OK, whats the friggin problem?

United States
April 13, 2008 4:59am CST
Here is another discussion on someone's star rating having dropped, namely mine. Now I know, that I haven't done anything to offend anyone. I don't enter into discussions which could be considered controversial and the discussions I post are safe, no matter what your opinion. I am quick to hear your point of view and see it from both sides, if indeed a different point of view is at all necessary. Most of them call for life experience only. I have had a good rating since I reached 100 posts and now suddenly someone has decided that there is something they don't like about me. Well I'm all for honesty and fair play. So if you have rated me negatively, man up and come forth and tell me why. I sincerely would like to know. I can take the criticism and learn from it. I don't see doing otherwise. So what is the friggin problem and what is it that may have caused you to rate me in a negative manner?
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@jeanniemay (1803)
• Philippines
13 Apr 08
Whoa! Why? Well, it's somehow a reality that still in life, there are some people we can't just simply trust. I don't know and I don't have to point for others but I observe that myself. I got into 99 but went down to as low as 96 until I gained back 98 by now. But that's fine, it will just say that, we have to work to enroll them to our hearts and up to the time when they will realize the wrong they got themselves into and mend up for it. It is neither our care or our responsibility but still we just have to enjoy ourselves to those who still believes that we are worthy of having the best we desire here at mylot. Cheers to you and I look forward to reading more of your discussions. I maybe slow on responding to all of them.
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• United States
13 Apr 08
LOL. No slower than I am in my responses thats for sure. I wasn't going to say anything about it, but then I thought, why not. If someone genuinely wants to rate me negatively then why can't they tell me why. I'll be surprised if it happens, but I know I'd be respectful of their reasoning.
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@raijin (10382)
• Philippines
13 Apr 08
Take it easy, Kb.. You're still in the middle of a red and a blue, since you're still rating 95/100. Just create and post more good discussions, then you'll see that you'll get back on you're usual rating. Consider yourself lucky as well, at least your's did move while mine has been dormant for more months now (still 93/100, no matter how hard the effort I put in my posts). Also, I would not think that someone else did rated me negatively. Since if that's how things work, then I shouldn't be still having a red star or I could've end up with a 2 or 1 star.. I use to carry a blue star here, but somehow haven't earned it back since then..
• United States
13 Apr 08
LOL. Well I'm not going to fall over with grief or anything, but I genuinely would like to know why someone feels the need to rate me negatively. If they could come forward and tell me why, perhaps its something that I could learn from.
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@raijin (10382)
• Philippines
13 Apr 08
What I found out is, it could be of those deletions that happened just last week. It says that, our earnings and as well as ratings gets affected by it..
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• United States
13 Apr 08
Are you talking about the deletion of an individual? Because if you are, I had not taken part in their discussions at least not for sometime.
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@Modestah (11195)
• United States
13 Apr 08
I hear you kbourgerie mine has yet again dropped overnight this time from a 95 down to 91 (I think) last week it was from 99 down to 91. I think mylot should make a policy that no one can enter a negative against the same person more than once a day and not to exceed 4 or 5 times in a week. IT would help to keep things honest.
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@Hatley (135211)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Apr 08
modestah thatis a very good idea andwish mylot would put it into practice I have been yo yoing up and down from red 9 to blue10 and wondering what did I do? I have always treated everyone with respect and hoped to gain the same from them so why did I deserve to be put down to a nine again?
• United States
15 Apr 08
Now I'm down to 83/100 from 98/100 two days ago and I have a yellow star. Someone obviously does have it out for me.
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• United States
15 Apr 08
kb, don't fret so much. It happens to the best of us. I have given you +'s all around!!! Keep up the great posting that you do and you will get back up there in no time.
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@maddysmommy (16243)
• United States
13 Apr 08
The trolls are back and I don't know who they are. Others have also lost their blue star and are down to a red and even a yellow. I don't know who has a grudge against you or my other friends but someone is doing this. They have nothing better to do than ruin it for everyone else. I still think they should get rid of the star system altogether.
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• United States
13 Apr 08
Maybe they should, although for many having their star increased is a great feeling of accomplishment.
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@razcal2267 (15577)
• United States
13 Apr 08
Welcome to the club kb. It happens to all of us and very rarely will anyone own up to it. Sad as it is some people just have nothing better to do they try and bring others down, in this case it is point wise.
• United States
13 Apr 08
If they are so adamant about finding someone displeasing why can't they own up to it? Pretty chicken if you ask me.
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@razcal2267 (15577)
• United States
13 Apr 08
I agree with you about that.
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@sacmom (14374)
• United States
14 Apr 08
I'm sorry to see this has happened to you kbourgerie. I've heard of trolls going around and rating people negatively. I guess they get a kick out of it. Hopefully whoever is doing this will come forward, unless they already have? I've had my rating go up and down doing the yo-yo thing. But I didn't let it get to me (much) and just continued posting as I usually posted and my star rating went back up in no time at all. I'm sure yours will too, as most mylotters tend to rate honestly.
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• United States
14 Apr 08
Well today I'm down to 90/100 after appearing in the digest again. So I can only assume its a jealousy thing.
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• Australia
14 Apr 08
Who knows why people give others negative ratings? Only they know and you probably wouldn't get an honest answer out of them as to why either. Personally, I don't stress over those things, as long as my rating is pretty good then I'm not fussed... I really don't need a blue star (though it would be nice to have one... but it really isn't important). If there is someone engaging in some petty vendetta against you by seeking out your posts to give you a negative you can comfort yourself with this knowledge... that while they do so they are not earning as much as they could.
• United States
14 Apr 08
Thanks for that perspective. It helps and I don't think I'll get an honest answer either although it would be nice.
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@subha12 (18472)
• India
14 Apr 08
i think its not only you, its me also. this morning i am seeing i am down at many things in mylot. i can just give you some instants 1. till yes, my reputation was 97/100, now 96 2. mylot rating was 49 now 175 3. relationships rating was 274 now 679 and down in most cases. i just can't understand why some is making me down or its something else.
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• United States
14 Apr 08
I was number 2 in mylot, now I'm something like 237. I don't get it.
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@jennybianca (12919)
• Australia
14 Apr 08
Without checking out all your discussions, I can't say for sure why someone rated your negative. It certainly wasn't me. I rarely, if ever, rate anyo0ne negative. There are some people out there who rate negatively for twop reasons: 1. There are those people who just can't accept that you may have a different opinion to them. 2. There are a few weirdoes out thee who seem to delight in just being malicious. Neither of these situations are your fault. Of course, if you can identify who did this, I would report them to admin.
• United States
14 Apr 08
I don't really have anyway of knowing who did this and I'm sure they aren't going to come forth, but I do think its someone just being malicious, because I haven't had reason to disagree with anyone.
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@sedel1027 (17870)
• United States
13 Apr 08
You are a 9, what are you so upset about? I don't get why people get all worked about about that darn star.
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• United States
14 Apr 08
If you had read what I wrote, what I said was that if someone rated me negatively, I wanted to know why and learn from it. That I would accept any criticism given.
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@clowdine (1402)
• Philippines
13 Apr 08
I too have decreased. From hard earned and illusive 9, it's now back to my old friend 8. I don't know who did that to me. Something has to be changed by mylot. If this is the case, any trigger happy fellow with a dubious judgment can just have his way decreasing the rating of anyone he does not like that much anytime. They should not just allow this to continue.
• United States
13 Apr 08
Yes, it does seem unfair that one person could run rampant decreasing someones ratings at their own whim. They can do it to anyone at any time. Sorry your ratings have decreased. I don't think you deserve it either. I always enjoy what you write. It is always very intelligent.
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• Bahamas
13 Apr 08
personally, i wouln't vent my frustration publicly as it may attract more negative feedback from people that don't know you yet and think you are just whining. that said, you'd have to really post something aweful to get a neg from me, in fact i just noticed the rating button. i'd recommend you ask a moderator to check their logs, assuming they have logs, and ask them to investigate whether a particular person, or a group of persons with the same internet i.p. adress seems to be hunting down your posts and flagging them as negative without good reason. this is a busy site so i'd also assume that they have a few persons, maybe community volunteers, that would review each post that got flagged negatively to see if it was genuine, and maybe even ask them to explain in some cases and then removing false negatives. i wouldn't worry about it to much since your rating is still pretty high, but some people are so unscrupulous that they'd actually create like 10 or more accounts that they hardly use, except for pulling down others with negative feedback. people pretend to be beautiful girls to build their friends lists and people even create extra user ids to bid on their auctions to drive up the price, so expect anything from 'simple' minds, but in adverse conditions definitely notify the admin. oh, and it is good to not be generic. you want people to either love you or hate(dis-like) you. that's how you develop a following, not by playing it safe.
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• United States
13 Apr 08
I thought about not posting a discussion as many have before me when their star rating decreased, but I had hoped that if someone had something negative to say about me that this was their opportunity to tell me why. I would prefer to take the criticism and learn from it, rather than be bitter. As for playing it "safe", there are many reasons why I do so and yet I have over 20 pages of friends, many who respond to every single one of my posts no matter what the subject matter. I don't see any reason to change that. I do think you have alot of good advice in regard to what to contact mylot admin with. Thanks.
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@ellie26 (4114)
• Malaysia
13 Apr 08
Well, you are not alone. My rating just went down two points today. I am not surprised if it goes down further. Never mind about that, just continue to post good discussions. I see all your discussions are good, so I believe in no time you'll be in blue star again. Keep posting.
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• United States
13 Apr 08
I'm sorry your points went down also. I don't know why people chose to be bitter over discussions. It doesn't make sense to me.
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@gemini_rose (16208)
13 Apr 08
Well I shall just stand up and tell you that it was not me! I do not know why anyone would want to rate you negatively your posts are always really good, there would be no reason that I could see that anyone should want to do that to you.
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• United States
13 Apr 08
Thanks Gemini. I said I wasn't going to post about it, but I couldn't help myself. It does hurt my feelings, because I have tried to fair and kind to everyone.
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@p1kef1sh (45648)
13 Apr 08
As you know I don't ever rate anybody either way. I think that if someone has been doing this to you than it is a rotten thing to do and they should have their own rating reset to zero. That way, maybe they'll learn to think more carefully about what they are doing. If people don't like me, or you, they don't have to post.
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• United States
13 Apr 08
I agree completely. If they don't like me, why don't they ignore me completely and just go on their merry way. Apparently, I'm not the only one they are doing this to. Why do it to anyone? All they need to do is worry about the responses to their own posts and their own earnings.
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@Ravenladyj (22993)
• United States
13 Apr 08
I'll never understand that kind of nonsense Kb seriously...in general..but you DON'T get into beefs with ppl etc so why someone would neg rate you is beyond me other than the trolls needing someone new to pick on
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• United States
13 Apr 08
Thats my point exactly. I don't think I've had it out with one single person on this site. So I can only assume that yes, someone has decided that they don't like where I sit and would prefer that I wasn't sitting there.
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@winterose (39915)
• Canada
14 Apr 08
I think there is a troll on here out to destroy people's star ratings just for the fun of it. After you wrote the last discussion I wrote admin and said that I thought the negative response was being abused and that they should like into it. I think you need to write them too, because it really is not fair.
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• United States
14 Apr 08
Thanks. I've thought about it, but figured it probably wouldn't do much good. Its not fair though, that one person can go through and do that to another for no good reason.
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@pillusch (1150)
• Mexico
14 Apr 08
I don't understand why you care about the star rating in the first place. I still don't know what purpose it serves, and I'm not likely to check. I'm not here to please people, I'm here to interact with other humans. And I'm sure that every now and again I step on somebody's toes. I might even offend people, albeit not intentionally, but I never insult. But there are many fundamentalists and dogmatists in this world and in myLot, and they like to 'punish' people with a different view. And the owners of this site have for some reason decided to hand them a whip. So what? They probbly get a kick out of giving you a bad rating, kind of 'Well, I showed her!' I wouldn't care about this kind of small-mindedness. As far as controversial topics are concerned, that's where you find me (as well as in normal topics, of course.) Cheer up, it's supposed to be fun!
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• United States
14 Apr 08
I thought perhaps I could learn something if someone came forward, but I appreciate your advice and thanks for adding me as a friend.
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@ElicBxn (59620)
• United States
13 Apr 08
for some reason, known only to mylot, the star ratings drop sometimes they fix it and some times they claim its a "correction" like those so called market "corrections" when the stocks drop go figure
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• United States
14 Apr 08
Its the end of the day and I'm about over it now. Thanks.
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@bdugas (3585)
• United States
15 Apr 08
I totally agree and you know what I can tell you just which ones have rated me negative, but they don't the guts to come back and tell you why they think you wrong, or what offended them. I dont' know where you rate a person never looked at it to see. I was getting best awards and all of a sudden it started to drop. If I think you wrong going to say so, if you dont' like it oh well. i always said if you don't want to hear an opinion other that yours dont' ask the question. I think some just give neg, on most it keeps them ahead.
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