You know who you are....

I feel the same way and couldn't have put it any better than you have. Some people just don't get it and we are the ones who have to end up dealing with it. Of course these people just don't care, like you said they are only here for the money. But eventually I think they get bored with the site because they don't make as much as they were hoping to.

I get irritated by those who use poor translation programs so they can post inane babble that didn't get the point across they were trying to ask and they don't know it because they don't speak English.

Yay! Good thing I have long gone removed these people on my lists, I never waste my time on people such as those. Worst of all, they flood you with discussions and when you respond to it, they won't even give some time to comment on your responses and sometimes they skip on the responses you make. How rude could that be, make friends and then be like an opportunist? Nah, I won't waste my time responding on their posts nor keep them on my friends lists. Most of them are "hit and run" members, who are only here to reach an amount and then leave after getting satisfied with what they came here for.. Since I don't start much of my own threads, I don't expect that all of my friends would respond to it. As long as they provide me good discussions to respond at and comment on it, that's a fair bargain for me already..

I agree with you, have you seen some of the ones who take up a whole page of a interest section with just the questions they have posted? I have seen it a couple of times with in just a week. If they want to post questions, they could also think about answering other people questions. But, the sad part is that some of the new members see mylot as a paycheck when it is not. It is simply a way to gain a few cents here and there while you give your thoughts and opinion on something.

Hear, hear, and hear again! THANK YOU! I get so annoyed with these posters and I am so glad to see someone post about it. I hope these idiots listen or abandon ship. I hate wasting my time with them hoping against hope that the discussion will turn into something worthwhile.

I totally agree with you here cortjo. I have a few friends that are posting like crazy and my email notifications have gone through the roof but at least they do answer my responses. Don't know how they do it, I'm still trolling through the emails - got about 115 more to go (groan) and it takes me days to go through them. I must admit I don't answer the ones that just give the one liner questions because I don't feel that the person has actually thought about it and therefore I don't respond to it. I haven't put out many discussions solely beacuse I am trying to respond to all my friends' discussions... I love this community and have so much fun here and I do care about the friends I have made. Thanks very much for posting this discussion - hopefully those that do drop and run will stop doing it!

There are so many viewpoints to this very interesting question and I'm glad you have given people an opportunity to speak out. You can sort out the MyLotters by age, just by listening to their answers, which are usually very thoughtful ones. They have taken the time to think about their response and have gone deep into their feelings before answering. Many of these people have been here since the beginning and have formed true friendships and aren't here basically for the money. That's just a side benefit. Then there are the youngsters that have discovered MyLot and give quick, short and often abrupt answers and I can tell that they are 19 or 20, because they don't have much life experience included in their answers. They also ask multiple questions like "what fruit do you like" etc. Now I call those "fluffy" questions and are designed to just get quick answers and build up the money. They aren't here to bond, but to work the system and make some cash. Now, I'm not trashing them because I have several young, thoughtful, friends in my friends list. I like them very much and they are here for more than just the money. Now, I'm not faulting all that use the site to just make money either and I'll tell you why. There are people out there that NEED to supplement their income. It's not a choice, it is a necessity. Many have lost jobs or are working at much lower wages, trying to pay off school loans or have had major life changes like illness or disabilities. So many of the money making sites on the internet are truly scams and don't pay, so if they find a site that does, well they want to take advantage of the earning power. I've been a member here for over a year. For several months, I didn't participate too much and then I started only answering questions that had (what I felt) substance. I've only even posted a few questions the last month. Not only did I find that my money grew significantly, but I was able to pick subjects that I thought might get some thoughtful answers. It was kind of an eye opener for me, though, because it seems that people like answering the "fluffy" questions or the hot button ones. I can only join in the "hot button" discussions every so often, because instead of just giving viewpoints on the opposite sides of a subject, the discussion becomes a "meanfest" and the comments get ugly with the commenter, rather than just the subject matter. If you only want answers that support your viewpoint, then ASK for that. Don't ask for ALL comments and then proceed to trash the people that think differently. Then I just get disgusted and don't want to participate at all. I guess there are as many reasons to join MyLot as there are people. We can all pick and choose the company we keep, I guess. And if you haven't fallen asleep with my response by now, thank you for this opportunity to let me speak out! Have a great evening!

I understand where you are coming from and yes it is annoying. But I also am relieved to know you aren't talking about me :) I rarely post and I frequently respond to others. If I have nothing useful to talk about, I won't talk! I have too much clutter in my mind right now and on top of that I am sick with a cold. I don't think I will be posting anything new for a while... come to think of it, I shouldn't be talking to anyone at all in this kind of state!

Very Well Said!! I agree with you on this 100%. I hate when people start one or two line posts and never go back and respond to even one answer. It makes me mad sometimes when I put effort and thought into my response for it never to be answered. I mean really even a simple "Thank you for you comment" would be nice. Then I at least know they took the time to read my response. Some people on here are just in it for the money. Im not I love the relationships I have formed with several memebers here. They are like my extended family. ~May The Kisses Of An Angel Cover And Protect You Always~ Copper

OH NO!! not more drama!! lol I used to be very active here at one time. I have lots of friends but I dont think many of them visit here as much as before. My discussions used to always be answered. But now very few of them are. There has been more drama than you can shake a stick at. Or something like that. lol. Your discussion is one I've seen many times before. People do what they want. So really the only good that will come from your discussion is people will answer you and agree with you lol. Nice long discussion though. I commend you for being able to make it long and look good. Thanks for making me write a book as well lol. Now I must go read my own unanswered discussions . lol

I'd like to think you're not talking about me. Well, I know it's not me. I don't start discussions regularly and when I do, I answer my own questions and I revisit my discussions and post comments. But I do get annoyed sometimes reading questions or discussions asking for opinions without sharing his/her own thoughts or lacks details whatsoever. Cheers!

Thanks for saying this... I am remembering one discussion with an eat your heart out kind of wrenching problem that someone mentioned and sought help for... I offered help and never got a response. I felt a bit disappointed, neglected and rejected even... I expected more perhaps because the person had seemed so desperite for help. I know that I try to respond to people who post in my discussions and also share in other places... It is only right to do so as this is indeed a place of relationship building as much as it is a place of making money.

Some times, i don't know who i am,i don't know what i can do,so i feel said.I don't like that,but i don't know how to change.

Hi Cortjo... i just had to comment on your post here, because i thought it was a very helpful illustration of Mylotian manners (lol, i like that). I'm new here, and its nice to see that generally this community isnt JUST about making money, and that common decency come into play. I think everything you've said is perfectly understandable, and even though i havent been here long, i totally agree that we shouldnt let the money-earning take over simple manners, and a sense of community together. I too think its unfair of people to post discussion after discussion, with no care for what the responses are, and no intention of responding with a polite comment back. Iv made sure to reply to every single reply iv received on all of my posts, and im very pleased i did now! I hope i can make some more decent pals here too as time goes on too. xxxxxx

i think this is vaulable to anyone on mylot. everyone should know how this site works so they may take full advantage of making money and friends here. people who abuse the system can only do so for so long and then they will be exposed.

I totally agree with you cortjo73! I have seen a lot of members here who post question after question after question but they themselves do not elaborate on their question nor bother sharing their views on the topic at hand. Well, if they are asking questions about something that they really do not know about, at least they could come up with good ways to enhance their discussion. Or, after having a lot of responses, they would not even bother giving their comments. Though I can't really comment on each response I get for a discussion I have posted, I make sure that they are rated especially if they give good answers. I also have noticed that there are those who would post question after question after question but if you are going to read each, they are much similar with each other. I mean, they could have just posted it in one discussion. For example, "What is your favorite color?". Then, the same author would post another discussion which goes, "Do you wear clothes in your favorite color?". Then again, the same author would post another discussion which goes, "Does your favorite color represent your personality?" Well, maybe, just maybe, these people are just trying to boost up the number of posts they have and the digits in their earnings. Perhaps they are not really in the mood for chatting. We can't blame them. Perhaps, they are just here for the earnings. But you are right, it is important that they also cultivate relationship with the others out here. Nice discussion!

Good points here, and a few members you can actually see this with easily (I think two of them finally quit but I don't know). One rule of thumb I allot on mylot is that I'll give a benefit of the doubt if I see responses to responses AFTER my response. At least I can reasonably assume my response was read (at the very least seen... but thats another discussion I think -_-). I do what I can to respond to my own discussions, but sometimes so much is being said its hard to keep up. Other times, the person said the whole thing and I cannot add much to it (and I'll only say "Seconded", or responses basically saying this, so many times in one night) Other times there are very few responses (or no responses) to a very thorough discussion. And again I'll respond as I can (if possible...).

I completely agree with you! I hate going through my daily notification emails, to one liner questions. I personally don't start many discussions, but when I do, I try to give my own story behind why I'm even asking the question in the first place! I rarely answer one liner questions, unless I feel that I have a little bit of something to say to that person. I also like to go back and read everyone's comments and responses, so I have my notifications on for that as well. I don't always respond to everyone, but I do on the ones that seem to catch my eye. I also tend to add those people to my friends lists, if they aren't already.

I have seen that a lot here in mylot...It is kind of sad they just don't know or understand what they are missing...The friendships I have made on here out weigh the money any day...

Well I can honestly say it is not me here for sure. I have not been on mylot long enough to even think about asking a question and not leaving an answer. But it is good to know what people would like to see from each other, and know that we should all be making an effort to share our thoughts as well on any question we should pose. This gives us an opportunity to learn more about each other, don't you think?