What would you do if the girl you think you're in love is in love with...

@rombi001 (943)
April 14, 2008 6:35am CST
someone else? Would you try to get over her? or would you take the challenge to win her attention? It has happened to me once... And I decided to respect her opinion even though I never told her how I felt.. Was that the right decision? because I still think about it after many years...
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@ratyz5 (7829)
• Philippines
14 Apr 08
If that's what you decided on after many years, I guess your just thinking of the possibilities of what if you had told that her about your feelings and if it would change anything at all. At any rate, I have experienced the same thing during college. I like this classmate of mine that I ended up acting weird with her but still, we were friends. I never told her how I felt for her and now, she already has a child. It might have been different if I had told her my feelings but, there's no point on pondering about things that can never be changed..
@rombi001 (943)
14 Apr 08
I guess you're right.. but the thing is the person she was with it didn;t work out... I guess we can't go back in time... what's done is done :(
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@ratyz5 (7829)
• Philippines
14 Apr 08
It is also troubling at times to hear confessions from friends we don't expect. I mean, after all those times that you have been together and that your friend has gotten into a relationship, suddenly mentioning that you had feelings for them before would surely make them think as well. Being friends for a long time, its not easy to quickly change how they would look at those who confessed their feelings. Then again, its different for everyone.
@rombi001 (943)
14 Apr 08
I know what you mean, I guess its easier if you aren't that good of friends, in that case if it doesn't work out the way you wanted at least you won't be risking your friendship...
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@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
15 Apr 08
one of the hardest things in life... is to make someone love you. Love does not work in such a way... the more you force it, the more it stays away from you. feelings are never taught... i guess the best thing we can do is accept the fact that people do love, sometimes we get lucky we are loved by the person we love, and most of the time, we will end up hurt cause they love someone else... best is to give repect to others, it happens to us too right, someone loves us but no matter how great they are, our eyes are focused on someone else...
@rombi001 (943)
15 Apr 08
true, I agree with what you said... But don't you feel that they are not right for each other?? I know I feel that way sometimes... I guess I'm just jealous... :)
@subha12 (18453)
• India
15 Apr 08
i think what you did was right. its always good to respect her thought and decision. love can't be forced on anyone. so why just make a competition in love?its not going to win you anything. rather what you did proved your value.
@rombi001 (943)
15 Apr 08
Thanks subha... but the sad thing is that she didn't stay with that person, so they weren't meant for each other... And now I constantly think what could've happened, if you know what I mean
@sedel1027 (17855)
• United States
14 Apr 08
If you think the one you love is in love with someone else, you need to communicate those feelings to them. It is better to get things like that out in the open.
@rombi001 (943)
14 Apr 08
You're right... Unfortunately I didn't and it was a long time ago... If I could only turn back time :)
@jiangsl (377)
• China
14 Apr 08
Hi rombi001,does she know that you like her?Now I will take the challenge to win her attention.It is worth for me to do that,I think.I just failed to chase a girl two months ago.Maybe I am too impatient,I asked her whether she wanted to affiliate with me .Maybe she felt pressure and refused me.So I am very sad.
@rombi001 (943)
14 Apr 08
No i don't think she does... well maybe she did... It would be awkward to tell her now though cos it was a really long time ago and now we have established that we are good friends... I don't want to risk that