Complaints About Responses To Comments

United States
April 9, 2008 10:21am CST
I have seen several discussions started about people not responding to comments left on their discussions. I plead guilty. And I apologize to all of my friends. I have also read where they complain about how these people such as myself say they are busy, blah, blah, blah and yet have time to post more discussions. Guilty again. When I am working, which is 5-6 days a week, what I do is post several discussions before I leave for work so that I can be earning while I am gone. After all, one of the reasons I am here is to earn money. I would like to say it isn't, but I would be lying. By the time I get home, I often have many responses which I either am too tired to respond to or someone else is using the computer. It is not my computer exclusively, I have to share it with two other people. So my point is this, I try to answer to as many as I can. On my days off, I try to catch up to the best of my ability. So if I don't respond right away, please bare with me. It is not my nature to let my discussions go unnoticed. I hope everyone understands and doesn't judge me too harshly. Does anyone else have a hard time keeping up with their responses or is it just me?
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@Aussies2007 (5339)
• Australia
10 Apr 08
For my part... I only comment on answers... if there is something worth commenting about. Maybe that is part of the reason why my questions are not popular... but I never did regard myLot as a popularity contest. I only say it like it is... if it is worth my time to say it. I love nothing more than a good debate... providing that you have something to say... which is worth debating. So if you don't comment on my answer... I won't be offended... even so... I like it when you do.
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• United States
10 Apr 08
Its people like yourself who I like to be conscientious about answering. The reason for that being that you take the time to respond to almost every single one of my posts. There are a handful of my friends who answer no matter what the subject matter and I have to admire that. The least I can do is return the favor by acknowledging their efforts. Thanks Aussie.
@patgalca (14265)
• Orangeville, Ontario
10 Apr 08
I only comment on discussions where I have something to say. If you are offended that a friend does not respond to every one of your discussions then you are missing the point of myLot (and you haven't read the guidelines). It's about quality discussions and I will not respond if a) the subject is of no interest to me, b) I just responded to another discussion on pretty much the same topic, or c) I have absolutely nothing to add.
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• United States
10 Apr 08
I don't get offended if no one answers my discussions, thats not what I was saying. What I said is that I feel bad that I don't respond in a timely answer to the comments that are left on my posts.
@sacmom (14316)
• United States
10 Apr 08
I'm guilty of this myself kbourgerie. Even though I don't start that many discussions I usually don't reply to all of the responses that I receive. Sometimes it is because I have nothing to add to it, other times I don't know what to say, sometimes I'm just not in the mood to reply to discussions I started, and other times I just don't have the time. And to top it off I'm on dial-up! Oh, and when I do comment on the replies it seems the majority of the time I don't get notified if my comment gets a response, or something like that. Maybe these are all poor excuses, but I do what I can when I can by participating on here, whether it's responding to others discussions or acknowledging those that replied to mine. I believe most people on here have lives outside of mylot, me included, so I understand if they don't get back to me on discussions they started. I just hope others on here can be as understanding.
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• United States
10 Apr 08
Dial up is the worst. I can well imagine it must take you forever to respond to anything and I don't think any of your excuses are poor. From the responses I've received, I think people are more understanding than I would have thought and I really appreciate everyones friendship and support.
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@ebsharer (5518)
• United States
9 Apr 08
I tried some thing a few times. I started a bunch of discussion one day didn't respond to any or comment to any. I made a few pennies. The next day I ONLY commented didn't start any discussion or respond to any and WOW did I make some money. I commented to every response I had received on the discussion I started the day before and some old ones. I don't remember how many it was but I made over a dollar that day. I have also just resonded to discussion and seen that that is pretty profitable. But I do have to say my best days are when I comment on MY discussions. I like to respond with some thing just to let them know that I took the time to read there response. That I didn't just start a discussion to start one. I really wanted to discuss about the topic. I am guilty of saying thanks for responding. I know some people hate that but some times there response didn't leave any thing for discussion or it was just a repeted answer. I hate responding to a discussion about say my wife cheated on me what do I do and then they don't comment to you. Its like yeah I asked but I really don't care what you have to say. The simple ones like whats your favorite color, I don't really expect a comment. Just one girls opinion!
• United States
10 Apr 08
I appreciate your opinion and I agree that I make more money when I respond back and I do it as much as I am able, but some days I just can't keep up with it, especially as I mentioned when I am working.
@deeeky (3669)
• Edinburgh, Scotland
9 Apr 08
The responses come in thick and fast and sometimes enough is enough, but I find that if the posted discussion has had enough responses then it is time to move to newer ground and keep up with those dicussions. have a great day from Deeeky.
• United States
10 Apr 08
I know what you are saying. I have posted several discussions that got well over 100 responses and I ran out of things to say, but I do the best I can.
@someonesmom (5765)
• Canada
10 Apr 08
Hi kbourgerie, I can see we both feel the same about this issue. Lately, I've been 'trying' to respond to everyone in my latest topics, right away. I must do this with my newest one, in the morning. I also have another one that I have quite a few responses to, and I still haven't gotten to it. I feel really bad, and then there's one that I 'somehow forgot,' and it's about four months old. I still plan on doing this one, and the thing is, in looking it over, I've discovered a friend 'who's possibly passed away,' in that discussion, as they've just disappeared, and they were quite ill. We both have a mutual 'Good(ie) friend,' who is very talented at making us feel that we're not so bad, after all.
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• United States
10 Apr 08
Goodie is a great friend to have. She is always very supportive and answers all of my posts no matter how lame they might be. I've got alot of posts I need to respond to, but I appreciate everyone being so helpful and kind. Sorry to hear about your friend.
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• Canada
10 Apr 08
Yes Goodie is really great, and she's often the first one to respond in my discussions. Like you've said, she does so for me too, even if my particular discussion isn't one of my better efforts. In fact, it's gotten so if she's missing from one of them, I get genuinely concerned, wondering if she's okay. Thanks regarding 'my myLot friend.' He always responded to my discussions too, but I knew he was very ill, and one day he just disappeared from myLot, and he did really enjoy it. I don't have proof of this, but suspect I'm correct.
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• Canada
10 Apr 08
Awwwwww, Goodie ... Right back at ya!
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@JJ4Ever (4696)
• United States
13 Apr 08
Hi there, K. I believe this is a very common thing. I don't think it's an issue at all, though. It's actually becoming less of an issue now more than ever as people can have the feature activated where they'll immediately receive an e-mail if there response is commented on. I think it's a great feature because I use it all the time. I don't expect people to comment on my responses, but I consider it a pleasant surprise and very kind of them when it actually does happen! I plead guilty to everything you mentioned, of course. I work the normal 5-day, 40-hour week and still try to find time to make a little extra money on myLot. It's a tough thing sometimes! I tend to have those days when I'm inspired and am on a roll posting new discussions because of all the ideas that just keep popping into my head. What I'll usually do is post a discussion and what for several responses before even opening the discussion again to see what others have written. Sometimes it takes me a week or two before even commenting on all the responses I received on a discussion. Although it has definitely taken time, I've commented and responded to all of those people who have taken the time to respond to my discussions. The way I see it, it's only considerate. They took the time to visit my discussion; therefore, I can take the time to let them know that their response was read and much appreciated, even though they may never read my comment. I also love commenting back as it's another means to communicate with and get to know that person should they comment back again. I know we're not supposed to be "chatty" in discussions, but I usually keep mine focused on the subject of the discussion, at least, I try my best! (LOL) I think it's great to give those comments on your responses, but I don't think it's always a must. Sometimes it's been hard for me to comment on a three-word response, but I still take pride in the fact that everyone's opinion is read on my discussions. I take it seriously, but don't look down on those who don't have the same opinions and myLot practices as I do. I think you're doing just fine, my friend! This discussion clearly shows that you care. Thanks for posting and keep up the good work!!
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• United States
13 Apr 08
Thank you for your support. I appreciate everything you had to say. You have a good point though, in saying, that you get to know someone better by exchanging comments. Thats very true.
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@JJ4Ever (4696)
• United States
14 Apr 08
Obviously by your timely comment, I can tell you're doing a wonderful job at commenting on all of the responses you receive. It's great to hear from you. Keep up the good work, my friend. We're all in this together!
@SViswan (12072)
• India
11 Apr 08
I did have a hard time keeping up with responses when I had too many in a couple of discussions. I then chose to comment to a few which really needed them.....so that it wouldn't seem like I totally neglected them. When there were similar responses, I would comment to one. Though I've never felt it with my responses to your discussions...there are certain other people here who are here all day and do not comment to a single one of their responses even when it warrants one. That's what bugs me. Not the people who comment late. I understand that people have a life besides myLot...but no comment at all in any of their discussions.....that's just too much for trying to earn.
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• United States
13 Apr 08
Well, I'm glad that you don't think I'm trying to ignore anyone. I've noticed that there are a few that don't answer to anything either. Even if I don't respond to every comment left on my discussions, I do try to answer to as many as I can.
@SViswan (12072)
• India
13 Apr 08
After I post a response, I usually check the other responses and comments of the poster...to see where the discussion is going(I think that's the whole point of a discussion forum; not only putting your two cents worth). If the poster has commented to a few of them and I understand their viewpoint, then I don't bother if my response gets no comment. I've also given best response without leaving a comment because I felt there was nothing much to add. I would have commented to other responses in the discussion but the one which gets BR (and a couple of others) might not have a comment....that doesn't mean that I haven't read the response. It only means that I might not have something to comment to that particular response besides a 'Thank you'! (which I do not want to do). I don't like it when I get only a 'Thanks' for my response...I'd rather not get any comment at all than a 'Thanks'. I would also like to point out that I rate ALL my responses irrespective of whether I give a comment or not.
@rhane7315 (5673)
• Philippines
10 Apr 08
i'm also having a hard time on answering some of the replies that i started in my discussion. it's either of these 2: i got a terrible connection and i can't stay on mylot for more than a minute or i don't know what i should reply to them lol
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• United States
10 Apr 08
You must have dial up. Its hard to do anything on the internet, with the length of time dial up takes. Been there, done that, don't want to do it again. LOL.
@rhane7315 (5673)
• Philippines
11 Apr 08
i'm using a broadband lol sometimes the signal is too hard so i don't get a good connection especially when it's raining
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@ratyz5 (7829)
• Philippines
10 Apr 08
I believe that others also experience that same dilema that you have stated and your explanations are all reasonable. We do have other things to worry about and we aren't always available to use the computer. Its not just you and other people would also think the same way
• United States
10 Apr 08
Thanks, everyone has really made me feel better. I'm glad that I posted this.
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@ratyz5 (7829)
• Philippines
10 Apr 08
Glad that you feel alright now
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@sminut13 (1786)
• Singapore
9 Apr 08
hahaha well don't worry too much over that, those who know you will understand and i too am similar though i don't have many responses so i can respond back. hehehe for me, i have tons of topics started by friends here and since i was absent for so long, i'm having trouble looking at all of them. but will do so and though won't reply to all, will definitely reply to those that i like and am interested in. don't worry too much, what's happening to you is natural. have a great day.
• United States
10 Apr 08
Thanks. I just worry because I think that perhaps people may wonder if I find their responses interesting and if I don't reply may not want to reply the next time.
@sminut13 (1786)
• Singapore
10 Apr 08
i don't blame you for feeling that way. sometimes feel the same way too. anyway have a good day.
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@gemini_rose (16193)
9 Apr 08
I do, very much!! I find it a nightmare sometimes, that is why I do not start many, I cannot handle all the work that it entails. I am at home all day as I am a housewife, but now the kids are back at school I hardly get the time to get on here and so when I do I try to catch up responses, and then posting to all my friends discussions and then sorting my emails out and oh it is harder than having a full time job some days!! It was not this hard when I worked in an office! I never judge anyone who does not respond right away or indeed at all, I know that people are busy with other things and are not on here all the time so it does not matter to me!!
• United States
10 Apr 08
It is busier than working in an office sometimes. You are so right. Well don't feel bad gemini, you can see all the support people have given here. Most members of this site are pretty darn awesome.
@gemini_rose (16193)
10 Apr 08
you are right, there are some great people on here, I have never met so many nice people in one place!!
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@moneyandgc (3430)
• United States
9 Apr 08
When the discussions and comments are being made about those who don't comment back; I really don't think they are talking about you. I know that I have received many comments back from you when I post to your discussions. I wouldn't worry about it. Everyone has different schedules, some can get more time logged on to mylot than others.
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• United States
10 Apr 08
I'd like to think they aren't talking about me, but you never know and just to cover my bases and because I was feeling so guilty I just wanted everyone to know how I was feeling about things. I want people to respond and remain my friend, so its important to me that they know I'm not just ignoring them.
• United States
10 Apr 08
lmbo!!!!!!
• Indonesia
11 Apr 08
Hi kbourgerie. Don’t worry about that. I understand how difficult it is to keep tracking the discussions and comment them when we still have the offline jobs to do. I also have full time offline job and sometimes I just couldn’t get online for the whole day because sometimes the Boss would have me go somewhere else to meet the clients, to train new employees etc. and I would stare at the computer screens there for such a long time, I guess my eyes would also need some rest. Not to mention that when I got back it was already dark and late at night, and I still needed to continue for some house chores and the whole day’s activity would drain my energy and I had no choice except to get rest after then. That’s okay. At least by starting this discussion, you have given them the explanation.
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• United States
13 Apr 08
Thanks. I really do appreciate your support and understanding. Being someone that works, you can obviously relate to what I am saying.
@winterose (39922)
• Canada
10 Apr 08
I answer what I can when I can, end of discussion. Although I like the people here on mylot, I also have a life, and the magnitude of posts I make and respond to does not allow me the time to answer every single person, there is only 24 hours in a day not 36 if you get what I mean. I think it is very nice that you apologize but with me there is no apology necessary.
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• United States
11 Apr 08
Thanks Winterose for your support. I guess some people have different perspectives on what they think is the protocol or what they feel is polite. I just do the best I can.
@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
10 Apr 08
I find it hard to keep up. I am working on a novel, also reading my email, and even though I do not work outside the home, there is still the housekeeping, laundry, etc. to do. You make money posting discussions, and answering discussions, and I suspect the it is the former where you make the most. Besides not all comments lead themselves to lengthy responses and that also limits the time you have to post a new discussion. I suspect the ones who are making the complaints are the ones who would rather not get paid or thing that even an extra ten dollars a month does not make a difference, but for me and you it does.
• United States
11 Apr 08
Yes, the extra money always helps and as I said I would be lying if I said I wasn't partially here for the money. Its obviously a great incentive.
@patgalca (14265)
• Orangeville, Ontario
10 Apr 08
Sorry, I only comment on responses if I have something to add that may further the discussion, or if I forgot to say something in the original post. As per myLot guidelines, commenting on every single response is discouraged if it doesn't further the discussion. There are some people who go to every single response and say "thank you". That is unproductive, time consuming, and really boring for the rest of the people reading the comments and responses. It's about quality responses and comments, not about quantity because you only get paid for one. I can see people commenting on every response thinking they are going to get paid for it, which is why myLot only pays for one. They'd go broke if they did that and people would be abusing the system. I'm sorry if I offend people but I am not going to comment on a response unless I have something to add other than "thank you".
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• United States
11 Apr 08
I understand and think everyone has their own way of doing things. I like to comment to the best of my ability. Admittedly its hard sometimes, when someone has only left a one line response.
@p_vadla (1687)
• India
10 Apr 08
I think it all depends on the response we receive on our discussion. If it deserves further discussion then it can be continued. If the responses are like yes, no or alright or one or two lines of their opinions, then well it need not be prolonged.It also depends on the topic we start discussion on.
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• United States
10 Apr 08
What you said makes total sense. I always feel like I have to respond to everything, but I can see where alot of times that would be difficult to do because of the subject matter.
@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
10 Apr 08
This issue is not just your issue my friend..We all experience the same and I truly believe that members here are open-minded enough to understand your concern since I'm pretty sure its also what they are experiencing! we cant catch up to everything no matter how full time or part time are we here, we have several roles in this world..stay happy and enjoy posting!
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• United States
10 Apr 08
Thanks for your support and friendship. I don't think everyone is as open minded as you are though.
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
10 Apr 08
I started a discussion about this recently and it came to my attention that alot of members seem to think that if you don't respond to them then it means you haven't read their responses. Or as one person put it to me "If you don't have time to thank ppl for responding, why bother starting a discussion to start with". Time-wise I'd love to be able to start discussion's and then go back to answering other discussions and not have to keep going back and replying especially after the discussion gets to be 2-3 pages long but instead I end up spending alot of time replying to responses that could be spent responding to other ppl's discussions. Some ppl say they don't care and others say they are deeply offended and hurt if you don't reply to their responses...it's a tough call on which way to go. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
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• United States
10 Apr 08
Thats what prompted me to write this post. I didn't want people to be offended by the fact that I get behind in my responses. It means alot to me that people know that I respect the fact that they have taken the time to answer my discussions.
@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
10 Apr 08
I am having a hard time keeping up with all of it.. I work part time and then I have housework, yard work, grocery shopping and so much more that goes on in everyday life.. I do try and get on here for awhile in the mornings and catch up on everything but when you have 50 or 60 emails staring you in the face and you get sidetracked on other discussions, it is impossible to answer all of them.. Have a great day
• United States
10 Apr 08
Once again, I am feeling a little less guilty now. Seems that I am not the only one that gets behind. I'll feel less inclined to feel so guilty after this post.