The Power To Forgive... Do You Have It?

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@Darkwing (21583)
April 15, 2008 4:13pm CST
How easy, or difficult is it to forgive somebody whom you feel has wronged you? Say a loved one has hurt you in some way, or you have hurt them, and a yelling match follows... things are said that can't be unsaid, and which are cruel and hurtful, on both sides. When somebody we value offends us, it can hurt like a the twist of a knife in our chest or stomach... even moreso if it's somebody we really care deeply about, like a mother or a partner. We're all capable of offending somebody at some point... even those who are closest to us. When we hurt others, or they hurt us, and the matter is left unresolved, it can place a lot of strain on a relationship, even one that we value highly. Obviously, the best way to resolve the hurt is to sit down and talk with your loved one; exchanging feelings, and giving or accepting an apology for the weakness. Do you find it difficult to admit your wrongs and apologise, or do you just go silent? If you are the offended, can you accept when somebody admits their faults and apologises to you? Do you have the power of forgiveness? If neither of these is appropriate, how would you react to being hurt? Be honest... I'm not here to judge, but to learn how difficult the majority would find it to resolve such a situation. Maybe you'd walk away to lick your wounds for a while, or maybe you would retaliate, in defense of your feelings, or drown in a pool of tears? What would you do... and how well do you think you would handle this situation?
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@minnie_98214 (10557)
• United States
15 Apr 08
Normally id say I can forgive but I have a hard time just forgeting but right now my emotions are so out of whack theres no telling how id react (im pregnant lol). I might manage to show every emotion possible in 5 minutes time.
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@Darkwing (21583)
15 Apr 08
Awwwww, Congratulations, my friend. I hope all goes well for you. Yes, I understand how pregnancy can affect the emotions, and I wouldn't recommend this situation at the moment! So, if you can forgive, but not forget, how would you cope? I mean, would you keep harping on about the hurt, or would you just keep it to yourself, put it behind you and carry on as before you were hurt? Then, if you did that... would you fling it up again, the next time you felt pain from this person? Interesting, to say the least. Brightest Blessings and all best wishes for the birth of your little one. x
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• United States
15 Apr 08
I may still bring it up but I try not to. I know its not good to keep it bottled inside but thats just what I try and do I dont like to fight.
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@Darkwing (21583)
15 Apr 08
No, I don't either. It's very difficult not to bring it up in the future though, I guess, but then, probably neither of us would give a third chance, huh?
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@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
16 Apr 08
Who am I, to not forgive those who have sinned against me..? Definitely the best way to resolve and settle things up is to, sit down and talk in a respectful manner. Some say that sorry seems to be the hardest word to utter, but I say just give it some time. We all have a good person inside of us, all we need to do is show them from time to time.
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@Darkwing (21583)
16 Apr 08
Yes, I agree, talking is cheap and effective. It's very important to listen as well as talk, and weigh up both sides, without losing one's cool. Sorry is not that hard a word to say, I've found, when a relationship or friendship relies on it. Brightest Blessings my dear friend and thank you for your contribution. x
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@Darkwing (21583)
4 May 08
Sorry Tina, that I've been so long coming back on this. for some reason, I didn't receive notification that it was here, but better late than never. I agree with you, that there's only a limited number of times you can forgive. If the person you've forgiven insists on doing you wrong, then their worth eventually fades. I think you've made the right decision, and yes, when they won't talk, it does make things difficult. I want to shake them sometimes when they get that way. Brightest Blessings, and welcome to Mylot, my friend. I hope you make lots of nice friends here, and earn a little bit of cash on the way. x
• United States
22 Apr 08
This is a very interesting to me today. Due to the fact I am in an argument with a friend who I have forgiven at least five times in the past. This last time I told him that the slate was clean but if he hurt me again I would never speak to him again. Well not two months later he did it again and this time I confronted him immediately and he hasn't said a word. So I am assuming we are through even though he never says goodbye or anything else As far as I am concerned he is a mouse not man but thats another discussion So do I feel that you can forgive yes you can it sometimes takes time to heal but when the other person isn't talking it is kind of hard to get closure on the subject
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
16 Apr 08
I will admit when I am wrong and I will apologize for it to My Ex Husband put me through hell and called me a lot of Names in our Marriage I but what broke it was when he told me that I am no one special and this came about because I had been cool with a Friend of his who had actually come onto me, when I told the X that is when he said it and that hurt very much because for once in my Life I wanted to special to someone and this someone being the one I married but I knew I wasn't I always knew but for him to come out with it in words made it real to me But that is the past and I have not really forgiven if I am honest but I am not bitter anymore either My Children and I have had strong words in the past but we always ended in tears and had a cuddle and talked mainly Mel and me lol But what someone has done to my Son last week I will never forgive ever My Nightmares and fears came true last week as that has been my fear but I have never ever said, it has been my Fear from when she told me 2 years ago that she had once stabbed her Brother and from when she picked up a Knife to Mike, I never thought it would happen but I will never forgive that, hurt me, call me Names and things like that but never my Children, Gissi, D or Friends as that I can not forgive
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
16 Apr 08
Thank you my dear Friend I love you xxxxx
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@Darkwing (21583)
16 Apr 08
You're most welcome. Love you too. xxx
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@Darkwing (21583)
16 Apr 08
Gabs, this was the breaker of your dreams, Sweetheart, and the tearing down of all you'd been trying to build with your ex. It's purely and simply mental abuse, which none of us should have to put up with, or forgive. Knowing a fair bit about your childhood, I can see why you wanted to make things good for yourself and your whole family, but mental abuse is the pits. It kills your self-esteem and your confidence, and it hurts like hell! It's good that you have been able to put it behind you, even if you can't forgive and forget, because it has made you a stronger, more caring and happier person to do so. As for kids... they rarely think before they put their foot in their mouths, and nine times out of ten, you know they don't mean it, and a hug says a great deal at these times. The other person, who hurt your son so badly? You should not have to forgive her, because she will never apologise. Just remember that for every hurt she dishes out, she will receive it back threefold. Really, here, it shouldn't be you who has to forgive anyway, if forgiving is called for.. it should be your son who decides whether he's willing to accept an apology, but I know how much you love your kids, and can see why you feel their pain. All you can do is love them and guide them, my friend. The rest is up to them. Brightest Blessings, and thank you for your contribution. Love and hugs. xxxx
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@vijigopi (991)
• United States
15 Apr 08
In my earlier days, I could easily forgive but not forget. But now, as I am growing older and more mature, I forget faster than I remember, so I don't even know what to feel bad about and I feel it is silly to hold grudges against anybody for a long time. I have come to really acknowledge and understand the fact that each one is unique and every individual has different opinions of what is right and wrong. Something that is right for one might be completely wrong in another's eyes. So, I never judge anybody by just one or two of their actions. I always consider the situation in which a person is when they react in a way that I don't like. I used to fight a lot for what I thought was right but now have come to understand that it is not absolutely necessary everytime someone offends me. I guess a person's defenses start working when they are criticised and so I just stand there and take in whatever criticism they have to offer, say sorry and get out of that place. If I think they have misunderstood I try to make my point clear. Then after I have considerably calmed down... (my defenses do start working in my mind immediately after the fight, though)I sit down and think about what they said and if I have really acted in an unconsiderate way. Then, if I find that I am wrong I make amends and make it a point that I don't commit that mistake again. If I end up thinking I was wrongly offended for a mistake that I did not commit, I throw it away from my mind, convincing myself that my offender had misunderstood me and will try to communicate to them the actual intention of whatever had offended them in the first place. Even then, if they do not understand, I just say sorry to have hurt them again and leave it at that, because each person views something differently and I have learnt to live with it. It does not change how I act with that person again unless they want it that way and move away. I may be careful not to hurt them again, though, I had to learn a lesson from it atleast.
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@Darkwing (21583)
15 Apr 08
You made me laugh there, my friend, when you said you forget easier than you remember. I like your style!! Yes, everybody does have their own way of looking a things, and I agree that we should not judge. In fact, I feel if we show them how calm and considerate we can be in the face of a yelling match, then they learn from us, and possibly decide that it's better to be that way. I have no qualms with that, it's all about growing in spirit. I don't like dispute of any kind... I strive for harmony in my life... it's a Libra trait that I'm stuck with, but can't say that I dislike. If I can do my bit towards bringing harmony all around me, then, I'll be happy. Thank you for your very well thought out contribution, my friend. There's a lot of sense in what you say... Brightest Blessings.
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@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
16 Apr 08
Hi Darkwing! I am too soft when it comes to people asking for forgiveness. I easily forgive just anyone who asks of it even though it still really hurts. But there are times, when some people don't really care if they have hurt you. In this case, I do forgive them in my heart but I would always pray that I do not see them yet. I try to avoid any "chance meeting" because I would not know how to act towards them. I just could not approach anyone who has hurt me unless they have approached me first. I do not want to dwell on anger because it would not do any good for me or for anyone involved. Most of the time, I just cry over it and pray. I don't take vengeance on anyone but I admit that in my thoughts sometimes I am tempted. And if I am the one who has hurt anyone, I will ask for forgiveness. Just my thoughts. take care and have a nice day!
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@Darkwing (21583)
16 Apr 08
Awwww, sweetie, it doesn't do to forgive and still have a hurt or fear inside to deal with, when it's not your fault in the first place. If they asked me for forgiveness and wouldn't talk things through, I think I might lay down a few ground rules, like, "Ok, I'll forgive you this time, but if it happens again, we either need a serious talk, or to part company." That way, you've let go of the fear of meeting them again, my friend. I just tend to forgive them, and put it down to them hurting themselves more than me. I won't worry about meeting them again, and I'll treat them just the same as I always did when I do meet them, but I won't go out of my way to make arrangements with them any more. As you say, they would have to come to me. If they're any sort of a friend, they'll find there's a hole in their life, and they will come back. I agree, when hurting somebody else, it's best to apologise and ask for forgiveness, just to clear the air. Admitting that you're wrong and apologising is an art, and gains you respect my dear friend. Brightest Blessings and thank you for your contribution.
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@Darkwing (21583)
16 Apr 08
Thank you, my dear friend. It's good to see that you believe in your hubby so much that you can accept when he tells you your faults, even if they're good faults in essence. Take care, special person! x
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@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
16 Apr 08
Hi Darkwing! I know you are right because my husband tells me the same thing. Thanks for pointing it out to me also. Take care and have a nice day!
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Apr 08
I usually explode and then after thats over I apologize for overreacting and usually end up in tears. Ihave a quick fuse but I also recover quickly too. I am a scorpio after all.
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@Darkwing (21583)
24 Apr 08
Scorpio or no, you still have the power to apologise, my friend, which is a good quality in any of us. Thank you for your contribution and Brightest Blessings. xx
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@deeeky (3667)
• Edinburgh, Scotland
16 Apr 08
I can forgive easily, as life is too short for any grudges so it is best to move on. When one is hurt it changes ones perception of that person and we compensate by learning not to discuss anything that might be upsetting to both parties. It is best to count to ten and think before saying something that we might regret and not having to take the hurt back that we might inflict. I would rather walk away before arguing the fact that I might be right about something and give the benifit of the dought that I may be wrong.
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@Darkwing (21583)
16 Apr 08
I guess, in relation to your last point, it depends on a person's values, but... and I'm only giving my opinion now... if I'd been hurt by something I knew was fact, I'd want to know why, and would want to try and salvage something that I'd really put my heart into. Maybe I'd done something wrong myself, to invite the hurt? Where does the benefit of the doubt come in? Walking away doesn't really resolve anything, to my mind; it's still simmering inside both partners. I agree that life is too short to bear grudges, but not discussing things seems to be a sign of submission to hurt, rather than a cure. I couldn't give up so easily, on something I'd once treasured so strongly... move on, and I haven't forgiven, I've opted out, without even attempting to resolve the problem, which would suggest that I didn't hold any value on the relationship anyway. Sorry... I'm not saying your way is wrong, and I'm not saying mine is right, but this discussion is showing me that we all have different ways of handling things, which action will give us comfort and freedom from pain. I respect yours, because that's your way, and I thank you for your contribution. Brightest Blessings my dear friend. x
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
16 Apr 08
its depends on situation. i think i can forgive someone till a certain limit. may be it is dependent on the depth of the harm. but if someone was so that he pretended to be very close to you,took your advantage and later stabbed you at the back, i think it would be difficult. there i some who cheated me. before that he behaved as my best friend. i can never forgive him.
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@Darkwing (21583)
16 Apr 08
I think in the extreme case that somebody "stabbed me in the back", I would want an explanation, my friend. If they couldn't offer me a valid explanation, then there would be no love lost between us, and I would call a day on the relationship. The same would apply to "cheating". There may be something I've done to give him reason to cheat, which I need the chance to change. As you say, everything depends on the "situation". Are things getting better for you here now, by the way? Brightest Blessings, and thank you for your contribution, my friend. x
• Philippines
16 Apr 08
Forgiving someone you love for a sin he did so badly to me I can forgive once but not twice. I am not a bad person and I am real nice if you know me but if you are abusing my kindness why should I forgive. If it is just a very small thing I can always forgive.. as long as you say sorry.
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@Darkwing (21583)
16 Apr 08
Yes, I agree with you. Sorry must also be a word uttered with sincerity, so that you shouldn't find the need to forgive twice. If there's no remorse in the word, then it's difficult to forgive anyway, and we should walk away from the possibility of the same thing happening again. Brightest Blessings and thank you for your contribution, my friend.
16 Apr 08
I have been badly hurt in the past, by someone I thought was a good and close friend. I found myself curling up in a little ball and crying in my room, desperately trying to keep the hurt inside. That was a bad mistake to make, keeping the hurt bottled up can only make it worse. Eventually I felt able to confront the friend and tell them exactly how hurt and upset I was and that I felt I couldn't forgive them for the pain they had caused. It took a lot for me to confront them, usually I am the one who backs down and admits I am in the wrong and beg for forgiveness but not this time. I knew I was right and that she was the one who did me wrong.
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@Darkwing (21583)
16 Apr 08
You did the right thing, my friend. Harbouring hurt inside is not a good thing... it's a negative, and will go on pounding at you until you feel so down, you don't know what to do. However, you took positive steps by confronting your friend, and it seems she knew where she'd gone wrong. You don't say whether you forgave her when she accepted your observations, but whichever way it turned out, I know you will be feeling better for having talked to her about your feelings. Brightest Blessings, my friend, and thank you for your contribution. x
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
15 Apr 08
I don't find it easy to forgive others but I do try to get with the other person sooner rather than later to sort it out. I don't hold grudges for long even if it's family members who I have squabbled with. I would rather it be sorted so we can move on. It may not mean I've forgotten, but at least we have been able to talk it over and hopefully be ok to move on. It takes me a little longer to admit I did wrong, but I do what I can to apologise and if they accept then we move on, if not, then it is no longer my problem, and something they need to get over. There's only so much you can do to apologise and if the other chooses not to accept it then, what more can I do. I have been in a situation recently, well six months ago, where over a silly misunderstanding, I said a few words to a friend and she got really upset after I told her not to post pictures of me online (we went to a dinner together with our family), and she still went ahead and did it. I apologised for what I said numerous times, and she replied back saying she has forgiven me but was hurt and that it was going to take her a long time to get over it. I accepted it and moved on. She hasn't moved on from it and we don't have the same friendship we use to have before. My fault, but that is ok. I am not going to dwell on it and have let it go. The thing I don't understand is while I'm in a good friendship with someone, they all of a sudden change towards me or don't respond to me like they use to. I ask them if I have done anything and they say no, but their actions speak differently. That is what I don't get when people (especially family) do that to me, and it gets me wondering whether I've done something wrong. Maybe I read too much into it, but lately it's been happening a bit. I don't know LOL
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@Darkwing (21583)
15 Apr 08
Yes, I agree with all of that, my friend. Whether they accept is their problem, once you've admitted you're at fault and apologised. As you say... what more can you do. I then chalk it up to it being their loss, and move on in the same way. Your final paragraph interested me, because I don't understand that either. If you have done something to offend somebody, so that they avoid you, and you try to put it right, why can't they tell you what the problem is? It's far better out in the open and resolved, I feel. Oh well... it takes all sorts, my friend. None of us is wrong when it comes down to it... it's just that we learn the lessons of life in different ways. Brightest Blessings and thank you for your contribution, my dear friend. x
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@wickedangel (1636)
• Dominican Republic
16 Apr 08
What a great discussion topic Darkwing! I bet you get a lot of responses to this one. Very interesting and I hope people will be honest in their responses because this is exactly the sort of forum where you can be honest. When I have had an argument with my partner then I can go silent, I can't help it, I'm just not good with words and when I get angry I say things I don't want to say and I'm not eloquent. I know my partner says that I don't accept it when I am wrong. That isn't quite true, I do accept it when I am wrong I just don't tell anyone about it, which does not give the right impression at all. I am trying to right this personal fault but it is hard to overcome. I am happy to accept apologies and where appropriate will give them a big hug and I am one of the first people who will forgive someone. I don't believe in nuturing bad things because that changes your own persona and that just isn't me. I have had many horrible experiences and I have learnt to forget too, it is a defensive mechanism that allows my soul to be happy, which is so important. As I have got older I have found that I do retaliate and I don't always love myself for it afterwards and so go back into my silent mode and go over everything in my head. Again this doesn't give off good vibes but it is the way I deal with these sorts of situations and then afterwards I am all smiles and I don't like to mention the argument again because I have forgotten it already and have moved on.
@Darkwing (21583)
16 Apr 08
Thank you my friend, and yes, several responses which are keeping me busy all day! I'm fascinated by the responses I'm getting. There are different views, but much the same, also. I feel the fact that you go silent during a disagreement is a pointer to your lack of self-confidence. You're afraid of hurting the other person in retaliation, so you withold any comments. It's a negative, my friend, and good that you're trying to overcome it. Believe in yourself, and things will be different, but also, you need to discuss things in an amicable way for it to work. It's good that you're showing your feelings with a hug, because that speaks for itself. A hug can be lots of things, but none of them bad. You seem to have it all sorted in your mind, my friend. You realise that you don't gain by harbouring the negatives and you do, by accepting the positives, but you just need to get around the self-confidence thing, in order to completely free yourself of the pain of conflict. Brightest Blessings, my dear friend, and thank you for your contribution. xx
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@athinapie (1150)
• Philippines
16 Apr 08
wow... i'm experiencing this situation right now. a certain person has wronged me and what she did was really below the belt. i don't know if i could easily forgive her... but she hasn't apologized yet even if she's aware of her mistakes. but forget, i can't do. forgive and forget is never possible. but i guess the first one is... but both together, i doubt it...
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@Darkwing (21583)
16 Apr 08
If you think she's not aware of her mistakes, then perhaps you should make her aware of them, if you think the relationship is worth salvaging. Tell her how much she's hurt you, and ask her if she realises this. Maybe she'll apologise, and maybe she won't, but you will know for sure, whether this relationship is worth the effort, and make your decisions as to whether to walk away, or forgive and attempt to rebuild it. Brightest Blessings, my friend, and thank you for your contribution.
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@Bina91 (19)
• Brazil
16 Apr 08
For me it's so hard for some questions. But I always forgive some mistakes of my boyfriend! I love him!
@Darkwing (21583)
16 Apr 08
I guess that's good enough reason, but even if he cheated on you, and hurt you badly? Brightest Blessings, and thank you for your contribution.
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@Jemina (5770)
16 Apr 08
To err is human but to forgive is divine. I am the person who easily forgives but sometimes hard to forget especially if the person broke my trust. But if there is love enough in my heart I find it easy to forgive.
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@Jemina (5770)
17 Apr 08
I admit I'm not the type of person who initiates about rebuilding a broken trust. But I can compromise if the offender comes to me first. My way of reconciliation is simply forgetting about it and pretend it didn't happen. Sometimes it may take several days before I can talk to the person again.
@Darkwing (21583)
16 Apr 08
Good advice here too, my friend. There's just one thing I'd like to ask though. If you feel a trust has been broken, and also feel that it would be worth rebuilding that trust, would you sit down and talk to the person, making them aware that you think the friendship would be worth trying to salvage? I just wondered. Brightest Blessings and may the love in your heart grow even stronger. Thank you for your contribution, my friend.
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@Darkwing (21583)
17 Apr 08
As long as it works for you, that's the main thing, my friend. We all have our own ways of dealing with hurt, and of course, with broken trust, but none of us is wrong in the way we tackle it.
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@pittan (156)
• United Kingdom
15 May 08
Hi Darkwing, looks like you are into counselling. A lot of people waste their life and that of their loved ones because they refuse to forgive. Life is too short. Holding grudge against someone will only make one feel miserable and sad. Forgive and forget is the motto. I think time is a good healer. if you can't forgive someone straight away. let some time pass and then rethink the relationship. Make the first move to patch up. Best of luck.
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@Darkwing (21583)
16 May 08
Lol... no, Pittan, I'm not officially into counselling but as a typical Libra, I suppose I have the potential for it. You speak some very wise words, my friend. Time is a great healer, and it's always best to take your time to think about forgiveness. It's good to cool off first! Brightest Blessings and thank you for your contribution.
• United States
16 Apr 08
If a loved one hurts me but promptly apologizes I can and will easily forgive them.But am I able to easily forgive someone who hurts me? No, not really.When I am hurt, I usually start planning the proper revenge.These days the proper revenge is just walking away and dismissing the person.But If I hurt someone that I didn't mean to, I will promptly apologize and hope I didn't cause too much harm.
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@Darkwing (21583)
16 Apr 08
Revenge is a powerful word, my friend, but I can see your point. Your pride and the hurt inside won't allow you to forgive, so you cut that person out of your life. That, for me, would be an extreme action. I would want to know "why" they'd hurt me so much when we had something good going. I wouldn't be able to live with myself, with the thought that I may have been partially and ignorantly responsible for them hurting me. Perhaps, in other words, they were retaliating against some hurt I'd caused them? That's why I always find it better to talk things through before walking away. It's a gift to be able to apologise when you know you've hurt somebody and I admire that in a person. Thank you for your contribution my friend, and Brightest Blessings.
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@Darkwing (21583)
17 Apr 08
Yes, I agree. It's good for the soul to know, because you have the ability to change that part of you which hurts others, thus aiding your own spiritual growth.
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• United States
17 Apr 08
I can see why you want to try to find out why they hurt you before doing anything final.I hope that I would know if i hurt someone that they feel bad enough to hurt me.
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@pillusch (1147)
• Mexico
15 Apr 08
For me it´s difficult to forgive, in fact, I can be pretty vindictive. The one thing I have in favor here is that I am totally aware of it, which allows me to control my actions or my words. I´m fully aware, too, that I hurt other people. Now, this being said, I honestly don´t think that I am an exception. Forgiveness is a pretty tough thing, it takes time, maturity, even serenity, which most of us hopefully acquire sometime in old age. Forgiveness was the central message of Jesus Christ, his crucifixion happened 2,000 years ago, and here we are, still battling with the same problem. I gues it´s just a question of taking it a step at a time.
@Darkwing (21583)
15 Apr 08
I admire you for being so open and honest, my friend. You're not an exception at all... there are many with the same difficulties. It's not a bad thing... you are still learning the lesson. It takes some of us longer to grow in spirit than others, but you'll get there, with wisdom and foresight. I'm not Christian, so I don't take the lesson from the crucifixion, but from looking deep inside myself, deep into my soul and inner Self. It takes practice, just like the lessons we all encounter, but I'm happy with my inner Self and that's the root of my power to forgive. Brightest Blessings and thank you for your contribution, my friend.
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@dangnabit67 (2021)
• United States
14 May 08
There are some things that are easy to forgive and others that are not. Just depends on the situation. Question is can you forget and move on? I always seem to remember all wrong doings. If someone mistreats me I will hold it against them as long as either of us is alive. Finding a way to move on is hard. When I realize I'm wrong I say I'm wrong. Although I hate to have it pointed out LOL
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@Darkwing (21583)
14 May 08
I think it depends on the friend, and the degree of friendship too. There is one person I have forgiven a lot, and I can put things behind me, once I've forgiven. No, I don't think you can ever forget the instances, but you can bury them in the back of your mind, and either move away, or carry on, after forgiveness. As I said, it depends on the intensity of the friendship, and the degree of hurt, also. Some things are very difficult to forgive, but I'll forgive just the same... the friendship might never be the same, or we might even go our separate ways, but I won't hold a grudge. It would hurt me more than it hurt them! Brightest Blessings and thank you for your contribution, my friend. x
@mrpippo (756)
• United States
15 Apr 08
i forgive but i dont forget
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@Darkwing (21583)
15 Apr 08
It's not easy to forget, I admit, but I'll ask you the same questions as I did Minnie, if you don't mind too much. If you can forgive, but not forget, how would you cope? I mean, would you keep harping on about the hurt, or would you just keep it to yourself, put it behind you and carry on as before you were hurt? Then, if you did that... would you fling it up again, the next time you felt pain from this person, or do you think you could control it? Brightest Blessings and thank you for your conribution.
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