an effectionate hug can make your day
April 15, 2008 4:15pm CST
hi, i am extremelly depressed and at the same time totally confused. i have a dear dear friend who was my ex once upon a time. we spend time together even today, you could say enjoy each others company, watch movies hang out. its funny but whnever i ask him for a hug or an effetionate pat on my shoulder he has a problem with that. would you be insulted as i am.i feel real bad and wonder what the problem is. i have run out of patience towards his incensitive behavious. what do youll think i should do.
16 Apr 08
i think in thi scase he have some reservation. as you were once in a relationship with him, after that you broke up, its making him think twicer. he thinks that its over the limit to do to someone once he had relationship with. you can also ask him to find out.
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15 Apr 08
He may not realize he's being incensitive, just careful. He may care for you as a friend but don't want you think it could be more. If he has a girlfriend he may just be sentive to her needs and not think it would be right to hug you. I would try talking to him and telling him how you feel. You may find that his actions are innocent.
15 Apr 08
i guess you need to talk to that person and let him know what you feel. You will never know what is the reason behind his reaction when you ask for some comforting gesture just like a hug or a pat on the shoulder if you never ask. It doesnt mean that if he refuses to embrace you, he doesnt want that. mabye he feels a little uncomfortable the fact that you were once " an item ". Believe it or not, but men are more sensitive to this issue more than women. So try to talk to him in a "friendly" and platonic way. Good luck and dont be sad... if i was there i could give you a pat on the shoulder myself if that would brighten up your day . smile...