Mobile phones that ring, when you are talking to someone, answer or not?

@gemini_rose (16194)
April 10, 2008 3:00pm CST
I am just wandering, when you are talking to friends or anyone and their mobile phone rings, do they answer it while you are talking cutting you off mid flow? I ask this because I never do this, if someone is talking to me and my phone rings, it carries on ringing no matter who it is, because I would not dream of cutting someone off to answer it. Twice today however, while talking to a friend, she has cut me off midsentance to answer a ringing mobile,and I felt a little bit put out by it, am I being too touchy here? Or maybe I was just boring her at the time!! So do you do this when you are talking to anyone, cut them off dead if your mobile rings to answer it? Or has anyone done this to you? Do you think it is bad manners to do this? Or am I just being over sensitive?
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• Belgium
10 Apr 08
Lol it depends, when i'm talking to a friend i wouldn't answer it! I'll prob look but don't answer. But if i'm talking to someone i don't wonna talk to i'll say sorry and take up the phone and be glad i escaped =D lol!
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@gemini_rose (16194)
10 Apr 08
So you are a considerate friend then, that is good. Oh, I wonder if that is why she does it then, perhaps she wants to escape!
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• Belgium
10 Apr 08
lol! could be!
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• United States
10 Apr 08
Normally I do not do cut off one person to answer another line. Or are you referring to talking to them in person and they answer the phone? Either way I think it is very rude and unconsiderate to cut the person you are talking to either on the phone or in person to answer you mobile phone. There are exceptions, like you were waiting on a call from a doctor or a dentist or it was your child. What drives me insane is I have customers who come into my office and stay on the cell the entire time and expect me to conduct their business with them while they are on the phone. Now, I just sit and wait for them to get off the phone. Or they come in on a cell phone and I am on the phone with another client and they expect me to put my call on hold for them while they are still just chatting away on their cell phone.
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@gemini_rose (16194)
10 Apr 08
Yes I mean when you are talking in person to someone, their mobile rings, and they just answer it without even excusing themselves. I am glad it is not just me that thought it was rude, I thought I was just being over sensitive as usual!!
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• United States
11 Apr 08
No G Rose you are not the only one. We have this chicken place in town (best chicken in world) and they will not take your order if you are on a cell phone. I think more of the world should try to be more considerate.
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@speakeasy (4215)
• United States
11 Apr 08
Only if you are expecting a very, VERY important call and even then I would have warned the person I was talking to that I WAS expecting the call and might need to take it BEFORE I got involved in a lengthy chat with them. After all, that is why cellphones have voice mail and "missed call" options. It is amazing how many people have become SLAVES to their cell phones. Their cell phones MUST accompany them every where they go and heaven forbid the phone should ring and NOT be immediately answered. Why, the entire WORLD might end if that occurred and civilization would surely come to a screeching halt!
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@gemini_rose (16194)
12 Apr 08
Yes you are right!! If I am only going to school, I do not even take mine with me anymore, I just do not see the point in taking it everywhere. If I am talking I very rarely answer it if it rings, not that it does mine is mainly texts, but half the time I do not even read a text message if I am talking to someone.
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@queenofarms (1665)
• United States
10 Apr 08
It is rude. I look at my phone and see if it might be someone of importance. Like my children or husband. It could be an emergency or something with them. Or if its someone I had called earlier and needed to talk to. So it all depends on the situtation. My husband is on call all the time with his job and his phone can ring anytime. I do get upset when he answers it but he has to.
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@gemini_rose (16194)
12 Apr 08
Thank you, I thought so too.
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@kiran1978 (4137)
• Australia
10 Apr 08
No I don't do it as I feel rude. I think it is sad these days how people can become so dependent on their phones, it changes the way people interact with each other. So yes I do think it is bad manners to do this. An exception would be I guess if you were waiting for very important call, i.e - about job interview, then I think it would be okay to answer the call.
@gemini_rose (16194)
12 Apr 08
It definately was not important, but I would not have minded anyway if she had just said something first before answering it!
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@maddysmommy (16235)
• United States
10 Apr 08
No, I don't think you are being over sensitive at all. If I am expecting a call then I will let that person know and excuse myself and take the call very quickly. If it's just a random call then I let my voicemail take it. It's not often I get calls on my cell phone so usually it's one I probably have to answer (i.e my hubby or my son's school). I get text messages from my family overseas so I read them after we have finished talking.
@gemini_rose (16194)
10 Apr 08
No I did not think I was, but I just thought it was a bit of a naughty thing to do. I would never dream of doing that to anyone.
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@joimarquez (1840)
• United States
14 Apr 08
phones - cellphones. mobile phones. nokia.
my ringtone is mariah carey's song "touch my body"I always buy my ringtones on my phone, its easier that way. What i usually do is set a ring tone for every group like for example when my mom or my sister or brother calls me i set "family affair" by mary blige ringtone and when my boyfriend calls me "promise" by jagged head will play on my phone.
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
14 Apr 08
It depends who is ringing me if it is my Children or my Man then I will ask to be excused a minute because I always worry in case there is something wrong but if it is just another Friend I will let it ring But I would not just answer the Phone I would actually say do you mind if I take the call as it is my Children or something like that Hugs
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@Elixiress (3893)
12 Apr 08
I answer my phone basically because the ringing annoys me and if you don't answer the person is likely to ring back a couple of times, which is even more annoying. It is less interrupting to the conversation to just answer, I say "Sorry, I am just going to answer this, I will be two minutes" then ask the person on the phone what they want and say that I can't talk, because I am in the middle of something.
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@minnie_98214 (10573)
• United States
10 Apr 08
I will sometimes answer it if it is important but I would never interupt the other person mid sentance thats just rude. And never would I leave them on hold for long.
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@jenni7202 (1598)
• United States
10 Apr 08
I personally don't talk to many people on the phone. If I am on the phone, and my cell phone rings, or I hear a beep, I always check the caller ID before answering. If it is someone important, I will ask the person I am talking to to please hold on a moment while I answer it. For all I know it is an emergency. I got the cell phone so that if someone needs me they can get ahold of me, and it just wouldn't be right not to answer it. If the person I am currently talking to doesn't understand that, I really don't care, because I have other important people in my life. You have to think about why those other people are calling, maybe there was an accident, or they need your help with something. It might not always be just to chat.
• India
12 Apr 08
I agree with You. While talking with a friend, cutting and talking to other person, I feel, is just like ignoring You. I never did like that. You should also not do like that. You are not sensitive here. You are a wise person.
@gemini_rose (16194)
12 Apr 08
Thank you that is very nice of you, it just hurt my feelings that someone would do that to me without considering that I was talking.
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@madlees (1381)
• India
16 Apr 08
Yes dear Gemini rose, It will also hurt me if it happens to me. I'll stop calling the person until she call me again. Otherwise I keep away from these friends who do not have politeness or phone manners. there is an etiquette for everything..
@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
11 Apr 08
Honestly, cell phones can be addicting. I know that I would personally be itching to answer it, but no I do not answer my cellphone unless it is someone that me and the friend i am talking to is waiting on. I hate when people do it to me, and I don't wanna do it to other people. I have had a friend that would do it, and it honestly hurt my feelings and pissed me off all in the same swoop. Sometimes this friend was rude about it, and all but abruptly told me to shut up. I no longer speak to this person, however, heh, because of other things.
@gemini_rose (16194)
12 Apr 08
Yep and that is exactly how I feel, this friend that I was with is also starting to show me that she is not such a good friend, not only because of answering her mobile on me, but other little things too.
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@ruby222 (4848)
11 Apr 08
Hi Rose...I would feel a tad miffed yes!...tis a wee bit rude methinks. But as mine is always set on vibrate as oppposed to ring ,i probably wouldnt hear it anyway! But im sure you werent boring her.... The family always ask why my mobile is set on vibrate ...well its because if it rings in the street i would feel really embarassed..thats daft really .... Do you remember when the mobile phone firt came out???...and they were like bricks!!!!...it took all your strength to carry them!!! But i think im right in saying that they are collectors items now!!! The first one we had...lordy lol...it was huge!!!!
@gemini_rose (16194)
11 Apr 08
Yes I thought so too, I always get embarrassed when mine rings, even if it has a good ring tone, mine is always on vibrate too. I never answer it if I am talking to someone either. Yes they were big back then, and they are collectors items, we had some that we sold and got quite a bit of money for them.
@ruby222 (4848)
12 Apr 08
I wished we hd kept the first couple of phones we had...but as usual Rose..we just didnt think to!!
@plumwish07 (4060)
• Indonesia
11 Apr 08
its depend on the situation dear. if the mobile rings, i would like to say sorry to the person who i was talking with and ask his permission to see who is calling in my mobile. if i see there is no urgency to receive the call then i prefer not to answer my mobile, make it silence then back to the person who is along with me on that time. but, if i talked with the person with boring topic, , i would be prefer to answer my mobile and act thats the call was urgent to handle. i think its kind polite way to end the conversation without hurting those person. what do you think dear?
@gemini_rose (16194)
12 Apr 08
If my friend had just said excuse me while I take the call, I would have been fine about it. I think that when someone just cuts you out without even saying a word, it is just a bit hurtful.
• Indonesia
13 Apr 08
ah ya, i got your points dear and i also have same feeling as like you when my friend did that. it seems that i just ignored and no value of my presents there
@Darkwing (21588)
11 Apr 08
It would depend, I think, how important the call was. If I was expecting an important call, I would probably mention it before the conversation started properly, by saying something like, "I'm expecting an important call, so if the phone rings, please excuse me for a couple of minutes". Then I'll carry on the conversation. If it rings out of the blue, I will look to see who it is, kill the call and call them back when I've finished the conversation. So, no, I wouldn't stop them mid-flow to answer my phone, and I think that whoever did it to you... not once, but twice... was quite rude, and I would be put out too. Brightest Blessings my friend.
@gemini_rose (16194)
12 Apr 08
I do not get many calls on my mobile, but if I do then I just excuse myself to whoever I am with if I think it might be school. I did think it was quite rude, and I did feel very put out.
@Darkwing (21588)
12 Apr 08
Yes, I don't blame you.
• United States
11 Apr 08
I will stop a conversation to look at my phone, politely as possible. It may be an important call, either business, or family related. I will stop, look at the caller id, and then determine if it needs to be answered. If I do need to answer, I make the phone conversation brief. You are right, if you are in company its very rude for a friend to stop a conversation to start another on the phone. I wouldn't give a friend a chance to do it a second time.
@gemini_rose (16194)
12 Apr 08
No, and I am beginning to think that she is not as much of a friend as I thought she was, but I too thought it was very rude.
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• United States
23 Apr 08
Thank you for the best response. I didn't expect it, what I posted was what I thought was common sense. Did the situation with this so-called friend get any better, or do you still associate with this person?
@madlees (1381)
• India
16 Apr 08
NoI will not like it if someone, close to me or not, cuts me off like that. They could have just told me that there was a call and that she'll call me later. If she doesn't want to talk then let her not call, but she has to tell and then cut the line. I always tell the person that I have a call coming. Then would like to know if they'll hold till I can come online or if they cannot then I'll call back to end the conversation. There should be a polite way to talk and to behave isn't it? Some just don't seem to be thinking in that line. They are all in a hurry, just not interested to think about others and manners etc. All the best
@gemini_rose (16194)
16 Apr 08
Thanks, that is how I feel about it.
@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
16 Apr 08
At work I hate it when a customer answers a cell phone takes 15 minutes on the phone and leaves you waiting. I have on occasion answered my cell whilst in conversation with others. Once was i was talking to my boyfriend and i had just gotten there off the plane. My mom called to make sure i had made it...She would have panicked if i hadnt answered so i did. Other times is when its a call from the drs office that ive been waiting for to verify an appointment...I'll answer that saying I've been waiting for the call it will take just a minute...In those cases people have been pretty understanding. Most the time I look to see whos calling and continue talking. I return the call AFTER my conversation is done. I NEVER answer the phone or make a call while in a restaurant i just find it sooo rude when others do it.
@gemini_rose (16194)
16 Apr 08
That is exactly what I do, I never take a call when I am talking to someone.
@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
12 Apr 08
Hi there, it normally depends on what we are talking about. If we are just simply chatting about nothing important I then would ask for excuse and answer the calls, especially those from my loved ones or from the office. I am afraid that they might be urgent in case.
@gemini_rose (16194)
12 Apr 08
But at least you ask to be excused, the girl I was with at the time did not even do that, just answered her phone while I was in the middle of conversation with her.