Is It Just Me....Or Do You Do This Too? Remembering Friends

@pyewacket (44036)
United States
April 10, 2008 8:02pm CST
I had just responded to a discussion by a friend of mine about Oprah Winfrey, when I discovered that there was on the bottom of the page that listing of other discussions that fall into the same category. There were a number of other discussions started by other MyLotters about Winfrey as well when one stuck out real big time...It was a discussion started by another dear friend some seven months ago...a friend that is no longer with us as she passed into the next realm of existence a little over two months ago. And I know it's silly, and maybe just plain dumb, but I answered her discussion..even though knowing she's no longer with us and will never see my response except maybe in spirit. She was a woman who had a great love for her kitties and unfortunately because of a move, couldn't take all of them with her and had to put all but one cat down....I think it was this more than any medical problem she may have had that contributed to her death...her deep depression for not having her beloved furbabies any longer and they were all older cats--now she's where she can always be with her kitties and play with them in Rainbow Bridge. Anyway, do you ever come up across a discussion by a former friend of yours, one that is no longer here at MyLot especially due to their death? Since I've been here at MyLot a year now..I've known three people who have made the transition and are no longer with us except in spirit... But..if you do come to one of their discussions...do you answer it??..out of some kind of remembrance or respect for that friend you once knew here? This is dedicated to my former friends at MyLot who are no longer here in the physical world but remain a friend in my heart forever--REQUIESCANT IN PACE (RIP)
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@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
11 Apr 08
oh my no I havent done that adn I am so hoping that I really dont lose any friends here that way now I have some that got put off of here but I still havent seen their post from way back thats weird. But I do hope she is haveing a ball at rainbow bridge
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@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
11 Apr 08
Yes it be nice to think she's in the otherworld playing and cuddling with her kitties
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• United States
11 Apr 08
to the best of my knowledge..i don't..think..any of my mylot friends have passed.but yes,i think i would answer.as a comfort and rememberance of the person.
@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
12 Apr 08
There are a few other of my friends here that I haven't heard from a long time...have done PMs to them and no answer so makes me wonder if they're okay or not
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• United States
12 Apr 08
i'd definetly be worried too :( one of my friends just came back after a long time. i was happy to see them.
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@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
13 Apr 08
What's really gotten me worried though is that one friend here I also happen to have their private email and emailed her...haven't heard from her yet
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@ElicBxn (60762)
• United States
11 Apr 08
Awww... I saw a discussion from a friend who got banned over another friend's banning. the other friend is back, but she was banned. I came across one of her discussions and I answere it - this is the person I got Tony from around the first of the year - has it been 4 months already that I've had Tony?
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@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
11 Apr 08
Amazing how time goes..I think you know the person I'm referring to here..how is Jezebel anyway? Can't help wonder if she misses her "mom"
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@ElicBxn (60762)
• United States
11 Apr 08
You brought tears to my eyes reading your post. Jez has settled in pretty well at her new home. "B" says that she isn't real friendly with the other cats, but she's also not having any issues. At the same time "B" took Jez she also took in another elderly cat and moved one of her shelter cats from her shelter into the "geriatric" room. All these cats are 10 and older and probably not adoptable. She will be keeping the cat from the shelter now and will move or get other elderly cats to add to the mix now and then. Jez is 12, the other cat she got is like 13 and the shelter cat is over 10, she's not sure by how much.
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@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
11 Apr 08
I was sitting crying when I accidentally came across that discussion of hers and more so when I answered her discussion---she was so great in her responses to my earlier discussions
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@BarBaraPrz (19348)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
11 Apr 08
No. I can't say that it's happened to me. I don't think I would answer, though.
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@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
11 Apr 08
Okay maybe it was a bit daft of me to answer in one of the discussions...I'm surprised no one else had gone to this one friends page and leave a remembrance comment...I did, no one else...kind of sad in a way
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@BarBaraPrz (19348)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
11 Apr 08
No, it wasn't daft. It was you being you.
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@anniepa (27244)
• United States
11 Apr 08
That's such a sad story about your friend and her beloved kitties! As far as I know none of my friends here have passed. I sure hope none have without my knowing! However, I'd do as you did if it were to happen to me as a tribute to my friend who is no long with us. MyLot is yet another place in which someone can live on forever. Annie
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@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
12 Apr 08
That's a lovely thought...our words and thoughts are here forever, even if we're not here anymore they do live on
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@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
11 Apr 08
Hi pyewacket! I have never knew any friends here in mylot who made the transition to the better place. However, if ever it happens maybe I will also respond to the discussion he or she has posted even though he or she's no longer with us. Just like you, I will do it out of love and respect for that mylot friend for I know physically she or he may not be with us but in spirit, I know he or she is present especially in our hearts. Just my thoughts. Take care and have a nice day! :)
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@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
11 Apr 08
Hi faith210..glad to see you here. Yes sometimes I'll even look through my friends list and see the ones who I know have passed away..it is sad..but yes, it's nice to post to their discussions if anything as a remembrance of their lives into our own, even if only for a brief time
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• United States
11 Apr 08
You tugged at my heart strings Pyewacket. Viewing those posts makes us closer to thoes who touched our lives. It keeps us connected to them in a way.
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@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
11 Apr 08
Yes it does make us feel connected somehow even though they're gone
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@rlc456 (415)
• United States
11 Apr 08
Haven't been a mylot that long, so no.
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@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
11 Apr 08
You're lucky then
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@someonesmom (5765)
• Canada
11 Apr 08
Hi pye, I must say, you've made me a bit teary eyed tonight. I can't imagine who you mean, and looked through your 'discussions answered,' and came up with nothing. Is this lady somebody I'd know? If this is what caused her passing, it's really very sad indeed. Actually, I do have somebody on my list, who disappeared very suddenly from myLot. I know he was very ill, and he'd almost always answer my topics. Remember that discussion that 'got away' from me? Well, I'm still going to respond, even though it's four months old. 'His' response is there, and I haven't quite decided how I'll handle it yet. I don't have proof positive about him, but do have a feeling this is so. I also know of another member, although not on my friend's list, who was killed in a car accident last summer, I believe. He'd answered my topics once in awhile, and then finally, one member here, drew 'our' attention to another, who'd taken her own life, also last year, I think. All really sad. I think if anyone feels like placing a response on any of these members discussions, it's a lovely tribute. Take care.
@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
11 Apr 08
Oh gosh...just looked at your profile page and did a bit of tracking...are we talking about the person whose name is the same as a zodiac sign?? Noticed he hasn't logged in for fourth months! Yes, and the other two people you mention are the ones I'm referring too...the one I mention here was a great cat lover..Gaia was part of her name and I noticed she wasn't on your friends list--she was very inactive to begin with then totally disappeared for a long stretch of time, then returned a bit and even PM'd me once..then that was it...until I got the news from someone else of her passing--so it was a real shock!
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• Canada
11 Apr 08
The tracking you did is correct. 'He' chose that particular avatar, not for the zodiac sign, but it represented the time he was diagnosed. I think I'd seen that he wasn't doing very well again, from what he'd indicated. Our dear 'Grandpa friend' had even started a discussion awhile back, asking if anyone knew what happened to him. GB had repeatedly PM'd him with no response. This man loved myLot, and I do feel very bad when I think of this. There was nobody to tell 'the community' if this is what happened, as I don't think he knew anyone else personally, who would do this. The other man I mentioned, was quite a young 'dad,' with a great sense of humour.
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• Canada
11 Apr 08
By the way, I do think I remember seeing Gaia around too. Really sad.
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@winterose (39922)
• Canada
12 Apr 08
oh goodness that is heartbreaking, how did you find out that she passed on? I never seem to know anyone's business here so I was just wondering, can you tell me in a private email what was her name? Maybe she was on my list too and I didn't even know she passed on.
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@meme0907 (3481)
• United States
14 Apr 08
Hey pw, I was wondering how one could find out if their friend has passed away or just stopped coming here? I'm not as active as I used to be but I do like to peep in @ my friends & I've noticed some don't post anymore. +'s :)
@gabs8513 (48764)
• United Kingdom
14 Apr 08
No I haven't come across any of Friends I have lost here that have left or that are not with us any more But if I did yes I would answer to the Discussion in Memory of the Friend