Oh man! My boyfriend is such a drag !

@gxnfly (1147)
China
April 10, 2008 7:07am CST
I am kind of person who do something at once if I have made my choice.But my boyfriend,he is lazy and such a drag.We've been talking about reparing the door for weeks . Every time I said ,"Don't you think it's about time to get the ball rolling?" He was like,"I know, but I've been busy with other things. I promise I'll get to it this weekend."Oh man,this weekend ,this weekend,so many weekends have passed ,but he hasn't do anything at all. man!How am I going to da with him?
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@Darkwing (21588)
10 Apr 08
Gxnfly... you are not alone in the World. Thousands, perhaps millions of women will tell you that all men are the same as your boyfriend. Sometimes, we wait for years for a man to do anything around the house. I would coax him... there's no other way to my mind. Tell him if he fixes the door next weekend, you'll lay on a very special, romantic meal for him and you, to thank him. Of course, that might not appeal to him... he'd probably rather have the normal dinner and leave the door till next week, in which case, whilst he's sitting around the house... go get the tools and door out and start making a lot of noise as though you're fixing it yourself. My betting is, he won't like to have to admit that you could do a good job yourself and will come running to fix the door for you! Brightest Blessings and good luck with this! Please come back and let us all know how you got on and how you approached the matter.
@mefadon3 (299)
• United States
10 Apr 08
You might want to do it yourself or get somebody else to do it. If I were you, I would tell him that you were going to hire someone to fix the door and he needs to pay for it. Then sit back and see what kind of response that you get.
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@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
10 Apr 08
My husband is the same way! I was cleaning up a little last night and found all this stuff he bought to make repairs around the house. Well its been weeks on some, months on some, and years on others. He still hasn't made those repairs.
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@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
31 Jul 08
That would drive me nuts too. I am the type of person that once I have made my mind up to do something, I do it right away if possible. I do not procrastinate on anything either. There are some things that I cannot do though and have to rely on someone else to do it. I hate it when they say they will get to it later, adn it takes several days for it to be done when it could have been done a long time ago.
@winterose (39921)
• Canada
11 Apr 08
he is a procrastinator and he will never get things done just tell him two weeks from now clear your schedule, I do not want any excuses we are doing it and that is final.
• China
11 Apr 08
oh ,its difficult to make a choice!i think if you think you cant live long with him , him!give up!
@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
11 Apr 08
haha.. MOst guys are like that, always like to drag things till they find the right mood to do this things.. LOL ^_^ BUt no worries, he will do it, if u nag at him a few more times ot threaten him.. LOL
• United States
11 Apr 08
Boyfriend can be like that too, but he eventually gets things done. You have to motivate him, make him work for your love.
@rlc456 (415)
• United States
11 Apr 08
Well I have been married for so long. I just finally started doing stuff myself. Cause if you wait on a guy to fix stuff it normally never gets done.
@carmelanirel (20979)
• United States
10 Apr 08
Sounds like my husband and unfortunately you can't change him, only he can change himself..I have many things that need to be done here and my husband is always coming up with one excuse or another to not do it.. So unless you do it yourself or hire someone else to, you are stuck, sorry..
@gemini_rose (16193)
10 Apr 08
Well, I know what you are going through there, as mine is exactly the same! He always says I will do this and I will do that,and nothing ever happens. I think he does it so I will get on his case and give him grief about it and then he can go to work and tell his mates I am a nag like they do! I have always prided myself on not turning into his mother figure and nagging at him to do this and do that, so I think that he does it on purpose. The best part is,he is really good at D.I.Y and so he could do everything that he says he will in no time at all.
@flamenca (82)
• Canada
10 Apr 08
why don't you try the job jar method?? All of the things tht need to be done in the house go on a little piece of paper in a jar and he chooses a couple a day!! Eventually the door will get chosen!! Or call a handyman and he will foot the bill! Flamenca
@carolscash (9501)
• United States
10 Apr 08
This is just a man issue. I won't say that they are lazy,but they need round to its as that is always when they plan to get to something. My husband is the same way. He goes to work everyday and works hard and yet we have lived here for almost 3 years and I still need a shelf hung up in the bedroom that he will do soon. (HAHA!!) I think that unless it is something that interferes with what they do at the home,then it is hard to get them to do it.
@Quirkly (95)
• Canada
10 Apr 08
It really depends on how much of a ***** you want to be to him. Offer to cook the next meal AFTER that door gets fixed...and hold to it, depending on how much of a lazy guy he is, will determine how many days he has to fend for himself before he actually gets things fixed. Some guys will get right to something if they know it's frustrating you, harass and hassle him till it's done. Nagging makes the world go round. ;p I dunno, but other than that, it's something you gotta keep up on, if he starts getting away with putting stuff off more and more, he'll figure he can always get away with it. The more you pester, the more likely things will get done, because he'd rather fix something than be nagged at about it. Oh yeah, and don't interrupt or say he can finish fixing it later if he goes about it on his own. He's in a mood to fix things, let him be, it can have a chain effect and get the whole house fixed, lol.
@wickedangel (1637)
• Dominican Republic
10 Apr 08
LOL know how you feel. I think you should 'persuade' him to do it, you know something along the lines of 'if you do the door, I'll do something that you'd like to do', otherwise I think you will see a lot more weekends going by... Otherwise tell him you'll get a profesional to come and do it. That usually works too because (1) they don't want to be seen that they can't fix something so simple as a door and (2) he won't want you to be spending any money. Good luck!
@minnie_98214 (10574)
• United States
10 Apr 08
Sounds like my ex lol. Gotta love the next weekend excuse. It is always next weekend. What you gotta do is get a book and fix it yourself and show him you dont need him.
10 Apr 08
come for me! i am gd u know! i can do all sorts
• India
10 Apr 08
sweetheart!!isnt't this a case with all the men all over,at least most of them.it just takes time for them to understand things and work on them unless its a cricket or a soccer match!for him the urgency to do the door will be when it falls down from its hinges and stray animals come inside the house and will damage his fav boxers.till then its nothing urgent.men will be men.i'll give you an idea get it fixed yourself at least that's what i would do with my guy.lure him into doing it against a prize,he'll be glad to do it!
• Romania
10 Apr 08
Well i know the feelings you are experiencing right now. Nagging him will not do it...i tried it. Now i call on common sense. When you see him watching TV or some other action like this you arm yourself with all the tools needed for fixing the door. It always works for me. If he has common sense he will say: ohh hunny let me help you /let me do it. If that does not work ...well i do not know.
@TriciaW (2441)
• United States
10 Apr 08
I can totally relate. Ours is a kitchen ceiling. It has been over a year of next weekend I will get to that for us. I would do it myself if I wasn't so short and the was kitchen big enough for a tall ladder. Yet heaven forbid if I say I will do something and it is done that day. Men what are you going to do with them?*L* Just teasing guys I know women do it too.