Family Hast To Go!!!!!

@Rozie37 (15499)
Turkmenistan
April 17, 2008 4:51pm CST
My sister, her husband, and four of their six children were supposed to be leaving on February 25, 2008 to move to Atlanta. For one reason or another, they are still there to this day. But now, the buyer has made my sister sign papers saying that she will be out on Monday at 10:00a.m. She wanted them out by Friday, but my brother-in-law talked the lady into letting them stay the weekend. The rest of my family and I are very concerned about everything surrounding this move. First of all, my brother-in-law is very sickly. He has heart failure, diabetes, high blood pressure, he recently stopped smoking and drinking and all he does is lay around in bed all day. It would not be bad if he were not planning to rise up Monday and drive the family all the way to Atlanta Georgia, which will take him at least five days. He doesn't have the energy to do anything else, but he is going to do this. Then, because the school year has not ended, my sister is going to go and check the children out of school, instead of waiting until the summer. But, her husband sold the house right out from under them. I have not even mentioned the fact that he is so mean and abusive that recently, three of his kids had to get in his face to keep him from hitting their mother. My sister has been working over twenty years at a public library. She is going to take a month vacation and then come back to her job on May 19th. She is afraid to quit such a good job, especially since, in Atlanta you need a degree to get a good job and she does not have a degree. She got the job at the library while going to college. They hired her on permenantly and she quit school. Within the last month, she has been offered a job as a dispatcher at the Inglewood Police Department, but she turned it down in order to move. Oh did I mention, her dying husband is the only one who actually wants to move to Atlanta. And of course, he is too sick to work. The entire family is trying to talk her out of going. Even the people at her job are saying that she should not do this. She has tried to talk her husband into staying but he is adament. Not only that, when she comes back in a month, she is leaving the four children out there with their dad who is close to dying. They 13,14,15, and sixteen. Yes, all of her children are a year apart. Now, since the husband is always in bed, who's going to take care of the children? What if their father dies on them? There is just so much to consider. I am hoping that my sister's maternal instincts will rise up and she will put her foot down about not leaving California. Most of our family and his are out here. It just doesn't make any sense and is the dumbest thing I have ever heard of.
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4 responses
• United States
17 Apr 08
I have to wonder why he's trying to distance himself as far from family as possible. It seems as though he knows he's dying and doesn't want to be anywhere near others. I think that if she and her family wants to stay there she should especially because he is so ill. I mean, say he were to pass, i doubt she'd want to stay in georgia by herself trying to support her 4 kids and work in a place where she might not even get a job. I'm with you and hoping that she puts her foot down but people do crazy things for the people they love.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
18 Apr 08
It sounds like a really bad situation. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do if your sister won't listen to reason. It sounds as if he makes all the decisions in the house and she has little say about it. If he is abusive, the best thing would be for her to just leave him but it doesn't sound as if she is at that point and probably won;'t be because he is dying. The most you can do for her really is be supportive. sounds as if she is going to need it. good luck!
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
18 Apr 08
I will always be supportive no matter what, but it hurts to know she is suffering so much.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
18 Apr 08
I don't know what is going on but I am still not getting your email notifications GRRR I've checked it several times and its ON but I'm not getting them - frustrating.! Anyways back to the topic at hand LOL I can't believe where they are right now, in terms of preparations and what they have decided to do. It sounds like its worse than when you posted the other discussions. It worries me that they are not even ready or prepared to go yet, after telling the new owners the day they were leaving. It worries me that she is giving up a good job because he wants to move. It worries me that he is very sick and could die any day now. It worries me that she is taking her kids out of school because of him. It worries me that she is going to leave them there after a month with him, and yet he can't even take care of himself. No wonder you are very stressed out about this whole thing. Keep praying Rozie and hope that your prayers are answered and that they remain where they are. I am beginning to think it's not going to happen because it clearly shows they are not even ready to leave yet. I'll put your sister and children in my prayers too! Hang in there my friend!
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
18 Apr 08
I just talked to my aunt a half hour ago. She went over there today to see if she could help out. My brother-in-law usually speaks to her, but this time, he completely ignored her. My aunt says that she is surprised that my sister has not had a nervous breakdown. The only person packing is my sister. Her husband does not do anything and the children are just standing around watching. My aunt said she did not stay long. She feels that because they are leaving, my brother-in-law may try to start something with her. I am longing for the family to be able to go over there this weekend and have a moving party. We could all help and spend some time together. Last weekend, we had a going away picnic. A lot of my family got together and I took pictures of everyone. I was the only one who remembered to bring a camera. My sister told me that she had to stand up to him that very morning. She says, everytime she starts talking about doing something with her family, he starts complaining that he is sick and he needs her to take him to the hospital. My sister said that she told him, if you want to go to the hospital, we better go now, because I will be at the park with my family later on. All of a sudden, he was feeling better and did not need to go anymore. I am praying too. God has got to step in and perform a miracle hear. Ever since she first told me about this on Thanksgiving, I have felt the same way, this can not happen. Things seem to get worse all the time. By the way, I do not think that anyone is getting notified about my discussions any more. Some other friends have mentioned it to me also. I tried contacting Mylot about it last week and they never responded. That is why I do not get many responses any more. Thanks for your response and offer to pray.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Apr 08
I would really talk and talk to your sister and tell her exactly what you have written here.surely she doesnt want to risk having her husband die out there with four children and nobody to care for them. and also try to talk your brother-in=law into staying also. come down hard on his health issue and on the issue of a job for your sister plus care for thechildren as he is too ill to do it. tell them both that they have family here who could help them if the need ever rose.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
18 Apr 08
When I said that he was mean, I was not exaggerating. There is no way he would even talk to me about something like that. In fact, he would curse me out and say that it was none of my business. My aunt went over there to help today and he didn't even speak to her. Every time I try to talk to my sister she accuses me of being negative. But I feel that I am speaking reality.