do i still need to entertain him?

Philippines
April 14, 2008 12:21am CST
I used to have a relationship with someone when we were still in high school. That was ten years ago. Then he got married maybe 3 years after we had that relationship and broke. Last year, he was able to get my mobile number and started to call me. Until now he calls me occasionally and shares his life. I remain single. Although we don't bring up our past and just have a friendly conversation, the fact that we had our past and that he's married, bothers me. Do you think he has no other intention than mere friendship? What must I do? Should I still answer his calls?
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@subha12 (18463)
• India
14 Apr 08
i thik you should not. you broke up earlier and he is alraedy married. then why he is bothering you? what will he get from it? may be he wants to be entertained by you. but i think when he is married he should not contact you.
• Philippines
14 Apr 08
i agree with subha she should not contact you...reverse the situation...if you are the one married what would be your intention to call your ex? are you not satisfied with the current relationship? ^_^
@rsa101 (13337)
• Philippines
14 Apr 08
Well I think if you are troubled having this kind of relationship is either to stop or outrightly confront him of what his intentions are. I have suspicions as maybe he is just fishing something out of you before revealing anything to you. So its really up to you what to do. But I advice that you decide what you must do as soon as possible as it may have other consequences if you delay it further.
• Philippines
14 Apr 08
since I am a believer of gaining friendship after a relationship, I would say that yes, you two can be friends and you can entertain him for aS long as you know your limits. However, since you are not comfortable with the idea of he being married and you two in a relationsip before, then do not push iT. Try to talk to him & tell him you're not comfortable with the idea of you cAlling each other and all that stuff.. I think those honEst words must come from you first and I think you should do something about it before other people do.. just follow your instinct. God bless
• Philippines
14 Apr 08
hi jessan... i think its obvious his intentions are not mere friendship...you should not answer his calls ^_^ if he keeps calling you then call his wife... then you should know his true intentions...
• Philippines
14 Apr 08
From my own point of view - there's absolutely no reason why you should NOT entertain him. Being married doesn't cut off his social life, and as long as you two keep it "friendly," no need to worry about the whole situation. Now, if he starts flirting and hoping you two could bring back the old relationship, that's when you draw the line.