Which is harder? to forgive others or to forgive yourself?

@kharen (1488)
Philippines
April 16, 2008 9:48am CST
Can you weigh which is harder to forgive? Those people who hurt you who made a mistake that changed your life a lot or yourself who did the same thing?
6 responses
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
16 Apr 08
I find it harder to forgive myself. If I do something stupid and have only myself to blame then I have a hard time forgiving myself. With others I find forgiveness because nothing I cxan do will change them. So it really isn't their fault.
@kharen (1488)
• Philippines
16 Apr 08
that's exactly the reason..(well maybe) for me to have a harder time forgiving myself than forgiving others..
• Indonesia
16 Apr 08
i love myself so much, so i believe i can easily forgive myself whatever "he" did. i think anything happen in our life is a part of God's great plan. so, if others made a mistake, it's just another done plan. that "fact" makes me easily forgiving others
@kharen (1488)
• Philippines
16 Apr 08
tnx for you response..
@gcrew931 (230)
• Philippines
16 Apr 08
That's a very good question! By experience, I am naturally hard on myself. I have a lot of standards that I want myself to attain. I guess that makes it harder to forgive myself. I can never forgive myself if I did not give my 100% in a project or something like that. It's easier to forgive others because if I don't forgive them I know that I hurt myself more than I hurt them when I have grudges. I also feel that every healthy relationship is built by tests, hardships and sometimes hurting each other. But then again hearing the words "I'm sorry!" from another person makes it easier for me to forgive them.
@kharen (1488)
• Philippines
16 Apr 08
i totally agree with you.. so have you tried to pretentiously fail something and didn't put any effort on it having the fear that you would just fail on it even if you exert effort in accomplishing and finishing it?
@elsoft12 (1825)
• India
16 Apr 08
Its difficult to forgive others...You know the circumstances you are in during the course of a certain action resulting as a mistake...and this understanding helps you forgive yourselves relatively easily. However it takes a lot of patience and humananity to understand the other persons situations and forgive him/her even when you are affected by him/her.
@kharen (1488)
• Philippines
16 Apr 08
But how can i have a hard time forgiving myself and can't stay mad at my ex when she to play with me?
@rainbowz (22)
• United States
16 Apr 08
for me it's always been harder for me to forgive me than others that's always been pretty easy. I learned a lesson about forgiveness some time ago and it's that in us choosing to forgive others we r setting us free. See the person that wronged us most likely it doesn't even bother them but by us holding onto whatever we place ourselves hostage but by choosing to forgive that hold they had on us is gone. (For me personally it's a God thing the biblke teaches about forgiveness and if we don't forgive others then God won't forgive us. He's still working on me about me being so hard on me)
• United States
16 Apr 08
I hate to admit this, but I find it very hard to forgive people who hurt me deeply. I have this terrible thing about trying to get even, although I haven't done anything to do it. I feel guilty and find it very hard to forgive myself.