Ungrateful people

Australia
April 8, 2008 7:31pm CST
Few days ago my son had a party for his 5th Birthday. We had a party at a play centre thing. I invited the kids of my friends and family and the whole class. I told them they need to call and let me know if the child is coming or not by the 30th March. I needed to tell the play centre how many people are coming and I needed to do the party bags. I had party bag for each child with sweets, baloons, pens, books. When I had made the bags for all the kids that were coming I had few things left so I made few more bags with what was left but these bags didnt have all the things inside. I planed to give them to the brothers and sisters of the kids when they came to pick them up. On the day we went there and I could see one of the kids with his mother and 4 other kids as I didnt know them I asumed they were there with someone else. Boy was I wrong. This lady has 7 kids and decided to bring the one that was invited plus 4 of her kids. I felt bad for the kids so I ordered food for them as well so that is $6.50 per child the mother went and got 2 chips and 2 burgers for the other 2 kids that were not there (I was told this when I got the bill at the end) all in all this family spend $50 on my account. when it came time for me to give out the party bags her kids were fighting with other kids to get one I told them to step back and I will give them theirs later which I did (I gave them the once that I made with the left over things but they had most of the things). Anyway Today I saw the mother at school and she had the nerve to say to me : "you know that the bags were not complete for my kids" I was about to say I am sorry but then I said to my self no I am not and I just said "they are lucky they got anything at all as they were not part of the birthday and were not invited. They were runing that party with their crying and screeming and wanted to be in every picture even sat next to my son for the cake and all. I didnt say anything then but even so she has the nerve to complain. Some people ......
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10 responses
@enola1692 (3325)
• United States
9 Apr 08
oh that is terrible thank god it was you an not me I would of said a few things my daughter at one of her partys her friend did want to wait for the bathroom to be empty so she went in my daughters closet an peed nice huh when I found out I ask her what was she thinking she said she didn't want to wait when her mom picked her up she was like ok whats the problem the girl was 10 by the way old enough to know better an no she was not invited to anymore parties
• Australia
9 Apr 08
oh my god that is so wrong expecialy when the child is that old at first I was thinking it was a small child but at 10. Gee I wonder if she does that at home as well.
@enola1692 (3325)
• United States
9 Apr 08
I wondered to cause her mom was like ok and my problem with this is what
• Australia
9 Apr 08
you should have send them both in there to clean up that would have given her an idea to what the problem was or better yet send them the bill to have the room cleaned profesionaly
• United States
9 Apr 08
That is so rude. I mean what kind of a person would do that I mean she should have at least not said anything because she knows that you had only invited one of the kids. It's people like these why the world isn't a happy place. Selfish people who just want everything for themselves and not remember to say thank you or please. I think that what you did was nice even though they weren't invited to the party. And on top of that they ordered food? That is unbelievable.
• Australia
9 Apr 08
My friend told me that her son didnt get cake but this womans kids all did. I will never ever invite this child to another party and I am sorry about that its not his fault but the whole thing was out of control. What got me the most on the day was that when I gave the bags to the kids I gave 1 to her boy and then he came again and I said sorry but you got yours and he said no I didnt. So I had a look and the bag was not there. I asked his mum she said no he didnt get one and I looked at the stroler and sure enough it was there. And then when I got the bill I realised that she got food for her other 2 kids on my account. And now she sais she is not happy well bad luck my dear.
• United States
9 Apr 08
Wow I'm sorry but I think you were to nice and If I was in your shoes I would have said something to her. People need to learn not to be so ungrateful. I mean you are the one that did everything dealing with the party. You tried to make everyone comfortable and then she comes and tries to freeload off of you? I think that is just rude. When I read you response I felt sad because that other kid didn't get his cake. I think that your right in not inviting her to another party because it's just not fair. If you did invite her then I'm positive that she will probably do the same thing again. I wish you luck and hope that you don't have to deal with her anymore.
• Australia
9 Apr 08
you know it wasnt worth me geting worked up that day as it was my boy's special day and I wanted everyone INVITED to have fun. Later that day we had a party at home for my family and friends and the boy that didnt get cake came as well. So when it came to the cake bit he said I dont want this cake its not batmen :) so I got a sticker with batmen and put it on the cake and he was happy he got a batmen cake.
@maddysmommy (16243)
• United States
9 Apr 08
That's very rude to invite herself and bring along her other kids too. The invite has the name of one of her children on it, not 7. I don't know how some people think it's ok to do those sorts of things - unbelievable. You handled it really well :)
• Australia
10 Apr 08
She evidently has no shame or good manners to start with. Everything was revolving around them the whole time.
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@steney (1418)
• Philippines
9 Apr 08
I experience the same whenever I hold my daughter's birthday party every year. As much as I want to please everybody, there will always be people who are just ungrateful and takes advantage of whatever they can in the party. They bring with them uninvited guests without prior notice, they want to get twice the loot bags being given to each child. And in cases where there are different toys in the loot bags, they demand that they exchange theirs or to get one kind of each. I guess this is becoming a normal part of the party stress every mom goes through.
• Australia
10 Apr 08
well this was my first party that I invited people that I dont know well next time I will know. Usually I have only friends and family people that I know well. Next year I will be more specific 1 CHILD ONLY would be writen on each invitation.
@bc3000 (42)
9 Apr 08
That's so rude! Did you say anything to them? I don't know how people can be like that..
• Australia
10 Apr 08
well I did say something like are this your kids and are you ALL staying but I got a short answer. And few times I told her to look after them as the party person was told 15 kids are coming and for more than 15 they need 2 people to control the kids again it made no difference.
• Canada
9 Apr 08
I would have been so very very upset if that were me! How dare she complain when she brought four children to a birthday party they were not invited to! The very least she could have done was offer to pay for their food and ticketts! If she had said to me that the bags were not complete for her kids I would have given her a piece of my mind!
• Australia
10 Apr 08
she send an sms to tell me her son was coming. The other parents called and they told me if they were staying or not and if other kids were coming as well. So I knew some brothers and sisters were going to come. I told everyone that had other kids with them that I would pay for the kids as it was only fair as I agreed to pay for these 4 but all of them said no they will pay fort their kids. But this one took all she could and she was still not happy.
@ctucker (12)
• Bermuda
9 Apr 08
Okay, the only thing I would be sympathetic about is the fact that, that women has seven kids. I know money, clothes, food etc. must be hard for her, but LORD. The disrespect that this lady has given you makes me sick to my stomach. For her to have the guts to show up to your kids party without even notifing you first about the one that you invited or even to preask you about her other kids was wrong. I understand that it was your kids party and you wanted to keep the peace for his sake but what you should have done was pulled her to the side or taken her out of the room and talked to her. Especially if she ordered more food and billed it to you without asking. You still need to say something to her about that $50. THAT IS CALLED STEALING. That disrespectful.................
• Australia
10 Apr 08
with the food bill I said it was ok for the other 4 kids (the bill for that is $26) but she ordered more and I only found out after the party was over so I could not do anything about it.
@tessah (6638)
• United States
9 Apr 08
it wouldve taken every single bit of restraint i had inme to not throttle this woman AND her illmannered children at the party.. nevermind her being rude to you afterwards. kudos to you for not committing homocide.
• Australia
9 Apr 08
hahahha well in her defence (or mine) there were lots of kids present in both situations. At the party and at the school. I would not have wanted to scar them for life. Her son came to me today at school and said I gave Viktor (my son) a present and I am thinking gee your mum must be broke now :)
@Hatley (159684)
• Garden Grove, California
9 Apr 08
that mother was a real taker and I imagine she is teaching her kids to be that way too. what a shame and to try to get other kids bags they are little takers. that woman had a lotof nerve complaining about the bags good for you for what you said to her.Her kids were evidently little brats already how sad.
• Australia
9 Apr 08
Yes you are right I can see them turning into her. If this confrontation wasnt in the school I would have added few more words but I am bigger than that. If she sais something again I would give her the bill for the 2 meals she got for the kids that were not at the party.
@sedel1027 (17868)
• United States
9 Apr 08
Geeze. She should feel grateful that you even allowed them to stay. I would send her a bill for the food she charged to the account. What a moocher!
• Australia
9 Apr 08
Now when I think about it maybe I should have. She showed such disrespect with the whole thing she didnt even give an explanation why all (well most of) her kids were there.