What is your reaction if somebody makes a pass at your husband?

@mommyboo (13207)
United States
April 16, 2008 9:11am CST
I'm asking this purely to see the range of answers I get. I have not had the unpleasant surprise of it happening to me but friends have. I don't get it, honestly. It's almost like people do not care about the fact that other people might be married. What is your take? If you get angry is there something wrong with you? If you DON'T get angry is there something wrong with you?
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@ravinskye (8245)
• United States
16 Apr 08
I think if you don't get angry or you do get angry there is nothing wrong with you. some people are just more comfortable with something like that happening. I would be angry at the person especially if they knew my husband was married. I think also there would be a level of sickening fear. I've been cheated on and even though it was a long time ago, the fear and pain of being cheated on never goes away. The sad thing is, I also know the thrill of cheating on someone. (not my husband). I would worry that he might be tempted. when you hold up in one hand a good looking woman who makes a pass at you, and in the other hand an overweight wife and 3 young children who often prevent you from any alone time...which would some choose?
@mommyboo (13207)
• United States
17 Apr 08
Ah but where is the commitment? Or is that the problem... LOL. I think any normal person with a brain appreciates beauty and we all appreciate fun, but that's the other side of committing longterm to somebody, you're supposed to be there through thick and thin, not until you want to trade in for another model. I often wonder if the majority of people who do this (the making passes) have just not matured enough to understand anything other than instant gratification.
@jmr201 (183)
• United States
16 Apr 08
Well if some one made a pass on my hubby with me being by his side i would tell them something being that it is rude of them to do that but if i wasnt their i really couldnt do nothing.
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@mommyboo (13207)
• United States
17 Apr 08
Would you expect him to say something on your behalf like.... thanks but I'm married..?
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@arkaf61 (10891)
• Canada
3 Aug 08
YOu are right,except that it is not "almost" like people do not care about the fact that other people might be married, it is more that a lot of people really don't care that other people might be married. Actually many people really don't care even if they know that the other is married. I have a bit o trouble adapting to this new "me first mentality" which has even cost me some "almost" friends. People are geared towards their own gratification regardless of the rest and every thing is free game. But back to your question because if I get started on the above I will not stop for a while LOL In any case what might bother me would be not if someone made a pass at my husband but if he reacted to that pass. SO far I have had no reason to be upset, but yes he did have some people making a pass a him. I have no problem with that. People have a tendency to be really upset at the person that makes the pass but that will never be the problem if that pass is not accepted. And if it is, it certainly is not the fault of the person who made the pass.
@34momma (13918)
• United States
22 Apr 08
wrong is perception. what is right is wrong is how your ego sees things. i would not have a problem is someone flirted with someone flirting with my husband. anger is an emotion that i am no longer allowing in my life
• United States
18 Apr 08
These days some people really don't care if someone is married or not. As for as someone "hitting" on my husband...it has happened many times, with me standing there. He knows he looks good and has a great personality. I don't get angry, and don't see any need to, cause we both know that neither one of us want anymore than what we have in each other. But those people out there that don't care about whether or not a man is married will get what they dish out.
@sedel1027 (17868)
• United States
16 Apr 08
I get annoyed but, I know that he knows how to handle himself so I don't worry about it.
@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
16 Apr 08
I laugh when someone makes a pass at my husband, typically. The only time I can think of when it annoyed me was when it was a waitress, and then it was because I wasn't able to get proper service because she was so busy hitting on my husband. Honestly, it doesn't bother me to see other people hit on him, because I knew he's mine. :P I don't think there's anything wrong with you if you get angry. Jealousy is a normal human emotion, and if you feel someone is being rude, it's normal to get angry about that too.