Honesty and children?

@TinaP40 (330)
Spain
April 10, 2008 5:43am CST
Are you 100% honest or do you bend the truth? I am someone who is very honest and always have been with my kids, no matter what it is, I believe you need to tell kids what they need to know when they ask it, and never lie to them. All my kids know there isnt a santa, and that we work hard to give them their presents at christmas, some people think this takes the joy out of their childhood but I dont, my daughter believes there is fairies and because I cannot disprove this it might be true who knows? I feel that my kids have grown up to be very honest and open and enjoy life more because they understand the truth in life.
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@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
10 Apr 08
I'm brutally honest with my kids when it comes to life (age appropriate though) but when they were little I enjoyed watching them enjoy things like Santa, Tooth Fairy, Easter Bunny etc etc... Let me ask you this though, if you dont mind, just out of curiosity...Are you a Christian or just religious at all for that matter, doesnt have to be Christianity..If so how do you personally handle talking religion to your kids?
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@TinaP40 (330)
• Spain
10 Apr 08
Im not religious at all so that is one subject that doesnt arrise in our house as I was raised catholic but want my kids to choose this for themselves not be told they have to believe as I was as a child. My kids still love easter and christmas just the same even though they know there isnt a 9ft rabbit bringing them a chocolate egg LOL
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
10 Apr 08
Ah I see..I was just curious about that..(the religion thing I mean)...Thanks for replying...As far as religion goes iwth my kids I too want them to decide for themselves....I really think thats the best way for it to be handled ya know...
@banipenet (283)
10 Apr 08
I think that you (generally speaking) can't be 100% honest with your kids in any situation. There are some ages when you can't tell them the truth because you can make them hurt because they can't support it. Of course, finally they have to know the truth but only when they will be ready for it. I don't know how old are your children, maybe they are old enough to know that there is not a santa an they could understand this. But, in my opinion, children must to be glad with these little hoaxes because when they will grow up they will have time to know that they have to work hardly to gain one's livelihood.
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@TinaP40 (330)
• Spain
10 Apr 08
You can be honest 100% with any age, if they ask tell them what they need to know in a way that they will understand, my children are now 21, 20, 11 and 6 and all of them have been brought up this way and all of them have fantastic imaginations and know hoaxes are just that, make believe.