what do you do if you catch your partner with another?

April 15, 2008 4:51am CST
do you accept his/her apologies? do you get along with your life or continue to live with him/her as if nothing happen? Do you feel comfortable with your partner, when knowing he/she had affair with another? What about trust?
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14 responses
@pooh08 (672)
• Vietnam
15 Apr 08
I'll find the reason make he/she go together. If it's the legitimate reason which don't take you and her/him say goodbye, I think you should forgive her/his mistake. If not, I think you should say good-bye with him/her.
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• India
20 Apr 08
Shoot at sight.
• United States
18 Apr 08
It depends if it is the first time or not. If it is not the first time than that would be it. He would be out the door and out of my life. But if it was the first time I would try to patch things up. It would take a long time because once trust is broken it is hard to get back. Not impossible but very hard to trust the person again.
@focjop20 (233)
• Puerto Rico
18 Apr 08
Just get involved, and share there interests. Better off say good bye, and walk away; there is some body out there who won't cheat.
@subha12 (18453)
• India
17 Apr 08
i think that would never be any good experience. i may lend him aear. but may not listen to his excuses. its a cheating,
• India
17 Apr 08
As for me, im not a good forgiver...i cannot ever b, especially if he cheated me and had an affair, i will never forgive him or accept his apologis in any way. Coz i cudnt no longer trust him, and if i dont that wud b a major problem 4 both of us...so lets say its over if my partner cheated on me...love is about trust, faith, commitment...
• India
17 Apr 08
well, I'll certainly kill them....kidding Actually I wont do anything ....I would let them go and I'll go forward in my life ....what I have done before ... I have been through this condition ..... thats all ....thanks !!!
@rhane7315 (5673)
• Philippines
17 Apr 08
i'll let my instinct do the judging i won't talk to him unless he talks to me and explains what i saw
@wnbwnbwnb (427)
• China
17 Apr 08
Definately no! Actually,I don't believe that someone could love me for his whole life,so if he had an affair with other women,I can totally understand it. However,I will not accept the apologies,since he would make me feel sick if he done so.So,never want me back!
@cream97 (29166)
• United States
15 Apr 08
I would leave them alone, they are no longer worth my time.
@jstaubin (423)
• United States
15 Apr 08
I would try to work it out with my husband but I feel that it would be a real struggle. I mean to me trust is a very big part of our relationship and I don't know that I would ever really be abelt o trust him after that.
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
15 Apr 08
Well we would definately be having a knock down drag out fight over it THEN I'd be willing to talk..With me though its not the fact that he'd been with someone else, I'd be livid becuase he was being sneaky when he knows that its not necessary..He can sleep with whomever he wants, just not in our house and he has to tell me about it first..So the lying, hiding things etc etc would be what would tick me off....Would I leave him? That would all depend on how our "talk" went and what he had to say for himself.
@kezabelle (2985)
15 Apr 08
I have done this and believe me it is not easy forgiving someone is the easy part forgetting what they did is what makes it hard but I think if you love someone enough and want to get through it and make it work you can trusting them again is hard and they have to prove to you they can be trusted again but it can work me and my partner are proof of that we couldnt be happier now
@danzer (2732)
• Philippines
15 Apr 08
Oh if I find my partner with another, I might rejoice for her knowing that she find a worthy man. I will let them go together in peace if not pieces!