in the case of a quarrle,who do you ???

@BYOLA2871 (4376)
South Africa
April 19, 2008 11:21am CST
if you have two friends and it happens that there is a big quarrel amongst them ,which seems difficult to settle,do you stay neutral or just pick one person to support?
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@stephcjh (32385)
• United States
20 Apr 08
I stay neutral for sure. I don't like to get in the middle of things. I have been made to look like the villain too many times by taking sides with either of them. they become friends again and then they have nothing to do with me or they blame me for taking sides.
@BYOLA2871 (4376)
• South Africa
23 Apr 08
yeah,getting in the middle can be a big mess sometimes especially if its in a situation where there is a quarrel between two people you respect,it can be a pretty mess.what if they sort things out and start taking sides against you?
@asgtswife04 (2482)
• United States
20 Apr 08
you definitely stay neutral. getting involved in the middle is absolutely the wrong thing to do because you are gonna make one, if not both, mad at you and then you won't have any friends. just stay out of it and let them settle it on their own. that's the best possible thing you could do in being a good friend to the both of them. God bless
@BYOLA2871 (4376)
• South Africa
23 Apr 08
you definitely are right,i wouldnt want any of them to feel am taking sides,i love to see my friends happy and love to keep the reklationship going and would look for ways to make things better
@anonymili (3140)
19 Apr 08
I think the best answer would be to stay neutral but in some instances I have taken sides if I felt one person was right over another. Years ago I had two friends (let's call them A & B) and A started dating a guy that B had had a fling with many many years ago (even before A & B had met and even before I had met A & B). Now B gets mad and tells A that she is wrong to date a guy that is B's ex and she expected the rest of her friends to take her side. Unfortunately I couldn't do that. B you see had dated many many guys and if people were to stay away from all of them, there might not have been any guys left for people to date (mean but quite true). A never asked me to make a choice but B said she expected me to take her side and I said I was not willing to choose one over the other and that we were grown ups and should not expect our friends to dump other friends just on their say so. B was mad and stopped speaking with me (as well as many other friends who didn't take her side). Funny thing is that when B got married she wanted to make it up with her and expected that we all pretend she was a nice girl who had never dated anyone...
@BYOLA2871 (4376)
• South Africa
19 Apr 08
i understand your point here and sometimes our friends tend to want us to sides unnecessarily especially when they are wrong ,i remember a friend too who wanted every other person to become and enemy to whoever she does not fancy,i told him in plain terms that that was not my style,he took offence and stopped speaking with me,i tried to make him see reason but he was too blind to it so almost all of us left him on his own so he made new friends but a time came when he needed us as his new friends were not in a position to help him in that instance,he called me and aske dme to tell the other guys i did but asked him for an unreserved apology to each of us,he eluctantly did it but it was not like it used to be