He's taken, leave him alone!

@jenni7202 (1598)
United States
April 18, 2008 6:19pm CST
Well, I was quite shocked to find out that my friend (he is gay), was no longer speaking to a new friend of ours. It took me a little while to get it out of him, but when he did, I was shocked as to why! Apparently, our new friend's girlfriend didn't like the fact that my friend (the gay one), was flirting with her boyfriend. She came into our job last night, and went up to another employee to relay a message to my friend. He was told that the new friend is TAKEN, and he should just leave him alone! [i]My Opinion : She's obviously really insecure about her relationship if she thinks that her boyfriend (may be fiance, can't really remember) is going to cheat on her with a man.[i/] Well, I asked our new friend about this, and he says he had nothing to do with it. He wasn't aware of his girlfriend doing this, and he seemed pretty upset about it, because he is new, and he thought he was making some pretty good friends. What do you think about all this?
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@cyntrow (8524)
• United States
18 Apr 08
Does she think her boyfriend is gay? Does your gay friend think her boyfriend is gay. Maybe his gaydar is working and she should re think the relationship
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• Philippines
19 Apr 08
relationships - what about?
First, may I ask how the girlfriend knew about your gay friend's flirting with your new friend. It seems that someone told that girl something that really pulled some strings. Nonetheless, she should have been more civil and talked to the boyfriend first. Or, maybe she should have talked to your gay friend and told him how she felt. By doing so, she could have listened to the other party's side too. I do not know why she had to talk to another employee just to relay the message but I believe that it was not proper. By the way, what did her boyfriend say to her? What was his reaction to what happened?
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@jenni7202 (1598)
• United States
19 Apr 08
I don't know what he said to her after it all happened, as I told him after she had already left. He was very upset that it happened though, because he thought he was starting a pretty good friendship, and now my gay friend won't even speak to him.
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@rhane7315 (5673)
• Philippines
19 Apr 08
the girl's really insecure and somewhat possessive. if she doesn't want her bf to be friend your gay friend then she should put a collar in his bf's neck so that she can be with his bf all the time
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@sid556 (31005)
• United States
19 Apr 08
I guess it'd be the same as if some girl were hitting on him...a little faith that he can handle the situation all on his own...trust is everything. She sounds a bit controlling and hopefully he'll figure this out.
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@gemini_rose (16194)
19 Apr 08
I think that it is really bad when someone cannot be friends with another person for fear of what a partner would think. Why is it that this always happens and even worse that she has gone behind her fellas back and warned off your mate, she has no right to do that at all and if it was me I would be furious and would be telling her to keep her nose out if she wanted to stay with me!! She obviously has no trust in him to even think that way and I agree that it sounds like she is insecure.
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@mnflower (1301)
• United States
19 Apr 08
I think that your friend is very insecure and maybe should evaluate herself if she would think that her boyfriend would all of a sudden decide to go after a guy, that is not saying very much about her and the way she feels towards her man, that is just nuts. Maybe her man should take a step back and also think about just how really insecure his girlfriend is..Is this going to be a problem if they are by some chance thinking of marriage this is not a good way to start...Taken or not if the guy is after the other guy then it shouldn't be anyone else's place to tell him anything that should be between the two guys after all if they friends and all new or not...I honestly think this girl needs to take her own inventory and quit being so damn jealous and insecure.
@tinybop (114)
• United States
19 Apr 08
Wow, that is crazy, she must be a very jealous girl. I could see the guy possibly not like being flirted with but for the girfriend to get jealous that is just crazy.
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@sedel1027 (17854)
• United States
18 Apr 08
I feel bad for him. What is up with this girl? Maybe she knows something that everyone else doesn't?
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• United States
18 Apr 08
She is definitely insecure or maybe she is worried that her boyfriend is actually gay and just hasn't come out yet.
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• United States
18 Apr 08
Wow, yeah this girl is filled with insecurity. You almost have to feel sorry for her. I mean to have self esteem so low as to think a playful flirt from a gay man could actually steal him away from her. It gives you pause to wonder what is really going on in her mind.
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@busta1 (1029)
• United States
18 Apr 08
wow see i cant be or deal with a guy like that if that was me i would break yup with her right then and there i cant dont if she is my soon to be wifey. i mean geez he was just tryin to me friends what a dumb trick..
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• United States
18 Apr 08
Ouch! How embarrassing and emasculating for her boyfriend. I wouldn't get too upset about it if I were you, I bet you a nickel the girl won't be around long.
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@julyteen (13259)
• Davao, Philippines
20 Apr 08
i agree with you. she is really insecure about their relationship with his boy friend. how can a g*y get the attention of a man that seems she might think will replace her. What a funny situation. If i am the boy friend i don't know if i forgive her. She is degrading her personality among your fellow workers.
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@AJ1952Chats (2340)
• Anderson, Indiana
19 Apr 08
I think that this discussion should be between the girl and her boyfriend--but, if she thinks that something might be going on, I don't blame her for wanting to know the truth. If I thought that somebody I was about to marry was showing interest in another person (either male or female) beyond merely wanting to be friends or business colleagues, I would want to have a straight (no pun intended) answer because I would want to know that I was making a sound investment by marrying somebody and not end up like Princess Diana (who was a definite second choice for Prince Charles, and he was having his cake and eating it, too) or like a couple of friends of mine whose husbands turned out to be gay. But her response was a rather childish one, because she was assuming things before asking questions and making a public display of them.
• United States
19 Apr 08
I agree that there is a great deal of insecurity if she feels that a man is going to steal her man away. Either that or there is something that her man needs to reveal. If you have to worry about a man talking to other people all the time, you shouldn't be with him, whether the worry is founded or unfounded. She either needs to let this guy go, or needs to do some self work.
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