Does your child have a Speech/Language disorder or delay?

United States
April 8, 2008 7:25am CST
My 3 year old son was recently diagnosed with a Speech/Language Developmental Delay. Now they are saying it may be Verbal Apraxia. He turned 3 in January, and has the vocabulary of a typical 1 year old...which translates to basically no vocabulary at all, not that anyone can understand anyway! He is receiving speech therapy once a week for now, that might change if they diagnose Apraxia, he is also learning sign language, since beginning that he tries much harder to form words when he signs! Anybody else dealing with this sort of thing? I want to hear everything, ups, downs, and in betweens! Thanks in advance for sharing! And have a great day!;)
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@mbs730 (2152)
• Canada
9 Apr 08
My son has pdd nos which is under the autism spectrum but he is doing amazingly well with therapy. He is also speech delayed but he has a wide vocabulary. He is still not always responding to questions appropriately. He is 4 but speaks more like a 3 year old. But have faith that he will be okay. I was also speech delayed, didn't start speaking until I was 4 and no one would even know it today.
• United States
9 Apr 08
Thank you so much!! I did some research on pdd nos, when my brother-in-laws cousin was diagnosed with it...the hospital had called child services because they thought he was being abused, and it turned out to be from him banging his head so hard that he ended up with a concussion. They thought his dad had punched him in his head that's how bad he had hit it! After a few weeks out of the home, and some testing they concluded he is Autistic, I am not sure if what he has is pdd...but I did read a lot about that on autism speaks web site I believe is what it was! You've definitely been through much tougher times than me, I'm sure! I will be praying for you and your family! Thank you for sharing your story! Good luck! And I am very pleased to hear how well your little guy is doing, and that you have come so far also!~;0)
@mbs730 (2152)
• Canada
9 Apr 08
Wow I am sorry to hear that but with the right help he will be okay. Pdd nos is under the spectrum but its not classic autism. Fortunately my son does not have that, he never banged his head against the wall or anything of that nature. He is extremely intelligent but delayed in other areas but he is catching up. His speech is still behind though. Yes we have been through a lot but I also know things could be so much worse too. He will at least turn out okay and live an independent life with the help he is getting.
• United States
8 Apr 08
Actually my daughter is 4 and she is way above where she should be in speech and language. But that can be a problem too believe it or not. It makes it hard for her to communicate with children sometimes, she doesnt understand why they dont talk like her and she gets angry so she gets help for her anger issues. But just a suggestion, I have read to my daughter since the day she was born and reading really helps their speech, especially when no one talked baby talk to them when they were little.
• United States
9 Apr 08
My 4 year old daughter also speaks above her age level...not quite enough to cause any problems, but enough that she has really meaningful conversations with her 9 and 11 year old cousins! My older son who is now 7, didn't really talk much till he was a little over 2, but even on his 2nd birthday was able to say more than my youngest can now at 3! Thank you, and good luck to you as well!
• United States
9 Apr 08
I'm sure he will do just fine...I just want to cover all the bases! You are right though he has been babied for a longer period of time than my others, I can't deny that...as far as the languages are concerned they have determined that they are not an influence in his delay! He knows exactly what he wants to say...his mouth just won't move the right way to get it out! He has some problems with eating as well...he has all of the red flags of Apraxia, which is very treatable with therapy, and the earlier the correct therapy is started, the better chance he has of having a completely normal lifestyle! He is a wonderful, happy, loving, boy, and I am positive that God will get him through everything, I also believe that God has instilled the knowledge into these doctors, and He is there guiding them through all that they do!!! God is my influence in every aspect of my life! Thank you and God Bless! ;0)
@gemini_rose (16194)
8 Apr 08
My son had to see a speech therapist once a week when he was 3 and it was because he was not speaking as well as other children of his age. The only reason I think that he had this problem was because he was painfully shy, and so would not speak very much. He is 7 now and is fine, speech therapy is brilliant, it was learning not just for him but for me too.
• United States
9 Apr 08
Was it selective mutism(sp?)? They tried to diagnose my son with that...but with that, they speak well at home and refuse to talk in social settings, or around strangers! NOT my son at all...he does not talk well anywhere, and had I not looked into it more, they would be treating him for something that he didn't need treatment for, I am learning quickly that when it comes to a child's speech...time is definitely precious...the longer you wait to get them the right treatment, the less likely they are to recover from it! I am happy to hear that your son is doing so well...and I agree, the therapy has taught me a lot as well, I am learning sign language now and have always wanted to, just never found the time before! ;)
@gemini_rose (16194)
10 Apr 08
I personally did not think that he needed speech therapy, he just needed to develop at his own pace, but I went along with it for so long and then just stopped going, he hated it and said he did not want to go anymore.
@nice030481 (1108)
• Philippines
9 Apr 08
my son now is 1 yr and 9 months, he can say mama, mamam, broom-broom stands for any vehicle, yaya for kuya or brother, and he can say other word but we cant understand, because he say it very fast..however if we cant understand what he wanted to say, he hold my hand and get me to the television example to open it.
• United States
9 Apr 08
That sounds like my son for the most part. It sounds like your son is on target for the most part...for my son to be 3 however and have the vocabulary of the average 1 year old, is something different. My son also pulls me around grunting trying to show me what he wants! He understands everything, just can't quite get us to understand him! Thanks for the response! And have a great day!
• United States
8 Apr 08
Im not dealing with the same thing but I know how stressful this can be. I have twin girls that are 4 and they have been in preschool for 2 yrs now and I think they have selective mutisum (not sure how to spell it) they do not talk all in school, their in the same class but dont talk to noone not even each other. When I go get them from school they don't shut up in the hallways and they talk the whole night long. I just hope that in september when they go to kindergarten they start talking. I recently called a therapist and we are waiting on approval from their insurance maybe that will help... Keep me updated on your son. Lisa
• United States
9 Apr 08
I just mentioned that to someone else...that is what the therapist diagnosed him with at the beginning, but there was NO way that was it! Based on what I have researched it sounds like your girls just might. I think it is good to have them tested just to be sure! Good luck...and keep me updated on your girls as well please! Thanks ~Jenn
@ebsharer (5517)
• United States
8 Apr 08
First off sorry to hear about this, I know its hard to see your child go through anything but normal. Just know this isn't as bad as it could be! With help of speech therapy he will learn to speak just the way he should. It will be delayed but you will see a differance in time. From birth till 5 years old there brains are like sponges kids can learn so much faster then us adults. He is learing sign and thats awesome! Becuase as long as the siging is kept up with it will be with him forever. He will always have that "advantage". When he gets into school and HAS to take a language he will be ahead of every one. My step daughter was 4 when I came into her life she had speech problems and at 7 is still in a speech class. She has come soooo far its amazing. My step son still has issues with his past, present but other then that has grown right out of his speech issues. I think that his past / present issues are because no one really corrects him when he says things incorrectly. My aunt told me about a girl that she used to watch. The girl was 5 before she started talking because her grandparents spoke one language her parents another and her (my aunt) sitter another. Poor girl didn't know what language to speak in! But when she did start talking she could talk in every language flunetly. It really will be okay in time. Good luck!
• United States
9 Apr 08
We also have a bi-lingual household...I speak English always, and my husband speaks both English and Spanish. The testing did determine that the languages have no influence on his speech though...he understands everything perfectly in both language, and will follow up to two directions at once. His brain is not getting the signals to his mouth to move correctly! I am glad to hear that your step-kids are doing well now! Thank you, and good luck to you, and yours also!
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@cherriemae (3374)
• Philippines
8 Apr 08
nope, my daughter is also 3yrs old and infact, she really talk so clear except with letter "R"..but i havent seen a doctor for her speech and language devt delay..i would like that my daughter would be seen with a doctor, but i think she dont need it..some of people say that my child is good in uttering words, our dialect and also talking with english language..
• United States
9 Apr 08
I can tell you that the average 3 year old has a vocabulary of 500-1000 words, if your child is not near that goal, I would look into at the very least, having her tested...it's better to be safe and be wrong, than to let it go, and later it will be much harder on her! Good luck!
@magrylouyu (1632)
• United States
8 Apr 08
My stepson has a speach delay as well. He will be 5 in June and he talks very well he just has a hard time say words like "school" "shark" "snake" basicly all words that start with "S". His main reason for his speach is because of his mom. She never read to him and when he would talk up until he was 3 his mother just said "yup" or "oh okay" things like that. He had speach therapy when he lived with his mother but headstart said she never brought him. Now that my husband has custody, my stepson has speach therapy 3 days a week. Also he has a pysclogist (SP?) once a week because of angry problems.
• United States
9 Apr 08
We got our initial referral from Headstart...the Dr. kept telling me he was just a late bloomer...yeah right...kinda funny cause today I took him to the same Dr. who suddenly sees how extremely bad it is, and gave me a referral to a more aggressive treatment, I am a very stron advocate for my son...I don't accept anything a Dr. tells me, I like to get a second opinion, and I research, research, research!