Do you keep you men in check?

yea its better to be joined in control so that you both dont get taken advatage of. its so easy for someone to allow someone to control them, and once they get that control they keep it. my fiance does so much for me too, but i do so much for him, (sometimes i htink i have the upperhand though LOL)

yea that could do somehting about it, there is always going to be one that has the upperhand in a relationship because one of yall are going to be weeker, maybe not in every relationship though, i htink we are more 50/50 but sometimes i still think i have the upper hand, im sure he htinks the same sometimes.

I am the same, I would feel guilty in a relationship if I did nothing for my partner and he did everything for me. I like having the upper hand though, I think it is something to do with role reversal, based on how men always had the upper hand in history.

I hope you are right.

Yea one day you will blend with someone, or you will find that your someone is someone that you have to compermise with. sometimes thats what we got ot do

YEa thats what i told my fiance, i said you aint my daddy, and my daddy didnt even control me (my dad was real controling and i ran away when i was 15 to get away from it) i cant stand it for to long, and im glad he stoped trying (he'll say he wasnt trying to be controling but I know better, even if it was unconsiously) because i love him and it would of hurt to leave.

yea our relationship gets better and better as it goes, we understand each other, but we piss each other off too. LOL. (he just pissed me off, so im mad at him. men grrr.)

thats about how our relationship is now, at first we bumped heads alot, but i think that was part of it, he just pissed me off so its hard right now to right a whole lot on how good our relationship is.

yes a woman can control a man just as good as a man can control a woman. It all depends on how much you let them get away with, unless your with a really crazy one that if you try to show them that neither one of you are in control then they get all abusive, other than that, i think its the persons fault that they get conrolled so much, just like its the peoples fault if your country has control over you

Thats the point i was trying to make, I think that a majority (not all) of controlling relationships is because the girl just lets it happen and doenst try to stop it.

well i didnt mean by telling him what to do, but by letting him know when hes stepping over the line with trying to tell you what to do. its a give take thing for us. but at first he was horrible to me, (from stress at work, i think, it stopped when he quit that job) but i wouldnt give, i wouldnt let him treat me the way he wanted to, and now we are better. I dont really know that if i let him treat me how he wanted to if he would be controlling, but it sure seemed like he was trying to be controlling at first (another reason could of been b/c his ex-wife cheated on him) then he learned that we would be so mcuh better off with out him acting liek that and now we both tell each other what we think the other should be doing, but we both take our own paths too.

LOL, yea thats how it is, we both do what the other says around here though, if i dont fill like doing house work he does it. LOL but he gets mad sometimes if i dont get it done when he wants it done so i just tell him to shut up and i will do it when i damn well please to do it LOL

if you were reading the other responces you know that i meant do you let your men know that he isnt going to control you, thanks for your responce.