. Love the topics today. You are a hoot!
@p1kef1sh (45640)
8 Apr 08
Why thank you. Giggling at our bits is very nerve racking. You know how insecure we are about such things. LOL.
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@ShepherdSpy (8562)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
8 Apr 08
Having a workplace with a Uniform policy pretty much negates any untoward conversation along these lines between staff where I work..Personally speaking,I'd much prefer to make eye contact in conversation with an attractive female than make Her feel uncomfortable under scrutiny by ogling cleavage...You've heard the eyes are the windows to the Soul?
@p1kef1sh (45640)
8 Apr 08
I have hear that saying and I agree. Lovely, intelligent eyes do it for me every time.
• United States
8 Apr 08
I was a nerd in school, and have smaller boobs, not to small though. I dont remember anyone ever really talking to my boobs instead of me. I might not of noticed though. Or maybe the people i hung out with looked at who you are instead of your boobs LOL. I'm not sure. but i just dont remember catching anyone just looking at my boobs. Now i see people looking at my boobs when we are at the flea market (mostly mexicans though)
@p1kef1sh (45640)
8 Apr 08
I think that maybe times have changed a little. I have a daughter and I don't see her male friends staring at her boobs. But I am sure that it happens occasionally.
@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
8 Apr 08
hehe this seems really funny... i have one thing in my mind right now about this... to ask this to all the male people i know and confirm if this is true with them... he he so i guess i will have to see who is honest and brave enough to admit that...
@p1kef1sh (45640)
8 Apr 08
Well I am male, and to my shame I have probably done it in the past. But I do attempt not to do so now.