it is suppose to be simple... black or white... but...

@ahgong (10066)
Singapore
April 13, 2008 9:13pm CST
Have you ever been in situations where you did not do anything you feel is wrong. But during the course of the activity, the person you are interacting with ends up getting offended and angry with you. And you are left wondering why is that? Life is suppose to be simple. The irony of life is this... it could be very simple, yet people are always the one making it all complicated and difficult to comprehend. Simplicity is always "can" or "cannot". "Do" or "do not". "Right" or "wrong". "Black" or "White". But people are always mixing them together such that it becomes "erm... maybe"... "probably"... "possibly"... and the all time favorite "all shades of gray" I mean, when people are dealing with problems, it is not always the same... can the problem be solved? Yes or no? But when it comes to handling people, it is always the gray area that has to be threaded cautiously... lest we offend the other party because the other party has read too much into what you originally intended. Ever been in such situations before? How do you deal with the gray areas of life?
2 responses
@applefreak (3131)
• Singapore
14 Apr 08
guess the saying 'meaning is in people' holds true. different people make different meaning out of the same sentence. also, culture and religion plays a big part in how we perceive things. for example a roast suckling pig is for joyous occasions for the chinese, but can be offensive if you present it to a muslim. education plays a part as well as there's so many ways to interpret a simple 'oh really'. i believe it's almost impossible to please everyone. if a person believed that you meant ill, they can interpret something bad out of what you said no matter how you said it or what you really meant. i've had such experience with a colleague of mine. regardless of what i said, he felt that it's a personal attack. in the end i just stopped being so nice about it and say whatever i want to say without trying so hard to be politically correct. :p
@ahgong (10066)
• Singapore
6 Jun 08
Makes it all the more easy to deal with that person once you know how to, doesn't it? So you have one less worry about trying to be politically correct to this colleague of yours. Like you say, meaning is in people. How one interpret the same thing really depends on that person's outlook and upbringing. Which is why sometimes it is difficult to be able to meant well if you meet up with a tight butt fella who takes offense in everything you mention or say. If only life was simple eh?
@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
14 Apr 08
We all experience that sort of situation... and everytime it happens to me... i let it be... not point in arguing with people who makes life very difficult... if they get angry... then let them be angry... as long as i know that i did not do anything wrong... in the long wrong... they will realize that... and see in their heart that i never meant them any wrong... Life is too full of surprises... some good and others bad... i would rather dwell on the good... that exert any effort of the bad...
@ahgong (10066)
• Singapore
6 Jun 08
That is a good way to look at life. Dwell on the good ones and forget about the nasty ones. But it is often easier said than done. Often when we remember something, it is usually the things that rile you the most that you remember first, rather than the good stuff. So, conscious efforts is needed to achieve what you mentioned. Good one there though aseretdd.