Bit more about my Son

By Gabs
@gabs8513 (48716)
United Kingdom
April 11, 2008 3:25am CST
First of all everyone I might not be here much for a couple of Days as I need to get my Head round what happened yesterday I am drained and exhausted from it all As you all know my Son has split up with his Fiancee, that is final now, due to my Son not being able to find somewhere straight away to live where he can take his Dog he has moved into the spare Bedroom On Wednesday Night, a Friend of his who he has grown up with and they are more like Brothers ( I have been Friends with his Mum for 21 Years now) decided to take him out, as my Son has no money and can't drive his Van because Madam has not paid her part of the rent or shopping, she has blown her wages on god knows what Anyway they went out I was on the phone to a dear Friend last night who is a Member here and my Daughter rang my Mobile, she sounded upset, she asked if I was on the House Phone, I said yes, she said come of it I need to talk to you. I put the Phone down on my Daughter, I don't know why, as I knew I should not have done, I then told my Friend that I was going to call her back I rang my Daughter back, she said "Mum, please do not get upset as I do not want you to have an attack , she then informed me that my Son had been arrested whilst at the Hospital, I broke down, my Daughter told me to calm down, Here is the Story My Son only remembers leaving the Pub and waking up with a very bad Cut on his arm the next morning, apparently what happened, now this is her story He came home and he was getting agitated (Suspicions are the guy she is with was there, my Son can't remember so we do not know), And apparently he just went mad and smashed 4 Windows, now my Son is not a violent or destructive type at all, she actually left him lying on the Bed bleeding, when he passed out, this happened at 2am, my Son woke up and saw his arm, he rang his Friend who came round straight away and rushed my Son to the Hospital, he had to have several stitches, while there the Police turn up to arrest him. She phoned the Police 12 hours later, not while my Son was going mad but 12 hours later to report him. My Daughter and 2 of his Friends went round the House to board up the Windows my Daughter told me that there was blood everywhere, so that is how much he had been bleeding They put my Son in a Cell for 4 hours, not to calm him down as he was calm and did not know what had happened, to wait to be interviewed. I could not stop crying, I wanted to get in my Car and go there, my Daughter stopped me as I was in a bad way, it is a 3 hour Drive and she knew I would not make it I sat here and sat here waiting for News, 3 lovely Friends of mine where there for me on the Phone, calmed me down let me talk all 3 of you know who you are and I love you for being there for me last Night I then rang the Police Station the Officer was very Nice but I was not able to speak to my Boy which ok is procedures, so I asked them to pass a Message on, which they did At 11pm my Son rings me, he was ok in himself as such but worried about his Dog as she would not tell him where the Dog is Anyway they read the Statement to my Son, he could not remember any of it at all The Police believe that my Son had been drugged with this Drug they use to spike Girls Drinks and rape them and they can't remember Now my Son has always been careful with his Drinks when he goes out due to this sort of thing, Only last Weekend he had told her he was moving out and she had begged him not as she wants to stay Friends with him, but he was looking to move out and taking his Dog I have my own suspicions on what happened that Night but I will not voice them The Reason I have this Suspicion 1. The Bloke she is with is on heavy Drugs and has a lot of druggy Friends 2. She did not call the Police till 10 hours later which means the drug was out of his system 3. 2 years ago they had a row, she picked up a knife and went to stab my Son I stopped it, I believed her the next morning when I asked her to leave when she said she does not remember, that she loves him and does not want to harm him, she cried badly, I believed her and hugged her and let her stay which is what my Son wanted as he believed her to So my Suspicion is there but I could be wrong and I hope I am wrong I hope that it was just someone in the Pub who possibly thought the Drink belonged to a Girl, but I do not believe that as the Person who put the Drug in my Sons drink must have been watching I had a bad Night with Nightmares so I just need to get my Head round all of this My Daughter and my Son's Friend sat at the Police Station till they released him, to be there for him, he stopped at his Friends last Night I am sorry this is so long but I am sure that all my Friends wanted to know what has gone on I thought she broke my Son, but no she hasn't she has been playing Mind Games with him for the last 2 Years but now she has gone to far My Son could have died and I have to say I now hate this Girl, I am sorry to say this but I do. I was there for her when her Dad threw her out and for the last 3 years even though I saw what she was doing to my Son, he did not want to see it and then this
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11 responses
@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
12 Apr 08
Oh, gabs...I am so sorry you are hurting..I hope all is alright with your son....This girl is not a very nice person..It is horrible to think that she may have done such a mean thing to your son. I will be thinking about you....hugs..
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@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
12 Apr 08
Thank you Sweetie he is better today then what he was but still very traumatized Yesterday he cried on the Phone all Day to me and his Sister, she was at work so she could not be with him and today she took him for a meal All he wants now is to get on with his Life without her ... Hugs
@mbs730 (2152)
• Canada
12 Apr 08
Oh gabs, that is horrible!!! I am SO sorry your son was hurt like this. What a horrible, horrible b**** and I hope she gets locked up with the key thrown away!
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@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
12 Apr 08
The problem we have we can't prove it and all my Son wants now is to get better and get on with his Life without her MB she and her new Boyfriend could have killed my Son Hugs to you
@raydene (9875)
• United States
12 Apr 08
Gosh Sweets I wish I could say something to make you feel better.. I hope he is ok and that he can get this all sorted out. Life will be easier when he has miles between himself an this woman! Hugs Doll xooxxoxoxoxoxo
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
11 Apr 08
Gabs dear, you need to put your foot down once and for all and tell your son he needs to drop the zero and find a hero. This girl is a total disaster waiting to happen. He needs to get away from her once and for all. Sounds like she's the drama in all of this and so you need to put your foot down and tell your son to end it with her or you don't want anything more to do with this drama bs because it's too much for you to watch as it unfolds time and time again. Enough already.
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@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
12 Apr 08
He has already believe me as his Friends and me from the start believe that my Boy has been set up and they could have killed him in the Process he is lucky to still be with me She is not in the House any more and he has said he will never have her back
• United States
11 Apr 08
I do not know you personally but I am very sorry all of this happened to you. My brother got arrested once, and it was for something he legitimately did and should have been in trouble for, but it was still very traumatic for my family, especially my mother. I do not have children of my own, so I can only imagine how hard it is to go through. I hope that he is recovering well and will soon be able to put this behind him. I wish you all the best in supporting your son and helping him through this hard time.
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@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
12 Apr 08
Wyndsong Thank you He was crying all Day yesterday on the Phone to me and to his Sister, she was at work so not able to be with him but he went to see her at work for a bit, as my Daughters Boss said to get him there and she can have an half an hour Break, her work is very good about it all He is better today but still a bit traumatized Thank you for caring Hugs
@gemini_rose (16193)
11 Apr 08
Oh gabs, so sorry that all this has happened, but I am glad you had friends to turn to from here to help you through. I am here for you to. Oh she sounds so horrible and I do not blame you at all for feeling this way towards her. I would feel exactly the same if it was my child. I hope your son is ok, poor thing he has been through a lot. Please take care of yourself gabs and keep in touch even if it is just to come on here to let us know that you are ok. Take carexxxxxxxxx
@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
11 Apr 08
Gemini you will see in my new Discussion it is not finished yet Sweetie I got another shock
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@ellie333 (21029)
11 Apr 08
Oh Gabs what an ordeal for you all to be going through right now, try and stay strong to support your son through this. It does seem very strange that she waited 12 hours to report and if your gut feeling is telling you this is what happened there is a strong possibility that it did, but no proof. I sincerely hope it all resolves itself. This woman sounds like she has harmed your son, emotionally, financially and now pshyiclly too, even though it was him that smashed the windows. He needs to get her out or he needs to get out put this behind him as a very hard lesson in life and move on. Ellie :D
@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
11 Apr 08
He will be Ellie he told me last Night and he has told her to and she tried the tears again and said please don't but he is going he told me if he had his Van on the road he could have come to me for a bit but he can't get here
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@kayrod2 (1304)
• Australia
11 Apr 08
oh gabs, my heart goes out to you. what a terrible thing to be going through. and your poor son. i do hope he is all right. what a terrible person that girl is. i do hope your son is rid of her for good. but please take care of yourself. this is a very hard time for you and all your friends here i am sure are thinking of you and sending their love and wishes, as i am take care my friend.
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@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
12 Apr 08
Hi Sweetie and it is good to see you really good Mike is calmer but still very traumatized about it He was crying on the Phone yesterday all Day to me and his Sister it broke my Heart My Girl is looking after her Brother so well Love you and a big Hug
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@kayrod2 (1304)
• Australia
13 Apr 08
Im glad to here he's calming. it will take time. it sounds like his sister is doing a good job being there for him. they must be very close. which is great. and you are also a great comfort to him, being there to listen when he needs you. Im sending lots of hugs to you all, and take care
@Katlady2 (9920)
• United States
13 May 08
Oh sweetie...I'm so sorry I haven't been here for you through all of this. I know you told me before not to apologize, but I really need to. I've been reading your discussions about all your son is going through, and I'm just about in tears at the moment. I wish I were there to be with you as well as to find that ex of his and throttle the living daylights out of her. Your son does not deserve all of this and neither do you! Even though I haven't met the kids, I feel like they are my family too, and I'm getting the protective mom feeling coming on right now. Oooohhhhhh! I hate people like that!!! At any rate, I love you bunches hon. Great big hugs to you sweetie.
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@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
15 May 08
Sweetie do not worry you have a lot to deal with yourself at your End and we know that we are in one another Thoughts Mike is doing better a lot better now just hoping to get a Job soon Hugs to you
• United States
16 Apr 08
Man all I can say is God be with ya I'm going through almost the same thing with my youngest and it is getting the best of me but what can we do but Pray
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@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
19 Apr 08
Don't let it get the best of you you need to stray strong for him it was hard as my Son had been with her for 3 Years but when it happened I was there So stay strong Sweetie
@AJ1952Chats (2340)
• Anderson, Indiana
12 Apr 08
One thing for sure: That bimbo's bad news--VERY bad news--and your son needs to stay far away from her at all times! I wish him the best in his future--which should include not getting back with her or anybody with her kind of personality!
@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
12 Apr 08
Thank you AJ and he wants nothing to do with her ever again Thank you for caring