Temperaments

Zambia
April 17, 2008 5:45am CST
How do you cope with them? Its affecting my relationship, i need help
1 response
@podqueen (344)
17 Apr 08
Are you talking about mood swings or do you find yourself arguing with each other all the time? I think it all depends on what type of relationship you have with your partner and how long you've been together. I've been with my boyfriend for over 11 years and we still have arguments! Early on in our relationship we use to argue a lot over stupid things and the relationship became quite stressful. But we talked and we agreed to disagree on a few things and the rest is history. I suppose what I'm trying to say is if the relationship is worth fighting for then you should both sit down and discuss your differences and reach a compromise. If you can't reach a compromise then maybe this person is not the right one for you. I do hope it works out for you one way or another.
• Zambia
18 Apr 08
Yap! Podqueen am talking about swings, we are both 'sanguine' action oriented cause no one backsdown from a fight. Sometimes when i get angry and he behaves like a melancholic i get more pissed. I know its me but why do i get upset ouer small issues like him looking at women when his with me. Quite suprising podqueen you have been in relationship for more than 11years? Hun is it marriage or what? I cant start long with a partner unless maybe marriage.
• Zambia
18 Apr 08
Yap! Podqueen am talking about swings, we are both 'sanguine' action oriented cause no one backsdown from a fight. Sometimes when i get angry and he behaves like a melancholic i get more pissed. I know its me but why do i get upset ouer small issues like him looking at women when his with me. Quite suprising podqueen you have been in relationship for more than 11years? Hun is it marriage or what? I cant start long with a partner unless maybe marriage.
@podqueen (344)
18 Apr 08
I used to be like you too - getting upset about his comments about other women or film stars. A lot of the time I would threaten him that the relationship was over and this happened quite frequently. It was only until we sat down and talked about my and his outbursts and tried to figure out what triggered it. The conclusion was that we were both feeling insecure about ourselves and with each other. Once the problem was identified and analysed in a calm manner our relationship grew stronger and we started to trust each other. I'm not saying that we don't fight anymore, because we do! But it's no longer over small petty things, but we always we things out. Communication is key in a relationship so that both parties know where each other stand and what troubles they have on their minds at the time. As I said before you have to assess whether your relationship is worth fighting for and then take the next step of building a strong foundation for your relationship.