in the case of a quarrle,who do you ???

I stay neutral for sure. I don't like to get in the middle of things. I have been made to look like the villain too many times by taking sides with either of them. they become friends again and then they have nothing to do with me or they blame me for taking sides.

you definitely stay neutral. getting involved in the middle is absolutely the wrong thing to do because you are gonna make one, if not both, mad at you and then you won't have any friends. just stay out of it and let them settle it on their own. that's the best possible thing you could do in being a good friend to the both of them. God bless

I think the best answer would be to stay neutral but in some instances I have taken sides if I felt one person was right over another. Years ago I had two friends (let's call them A & B) and A started dating a guy that B had had a fling with many many years ago (even before A & B had met and even before I had met A & B). Now B gets mad and tells A that she is wrong to date a guy that is B's ex and she expected the rest of her friends to take her side. Unfortunately I couldn't do that. B you see had dated many many guys and if people were to stay away from all of them, there might not have been any guys left for people to date (mean but quite true). A never asked me to make a choice but B said she expected me to take her side and I said I was not willing to choose one over the other and that we were grown ups and should not expect our friends to dump other friends just on their say so. B was mad and stopped speaking with me (as well as many other friends who didn't take her side). Funny thing is that when B got married she wanted to make it up with her and expected that we all pretend she was a nice girl who had never dated anyone...