Truth Hurts

By Gabs
@gabs8513 (48716)
United Kingdom
April 17, 2008 8:22am CST
Well that is a fact I worked on a Discussion this morning asking why the Trolls have to hide behind a Computer and go attacking Members I also said that they need to get a Life on here I guess it is not obvious that when new Members get attacked like this Mylot will soon receive a bad Name as I call all this silly little Game Bullying So anyway my Discussion got deleted what I want to know did all these People get their Points back and up in Stars I guess not as of course that is different I guess Please Friends do not reply to this as I can not see it lasting the Children will be out to play again I do suggest this gets stopped as I have already seen Mylot being pulled down as a Bully Site and if this does not stop it will be worse and I would like to see that
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33 responses
@kbourgerie (8774)
• United States
17 Apr 08
Today I have dropped again down to 77/100. Tomorrow no doubt I will have a silver star, but I've gotten used to it and will look forward to having a 2 by the end of the week or beginning of next. LOL.
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@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
17 Apr 08
It is not right though you have not done anything wrong and if People can not take the truth or a different opinion then don't ask is my answer All you are doing is giving your Opinion in Discussions and because they do not agree they go on attacks I will do my best to not let you drop further you are dealing with more then enough right now I am thinking of you Sweet
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• United States
17 Apr 08
Thanks Gabs. The discussion I wrote yesterday was deleted. Go figure. I only made .6 and dropped to 77/100. Thanks for sticking with me.
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• United States
18 Apr 08
I wrote you an email Goodie.
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@Stiletto (4584)
17 Apr 08
I don't mind responding and losing points Gabs - I lose track of my points. They seem to go up and down like a yoyo on a daily basis lol. I was just about to respond to your earlier discussion but it disappeared before my eyes! I agree with everything you said in it. People really need to get a life - how sad must they be to spend their time trolling online. How inadequate must they be as people in real life! I do think myLot needs to take this issue a bit more seriously than they have done, but I suppose to be fair there is only so much they can do. It's unfortunate but there are idiots everywhere online and they're quite hard to get rid of.
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@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
17 Apr 08
Hi Stiletto well I think they should just get rid of it and I meant to say that I did not want to see mylot getting a bad name lol but as you know we can't change it lol Why can't they just get rid of the Stars that way they can't play any more I just feel sorry for the Members this is happening to
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@GardenGerty (99166)
• United States
19 Apr 08
I still think they might play for the fun of seeing things get removed or deleted. Stars or no stars. I did respond to the other discussion.
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@Stiletto (4584)
19 Apr 08
I'm not convinced the stars not being there would make any difference to their behaviour either. I suppose it would be one less thing for them to target but they would find other ways of causing problems for members. Unfortunately there are idiots like that on every forum whether a ratings system exists or not.
@wickedangel (1636)
• Dominican Republic
17 Apr 08
Poor you. I have had a friend's discussion deleted too - nothing we can do about it. I have enjoyed my short time with myLot, there are really good, kind people here but as you say there are some bullies around too. Sorry to hear that you have been on the pointy end, keep posting, please!
@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
18 Apr 08
No not me I knew that Discussion would be deleted as I really spoke my Mind on the amount of People that are going from a 10 to a 6 over night They have not done anything wrong so why is this happening to them
• United States
18 Apr 08
We have lost so many good members from MyLot because of the star ratings. Those who have left always started good discussions and commented on discussions with thoughtful responses. I wish they would come back, but know that they will not.
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@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
18 Apr 08
Yes you are right and I miss them to but can't blame them for not coming back
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
18 Apr 08
I missed your now deleted discussion on this Gabs, but I'm glad to see this one still up and kudos to you for restating and sticking to your opinion. Sooner or later admin has to take notice of these kind of discussions and make some changes. You are so right that it is not fair that mylot be perceived as a bully site, because there are so many good people here and the cowards that play these silly games need to get a life and get off site.
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@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
18 Apr 08
Yes I agree we have already lost a lot of brilliant and much missed Friends here and all because of this What are they trying to proof????? I really do not get it any more I just wish Admin would do something and soon
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@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Apr 08
gabs nope I am still a stinkyh white seven and got therein one day from a nine I am still furious
@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
18 Apr 08
I know Sweetie and I hope that this will stop soon and we can get you back up Big Hugs to you
@LovingIt (5398)
• United States
17 Apr 08
Unfortunately this is a problem that MyLot has had for years and the reason I don't have a 10 star. There are some people here that if you dare to disagree with them, will follow you around and do everything possible to cause problems.
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@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
18 Apr 08
I know and that is so wrong why ask for an Opinion if you only want People to agree with you???? No one has the same Opinion on things it would be a sad World if we did
@gemini_rose (16193)
17 Apr 08
Hiya gabs, it got deleted then did it, thats no good is it, a lot of people this is happening too are on my friends list, some have got the grey stars and some the green stars, it is a pain in the butt. Take care.
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@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
18 Apr 08
Ijust don't know how to stop this it is so stupid and I know some of my Friends are getting upset now over it which is understandable Hugs
• United States
17 Apr 08
Well your discussion is still here and I do not know why it should get deleted as you are only telling the truth. Although myLot may not like you saying "this does not stop it will be worse and [u]I would like to see that" [/u]
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@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
18 Apr 08
That was an Error I was meant to say I would not like to see that but as you know we are not able to change it I am going to have to start previewing it I wanted to change it but couldn't so that was a Mistake as I would not like to see that I still like the Site I just can't handle what is going on again
@lishiwei (1553)
• China
17 Apr 08
Oh,I'm sorry to hear that.I have never done that and I don't want othersdo that either.I think we should respect others.But some times I also get this kind of things and I feel very angry obout it.
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@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
18 Apr 08
Yes it does make us angry as you say we should all show respect to everyone here but there are a lot that don't and it makes me mad
@dawnald (84148)
• Shingle Springs, California
17 Apr 08
It should stop, but how? Does anybody really know who the bullies are?
@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
18 Apr 08
No I wish we did though
@blackbriar (9080)
• United States
17 Apr 08
Ahhhhhhh so that's what your deleted discussion was about. Going thru email and wondered what it was about when I tried responding to it. Weird, but usually you can read the deleted discussion in your inbox but can't respond to it. This morning, I couldn't even read it in my email. Just opened to a blank page. I think the stars are pretty colors but could care less about the point/rating system. All my friends are numero uno in my eyes regardless what some trolls did to adjust them.
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@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
18 Apr 08
Well that is a new thing to as I was always able to read them in my Email as well Strange Maybe I got to the wrong People or should I say the right People I am surprised this one is still about to be honest
@mbs730 (2152)
• Canada
18 Apr 08
I'll respond to this anyway despite of what happens :) It's sad that this is happening on a site like here. On other forums, okay its expected! But its ashame trolls are coming here and trying to ruin the reputation here. This is truthfully one of the few forums I use (and the most too) and don't want to see mylot go down because of a few trolls who have nothing better to do with their time.
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@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
18 Apr 08
Sweetie they are very sad People but I just wish they would get lost and leave the good People alone specially when starting to pick on New Members that is so low
@mbs730 (2152)
• Canada
19 Apr 08
Yes I can think of many other forums where they would feel right at home! This is not one of them!
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@kamran12 (5555)
• Pakistan
18 Apr 08
Hello gabs8513!:-) I would agree with you in whatever you said about Trolls. An honest and daring individual will voice his/her opinion in open for others to challenge it. Probably those Trolls can't face the challenge and hence the trolling, negative ratings, abusive tags and language etc! I think these people are uncomfortable with what they are and what they stand for, they are cowards and so unable to defend themselves in an adult manner! You are also right that such activity, if allowed, will only bring mylot bad name. Mylot staff seriously need to address some issues immediately to save the image of this site which is being tarnished by few individuals as I believe that majority do not resort to such activities. It's only good for mylot itself to reign in and take control. Mylot also needs to look into how they handle abuse reports. It appears that when a certain number of reports are received by the system, a discussion is automatically deleted regardless of the fact whether it was reported in good faith or by one person in multiple identities. That's an area that needs serious attention too. My own discussion that had no violations was deleted too and mylot is not responding in that respect either! I think older members know that star system isn't a true representation of someone's value here, only mylot is insistent that it is. It would be better off without stars! Your discussion is fine and I see no reason, whatsoever, that it should be deleted!
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@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
18 Apr 08
Kamran my dear Friend I agree with you The Star rating has not always been here and it is the worse thing they have ever brought onto the Site There are so many evil People here My theory in this also is as it is mainly New Members do they think if they get rid of them that they will get more Money as there are less People to pay????? It sounds silly but I am going through all Options trying to figure how their Mind works
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@kamran12 (5555)
• Pakistan
18 Apr 08
You are right, gabs, star system has given power to those who don't know the rules of fair play. It could be great, if there was an effective system to control those who exploit loop holes. Mylot staff does insist that it's fool proof, but it's far from being one, and if I had not cared for guidelines, I could prove it to anyone! Your theory sounds reasonable, my friend, it could be one of the motivations for people to report, as we do get a divided share from what mylot earns. But, I think, sometimes there is nothing but a malicious and ill-conceived reason to report, just to bring down another user.
@winterose (39918)
• Canada
20 Apr 08
looks like it is still up. I think you need to contact admin and explain all your concerns, including your last post being deleted for nothing. The only way they will do something about it is if they know that everyone is unhappy.
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@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
21 Apr 08
Nope they won't take any notice I have tried many a time wasting time
@arkaf61 (10882)
• Canada
20 Apr 08
Hi twin :) I know what you mean, but at the same time, I"m afraid we will find this kind of bullying everywhere. Not only here in myLOt. It's almost impossible not to find it in any place where people post, share ideas... ok I guess I should have stopped at " where people." Period. :) There will always be .. people. I prefer to - as a rule - not even recognize them, because that would be giving them more importance than what they have, thus validating them. So far I have been lucky, but i know that at any time any of us can be on the receiving end of such bullying. IN instances where that has happened to me in other places I have dealt with it differently but along the same lines - as much as possible avoid these people, not respond to provocative posts, and not get involved in their power struggles. In the very few occasions that I wasn't able to refrains from getting involved I realized that it gets everyone nowhere really fast.
@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
21 Apr 08
Yes Twin you are right and I noticed 2 of my Friends have been attacked again Members that have been here over 12 Months been blue and now are red They are such idiots and they make me mad but I guess we will let them play nicely till they get fed up hey
@GardenGerty (99166)
• United States
19 Apr 08
I responded to the other one, and I will respond to this one. I cannot see any consistency in deletions, or reductions, and i do not try to. I do not even notice if they hit me any more, at least not often. I more often notice when I get a surprise penny or two added. All of my friends are blue star friends, and I never even see what their stars are, as I respond from e-mail.
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@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
21 Apr 08
I do not care about the Colour of their Stars like you I reply from Email The Person matters to me not the colour of the Star and all my Friends are great and special People including you
@comfort55 (1574)
• India
18 Apr 08
I agree with you gabs that it did hurt me initially that why my star rating has gone down inspite of working sincerely on it. I got a very rude comment from one of the members on my response and I was shocked to see it. Though mylot people claim that behaviour of rogue members does not effect our rating, but I've seen that it effects significantly. These members just try to bully new members as you said.
@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
21 Apr 08
Yes they are but just ignore it Sweetie and I think we best let them play as hopefully they will get fed up with the Game like Children do Hugs to you
• United States
18 Apr 08
I do not understand bulling in real life nor do I understand it on the computer. I am sorry your discussion got delete.
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@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
21 Apr 08
I don't either but it is happening and it is awful I just do not understand why People do it
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18 Apr 08
Ratings go up and down like a yoyo on here and I feel that too much importance is placed on them. Just lately there have been a lot of cases where people have had discussions deleted, ratings have dropped and people are getting wound up. There seems to be no good reason for this happening, other than the fact that it is stirring up an awful lot of members and, incidentally, generating a load of discussions on this subject. For what it's worth I think I have only even negative rated a handful since I joined here over a year ago.
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@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
18 Apr 08
Yes People are getting wound up on it and I really can't blame them as it seems to be affecting the New Members so much lately and they don't know what it can be like here like we do I have Friends that are getting really upset about it now as they think they have done wrong